Worst pain I've ever felt in my life.

[Paladino]

So last weekend my girlfriend of a year n a half split up with me .. I thought a week on it wouldn't be as hard but it feels even harder. I have been in a long term relationship once before this and it didn't hurt at all when it ended, mainly I think because it ended naturally and on good terms and we remained friends. I had the odd occasion where I thought of her and got sad of course but I only felt it for a few seconds and then I was fine again.

We split up basically because of our faults. We both had been drinking and arguing all weekend, then this girl tells my girlfriend that I had been trying to get her to come into the toilet with me when my girlfriend wasn't there, which IS A LIE! So my girlfriend comes at me all guns blazing screaming and shouting, she then gets me on the floor and is on top of me shouting at me and hitting me. Now this is the bit that makes me look like the bad bastard everyone is making me out to be. I kicked her back to get her off of me, self defence right? She falls over, breaks her pinky and fractures her hand or some shit and has to go for operations etc. I feel very bad that she had to fall and hurt herself in that way, but like I said above, it was either get her off me, or get badly hurt myself. I would never in any way what so ever harm her or any girl intentionally!

So that is when everything becomes sour and we end on bad terms. I have accepted the fact we are never getting back together but what I can't accept is why, even though she hurt herself badly(i feel guilty as fuck for this) I get made out to be worse than I actually am. She hates me, despises me, wishes I was dead and I've also had her dad tell me that he is going to break my hands and that he is not the only one that's going to, so there's that to worry about as well.

I want to move on fast and get her out of my mind but I love her way too much and feel like I will never be able to get over it, I feel completely lost. It hurts so much and there is nothing I can do apart from sit on my own and feel miserable for an extended period of time. Anyone who has been in a long term relationship like mines was understands how I feel right now and I am sure many of you have felt this/will feel this at some point in life. Hell like the song 'Only love can hurt like this' says it all am I right?!!!

So this horrible feeling is going to consume my soul for god knows how long and it feels like it will be forever, I also feel like she doesn't even care that we are over and only cares about her hand. I can understand her anger but people have to believe that I did NOT do that on purpose. Even her own brother knows this.

How long am I going to feel like this? I miss her and just want to hold her and cuddle her and I am NEVER going to be able to do that again. I can't imagine it feeling as right and as good with anyone else :( :( :(

sorry if its too long but I had to get it off my chest and writing this has made me feel 1% better, every little counts!

[Seafood]

So last weekend my girlfriend of a year n a half split up with me .. I thought a week on it wouldn't be as hard but it feels even harder. I have been in a long term relationship once before this and it didn't hurt at all when it ended, mainly I think because it ended naturally and on good terms and we remained friends. I had the odd occasion where I thought of her and got sad of course but I only felt it for a few seconds and then I was fine again.

We split up basically because of our faults. We both had been drinking and arguing all weekend, then this girl tells my girlfriend that I had been trying to get her to come into the toilet with me when my girlfriend wasn't there, which IS A LIE! So my girlfriend comes at me all guns blazing screaming and shouting, she then gets me on the floor and is on top of me shouting at me and hitting me. Now this is the bit that makes me look like the bad bastard everyone is making me out to be. I kicked her back to get her off of me, self defence right? She falls over, breaks her pinky and fractures her hand or some shit and has to go for operations etc. I feel very bad that she had to fall and hurt herself in that way, but like I said above, it was either get her off me, or get badly hurt myself. I would never in any way what so ever harm her or any girl intentionally!

So that is when everything becomes sour and we end on bad terms. I have accepted the fact we are never getting back together but what I can't accept is why, even though she hurt herself badly(i feel guilty as fuck for this) I get made out to be worse than I actually am. She hates me, despises me, wishes I was dead and I've also had her dad tell me that he is going to break my hands and that he is not the only one that's going to, so there's that to worry about as well.

