Why does my crush act outgoing around all other guys and acts quiet around me?

[clueless_one]

My crush is extremely outgoing to all other guys always starting conversations and asking questions, driving one guy home every weekend (after a group event I go to) even though he annoys her, touching other guys on their face, kicking them playfully, etc. At the beginning of the year, she acted the same way towards me as she does to all other guys. Suddenly she stopped, the thing is I don't know why. I didn't say anything wrong, or do anything to annoy her. But she stopped.

I asked her if she was able to drive me to a group event - she said no, she never starts conversations with me or ask questions to me (rarely asks me questions, once asking if I had eaten something) or touch me in anyway (or at a minimal amount/very discrete touching like when passing things to each other).

Though she acts outgoing around other guys and quiet around me, she shows what seem to be signs of her being interested in me. Looking at me from the corner of her eye and from a distance (when I catch her looking at me from a distance, she usually looks away), her torso is angled towards me, her feet are stretched out towards me, she seems fine to be close to me (though doesn't touch me other than my hand when passing things to each other, she also bumps into me or brushes past me), I am the only one who starts conversations with her she replies quickly or stalls the answer (by stalls I mean goes umm, then answers when she actually knows the answer) and she seems to smile whenever I laugh at something else and look at her or smile and look at her (she usually looks away, down or hides her face when smiling at me). Her good friend also acts a little weird to me (her friend was glancing at my crush and to me while talking to her, her friend said my name when saying hi even though I didn't introduce myself to her friend, both my crush and her good friend were looking at me smiling while I walked passed them). I also placed my hand on the middle area of my crushes back, she looked over her shoulder, saw me, looked down and smiled.

By the way, I overheard her tell a good girl friend of hers that she is shy.

So, why is my crush talkative and outgoing to other guys and acts quiet around me? She acts outgoing to other guys even when I'm around her which confuses me. Hope you can help.

[Ben_Frost]

Some people just act different around other people their like for fear they may not be liked, or because there is something they think won't be liked. She probably feels more confident with other guys because they're not in their interest and feels she can fool around more with them instead of being her true self. Maybe she's actually shy and is her real self when she's with you, maybe she's afraid you won't like her and label her as a "crazy girl" if she keeps being that way with you.

I suggest you confront her and ask her why she's acting different with you, be honest and ask her straight. But be prepared for any answer she may say, and be ready to answer if she asks you back.

[clueless_one]

Some people just act different around other people their like for fear they may not be liked, or because there is something they think won't be liked. She probably feels more confident with other guys because they're not in their interest and feels she can fool around more with them instead of being her true self. Maybe she's actually shy and is her real self when she's with you, maybe she's afraid you won't like her and label her as a "crazy girl" if she keeps being that way with you.

I suggest you confront her and ask her why she's acting different with you, be honest and ask her straight. But be prepared for any answer she may say, and be ready to answer if she asks you back.

I don't think its right for me to ask her WHY SHE IS ACTING DIFFERENT. That question is awkward and just weird.

[Gumleaf]

Some people just act different around other people their like for fear they may not be liked, or because there is something they think won't be liked. She probably feels more confident with other guys because they're not in their interest and feels she can fool around more with them instead of being her true self. Maybe she's actually shy and is her real self when she's with you, maybe she's afraid you won't like her and label her as a "crazy girl" if she keeps being that way with you.




It could be any of the reasons mentioned here. I would take the fact she treats you differently, in what appears to be a good way, as something positive. Try not to overthink it and continue treating her the same way you always have. Sometimes people change or go through different thoughts and stages of life. If you continue to be yourself, you put yourself in the best position possible to be a future boyfriend.

[clueless_one]

It could be any of the reasons mentioned here. I would take the fact she treats you differently, in what appears to be a good way, as something positive. Try not to overthink it and continue treating her the same way you always have. Sometimes people change or go through different thoughts and stages of life. If you continue to be yourself, you put yourself in the best position possible to be a future boyfriend.

I used to only act different around the girls I like. Previously I was shy, only looked at the girls I liked from far and hardly spoke to them. This is what this girl seems to be doing to me. Acting the same way.

I know about acting the same way I've always been, I will always be the person I am and act the way I've always acted.

[Croconaw]

It doesn't mean anything. She might just be shy around you because she likes you.

[clueless_one]

It doesn't mean anything. She might just be shy around you because she likes you.

How can it mean nothing if it what she is doing means she likes me but is shy. Her actions still mean something.

[indoxyl]

she probably likes you. or you could be looking way too far into these signs and they mean absolutely nothing.

[Gumleaf]

I have to say that you're really over thinking this. If you keep being paranoid about it, it's going to start showing with her and that's likely to be a turn off. People will often behave differently around different people for a variety of reasons. That's what makes us all unique and stuff. If I were you I would try and stop worrying about this so much.