"When I Become a Parent"

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Warning: This post is basically me blowing off a shitload of steam so don't stick your face into the flames, do not wear flammable materials and keep all various appendages inside the ride at all times.

So my 28 year old dumbass half-sister has sent a shock wave through the family yet again as, while she went to go deliver something to her deadbeat boyfriend/sextoy DFACS came by her house, found that her two youngest children, age 1 and age 4, were left ALONE in a house that was in "deplorable condition"
They were promptly taken away.

In the whole shitstorm, I asked my mom:Why does Dad put up with this bullshit?
and she promptly replied:
You'll go though the same thing when you're a parent. :ohmy:

First of all, who says I'll ever become a parent. I'm gay, meaning that even if I forget to wear a jimmy hat, there is absolutely 0.0% chance of unintended pregnancy. I could theoretically adopt a child or become a parent through in vitro fertilization, or straighten up (haha, puns) and face the mystery of the female anatomy, but who says I would ever do that. I enjoy children, but I don't want to raise them.
Then, what's surprising is, my mom begins acting as if, there are only two options in life: be in a relationship with children or be a hermit.

Sometimes i just don't know :no:.

[Ben_Frost]

Oh I just hate it when people assume everyone has written on the top of their "To do list": Have children. It's so annoying everyone just assumes you want to bone and get children, even if you're gay!

I've been volunteering in a Pediatry ward doing night shifts, and the only children I've liked aren't mine, are quiet, and are asleep. Never wanting children, never will. If I ever adopt I'm thinking about just tutoring an older kid or teenager or better yet not even taking care of any kid.

Not being a parent is the most awesome choice I'll ever make.

[Croconaw]

I hate how everyone thinks it's just a phase. (asexuality or gay)

[ChrisTJ]

Yeah there can be a crazy amount of pressure to be a parent these days. My cousin is straight but doesn't want kids and she gets hell for it by people telling her "women are meant to have kids" or "every woman wants a baby!"

[RazorTourniquet]

I know that feeling, sister... I am absoultely sure that I will not bear any children and if I ever adopt I will make sure there is someone who will give them enough attention because I'm planning to travel away my life. I'm bi but sexuality has nothing to do with your descision not to have kids. I think that an unborn child is better than a miserable child. As for your story, I am sorry. Things will get better, I read that the children are moving in with you. Treat them with respect, if not nicely. They are too going through a shitstorm.

[James Dean]

Take that statement with a grain of salt. It was basically just something in the spur of the moment to make it seem like that event was something that many people go through. I see your point though, and I totally agree it's bullshit to say something like that. Like are you a psychic, you can predict the future now? lol.

[JamesSuperBoy]

agreed - but your Mom and family had other things going on - yeah sorry to break the news but your sexuality might not be the focus.

[Body odah Man]

Warning: This post is basically me blowing off a shitload of steam so don't stick your face into the flames, do not wear flammable materials and keep all various appendages inside the ride at all times.

So my 28 year old dumbass half-sister has sent a shock wave through the family yet again as, while she went to go deliver something to her deadbeat boyfriend/sextoy DFACS came by her house, found that her two youngest children, age 1 and age 4, were left ALONE in a house that was in
They were promptly taken away.

In the whole shitstorm, I asked my mom:
and she promptly replied:


First of all, who says I'll ever become a parent. I'm gay, meaning that even if I forget to wear a jimmy hat, there is absolutely 0.0% chance of unintended pregnancy. I could theoretically adopt a child or become a parent through in vitro fertilization, or straighten up (haha, puns) and face the mystery of the female anatomy, but who says I would ever do that. I enjoy children, but I don't want to raise them.
Then, what's surprising is, my mom begins acting as if, there are only two options in life: be in a relationship with children or be a hermit.

Sometimes i just don't know :no:.

WOW. First of all-poor children! Who leaves their kids alone when they're younger than 7?? Secondly, your parents should not be assuming you have the exact same desires,aspirations, motivations as they do. That's just rude and offensive.

[Sasha M]

I'm with everyone whose not going to have children. Of course some people will be all: "You will change your mind when you get older." The payoff for having children almost never outweighs the price. I'm not just talking about the PRICE price, but also the time, effort, responsibility, bordem, stress, and all that other shit. I will be a cool uncle sure, but kids of my own? Yeah, no. :yeah:

[Stronk Serb]

will be a cool uncle sure, but kids of my own? Yeah, no. :yeah:

My thoughts. I'll be that cool uncle my nephews will love to spend time with. If I do have children, I'd try to raise them to the best of my abilities.

[CosmicNoodle]

"Straighten up", that made me laugh so hard :P

I don't want my own kinds, my genes are tooo fucked up, IF I ever have kids, they'll be addopted.