I want to move on fast and get her out of my mind but I love her way too much and feel like I will never be able to get over it, I feel completely lost. It hurts so much and there is nothing I can do apart from sit on my own and feel miserable for an extended period of time. Anyone who has been in a long term relationship like mines was understands how I feel right now and I am sure many of you have felt this/will feel this at some point in life. Hell like the song 'Only love can hurt like this' says it all am I right?!!!

So this horrible feeling is going to consume my soul for god knows how long and it feels like it will be forever, I also feel like she doesn't even care that we are over and only cares about her hand. I can understand her anger but people have to believe that I did NOT do that on purpose. Even her own brother knows this.

How long am I going to feel like this? I miss her and just want to hold her and cuddle her and I am NEVER going to be able to do that again. I can't imagine it feeling as right and as good with anyone else :( :( :(

sorry if its too long but I had to get it off my chest and writing this has made me feel 1% better, every little counts!

She sounds like a bitch, if that's the right way to put it. Think of it this way, would you rather have someone who will have a rage and beat you up over a lie created by her friend, or be single?

Try to distract yourself as well, like work, study, gaming, internet, sleeping. It'll get better soon. Don't worry too much.

[Ben_Frost]

She sounds like a bitch, if that's the right way to put it. Think of it this way, would you rather have someone who will have a rage and beat you up over a lie created by her friend, or be single?

Try to distract yourself as well, like work, study, gaming, internet, sleeping. It'll get better soon. Don't worry too much.

I'm sorry to say he's right, she's probably not worth the trouble if she's going to believe lies from her friend than from you. Too bad things had to end like this but really you should forget her and move on, if you ever get back it'll just be a matter of time until she hears another lie and then kills you or badly hurts you.

[Rallo]

Holyfuck..
Straight up honesty here, she sounds like a complete bitch.

I sadly know exactly how this feels though, my ex and I ended on similar terms. Someone told her a few lies, she believed them and went off at me. She didn't even allow us to discuss it face-to-face, rather she called me, went off at me and hung up before I even had a chance to explain things.
Long story short, I started drinking, called her back 3hours later and she answered (after many attempts where she didn't answer), abused her about ignoring me then she hung up. Called her back again, asked nicely if I could please explain the situation and what had actually happened (I hadn't done anything wrong, I knew who said I had though), she told me I'm an asshole and it's over.
I got quite annoyed at this point, plus was quite intoxicated so said something along the lines of "I just want to F'in explain myself, what the F is wrong with you?", it all kicked off after that, was a good 5-10 minutes of back and fourth hurtful comments.. It ended when I made an extremely rude comment about something personal to her, something she's quite insecure about (won't go into details out of respect for her), she said "I fucking hate you." and ended the call after this and yeah.

Got a message from her brother about 2hours later asking what I had done and why his sister was sitting on the floor crying... I briefly explained the situation and stated how sorry I was and asked if I could talk to her for a bit to say sorry to her too. He said "you're never fucking talking to her again after this".
I sent an essay-length (legit ~1500 words) to her mother explaining what (in great detail) i had said and how sorry I was for it all. Stated it was a once off and would never happen again, etc. Her mother saw it and some-what understood, though still thought I was a bit of an asshole.

Anyway, next day I see on twitter/fb/everywhere she had put a quote of what I had said to her while drunk and annoyed.. It resulted in all her friends, family, everyone she knew almost thinking I'm an asshole.

That was almost 3months ago now, only really spoken to her one or twice since then.
Was a good month and a half after it happened that I spent trying to find a way to make it up to her, that was a bit hard when her parents, her brother and all her friends thought I was a complete asshole after what had happened; Hardly ever got a chance to talk to her.


tl;dr:
Know how you feel.
My ex and I ended after 16months, her friends+family (and some-what her) think I'm a complete asshole from one thing I said while drunk/annoyed and something someone told her which wasn't even true, that I never got a chance to explain.
For me personally, it took about 1-2 months to get over it all. As mean as it sounds, I found it helped to blame her for it; I'd think things like "It's her fault for not trusting me, she's the one who believed that idiot", etc. I mean, let's be honest here, who the hell would want to date someone who can't trust them anyway?

