What the fuck, bitch?!

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I made a post earlier this week entitled "When I Become A Parent" this is bascially an extension of that. My sister, fucked up and left here two youngest, ages 4 and 1 in the house by themselves however, when they were taken away, the house was found to be in deplorable condition. Apparently my sister was arrested, today and since she has 5 kids ages 8, 7, 6, 4 and 1, The three oldest will be staying with us while their mom is in jail. (The two younger will be staying with my half sister's mother) That means my family of 4 just expanded to a family of 7. What do I do?

[Broken Toy]

just make them feel as welcome as possible. dont act like its a bad thing and dont sugar coat things. let them know in easy terms whats happening and just be generally nice so they settle.

[Ben_Frost]

Act normal and be yourself, and don't treat them badly. Just treat them the way you'd like them to treat you. It's not their fault their mother is in jail, if there are any bad feelings you have about this you shouldn't take them out on them.

[Celtics]

Its not their fault this happened, treat them like how your sister should of. Be nice and be yourself, be a good role model.

[Dalcourt]

it's not really their fault so just act normal around them as the others said. treat them as members of your family...it's hard enough for them anyway

[Body odah Man]

This is a tough situation for you huh? Good luck man. Can you support them financially? Cuz if not may God stand you by

[Cognizant]

Hey, they didn't ask to have their mom be arrested, now did they? Now would be a good time to act like family to them and try to make them feel more comfortable, because I can assure you that the situation isn't fun for them either....

[JimmyP]

Wow, man, that blows. For you, but especially for them. Remember that no matter how difficult this is on you, it's even worse on them. Practice empathy and try to see this from their perspective, especially given how young they are. Treat the way family should be treated. Show them the kind of life they deserve to have. Because it sure sounds like your sister is incapable of doing so.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

just make them feel as welcome as possible. dont act like its a bad thing and dont sugar coat things. let them know in easy terms whats happening and just be generally nice so they settle.

Act normal and be yourself, and don't treat them badly. Just treat them the way you'd like them to treat you. It's not their fault their mother is in jail, if there are any bad feelings you have about this you shouldn't take them out on them.

Its not their fault this happened, treat them like how your sister should of. Be nice and be yourself, be a good role model.

it's not really their fault so just act normal around them as the others said. treat them as members of your family...it's hard enough for them anyway

This is a tough situation for you huh? Good luck man. Can you support them financially? Cuz if not may God stand you by

Hey, they didn't ask to have their mom be arrested, now did they? Now would be a good time to act like family to them and try to make them feel more comfortable, because I can assure you that the situation isn't fun for them either....

Wow, man, that blows. For you, but especially for them. Remember that no matter how difficult this is on you, it's even worse on them. Practice empathy and try to see this from their perspective, especially given how young they are. Treat the way family should be treated. Show them the kind of life they deserve to have. Because it sure sounds like your sister is incapable of doing so.

It's not that I don't love them and that I'd take my anger out on them, because honestly, I love them as if they were my children, my real problem is, should I explain to them what's going on.? How do you even tell 8, 7 and 6 year olds that their mom is incarcerated

[Karkat]

It's not that I don't love them and that I'd take my anger out on them, because honestly, I love them as if they were my children, my real problem is, should I explain to them what's going on.? How do you even tell 8, 7 and 6 year olds that their mom is incarcerated

Honestly, I personally would've understood that at that age- not that anyone would've told me. And it's probably not your place to decide what they know anyways.

You might talk to your parents, so everyone is on the same page.

[Broken Toy]

It's not that I don't love them and that I'd take my anger out on them, because honestly, I love them as if they were my children, my real problem is, should I explain to them what's going on.? How do you even tell 8, 7 and 6 year olds that their mom is incarcerated

i knew what you were getting at, which is why i said dont sugar coat things, tell them whats happened in easy terms. just explain that their mom made a mistake/bad thing and had to go away for a while, or you could just tell the 8 year old depending on his understanding

[Dalcourt]

It's not that I don't love them and that I'd take my anger out on them, because honestly, I love them as if they were my children, my real problem is, should I explain to them what's going on.? How do you even tell 8, 7 and 6 year olds that their mom is incarcerated

Hm, at that age they should understand. I wasn't even six when my Dad went to prison for two and a half years...he and my grandma just told me straightforward and I guess I understood. So should be better to be honest with them and explain the facts than think of something else.

[CosmicNoodle]

just make them feel as welcome as possible. dont act like its a bad thing and dont sugar coat things. let them know in easy terms whats happening and just be generally nice so they settle.

This, word for word.

[deregisterme]

It's good that you care for your cousins. You might want to be proactive in asking your parents what to say, or ask them to explain, before the question is asked of you, or refer them on if they do ask.

[Babs]

st be supportive and loving. There's not much you can do except be there for them.

[FairPlay137]

I know this might sound difficult, but try to stay calm in a situation like that. Try to be as normal as you can.