[Seafood]

Holyfuck..
Straight up honesty here, she sounds like a complete bitch.

I sadly know exactly how this feels though, my ex and I ended on similar terms. Someone told her a few lies, she believed them and went off at me. She didn't even allow us to discuss it face-to-face, rather she called me, went off at me and hung up before I even had a chance to explain things.
Long story short, I started drinking, called her back 3hours later and she answered (after many attempts where she didn't answer), abused her about ignoring me then she hung up. Called her back again, asked nicely if I could please explain the situation and what had actually happened (I hadn't done anything wrong, I knew who said I had though), she told me I'm an asshole and it's over.
I got quite annoyed at this point, plus was quite intoxicated so said something along the lines of "I just want to F'in explain myself, what the F is wrong with you?", it all kicked off after that, was a good 5-10 minutes of back and fourth hurtful comments.. It ended when I made an extremely rude comment about something personal to her, something she's quite insecure about (won't go into details out of respect for her), she said "I fucking hate you." and ended the call after this and yeah.

Got a message from her brother about 2hours later asking what I had done and why his sister was sitting on the floor crying... I briefly explained the situation and stated how sorry I was and asked if I could talk to her for a bit to say sorry to her too. He said "you're never fucking talking to her again after this".
I sent an essay-length (legit ~1500 words) to her mother explaining what (in great detail) i had said and how sorry I was for it all. Stated it was a once off and would never happen again, etc. Her mother saw it and some-what understood, though still thought I was a bit of an asshole.

Anyway, next day I see on twitter/fb/everywhere she had put a quote of what I had said to her while drunk and annoyed.. It resulted in all her friends, family, everyone she knew almost thinking I'm an asshole.

That was almost 3months ago now, only really spoken to her one or twice since then.
Was a good month and a half after it happened that I spent trying to find a way to make it up to her, that was a bit hard when her parents, her brother and all her friends thought I was a complete asshole after what had happened; Hardly ever got a chance to talk to her.


tl;dr:
Know how you feel.
My ex and I ended after 16months, her friends+family (and some-what her) think I'm a complete asshole from one thing I said while drunk/annoyed and something someone told her which wasn't even true, that I never got a chance to explain.
For me personally, it took about 1-2 months to get over it all. As mean as it sounds, I found it helped to blame her for it; I'd think things like "It's her fault for not trusting me, she's the one who believed that idiot", etc. I mean, let's be honest here, who the hell would want to date someone who can't trust them anyway?

That sounds horrible. I feel for you man.

And that shit you said at the end is so true.

[Paladino]

It wasn't even her friend that made up the lies guys .. it was some girl she had only known for like an hour!! That's what makes it worse, the fact she didn't trust me that much that she believed a lie from some bitch she doesn't even know, I messaged the girl on facebook saying why did you have to tell her all them lies when they weren't even true and she didn't even answer. FUCKING BITCH! Onwards and Upwards eh?! and sorry to hear yours Rallo, we both have them feels.

[Rallo]

It wasn't even her friend that made up the lies guys .. it was some girl she had only known for like an hour!! That's what makes it worse, the fact she didn't trust me that much that she believed a lie from some bitch she doesn't even know, I messaged the girl on facebook saying why did you have to tell her all them lies when they weren't even true and she didn't even answer. FUCKING BITCH! Onwards and Upwards eh?! and sorry to hear yours Rallo, we both have them feels.

Yep, it sucked.
Honestly though, as soon as I started looking at things a brighter way I felt a lot better. Way I see it now, I wouldn't even want her anyway, no matter how it ended.. I never want to date a girl who believes someone they hardly know over me. Found myself a girl who treats me a bit nicer now, she has a damn lot of trust for me. Few people have tried to cause shit, she either asks me about it and lets me explain or simply ignores them completely. :yeah:

[Paladino]

All the best with the new girl, I'll hopefully be there soon lol.

[cvijetak]

i'm so sorry for your lost...