Ragnarok
September 13th, 2014, 08:51 AM
This is a phenomenon that I have noticed on a lot of occasions.
My first clear memory of this happening more than once over a short time was 6 years ago, when I was 13 years old and on a school trip with a lot of other students.
I saw a cute girl in one of the school buses and looked her curiously in her eyes, then she looked back and I held her gaze for some time, and about 15 minutes later she stood behind me in a line with several of her friends and they were all like "hiii hottie" and acted very giggly, and I would be with them for some time that day.
The a couple days later, at a school disco, I watched some hot girl on the dance floor and flirted with her, and I think she smiled at me right before I left, and she also approached me with two of her friends shortly after that, and they wanted to know my name and took me back to their room, and I chatted with them for a while and got their numbers and whatnot.
And I have noticed the same thing happening after that as well - if I make eye contact with a girl, then she will usually seem flattered by it, act shy, or simply smile and make a cute short laugh for herself - at least if she is the friendly type.
And if I keep eye contact and seem friendly to female cashiers at supermarkets they will very often seem flattered and act shy and stuff.
I also got one of those cashiers interested in me once, and she told me on Facebook that she thought I was "really cute", and I ended up having a relationship with her for a few months.
But it feels like she only did that because I had slightly flirted with her a little bit on a few occasions.
Basically, it seems like if I show them that I find them attractive, they suddenly notice me a whole heck of a lot more than they did previously.
If I just do my ordinary things then girls don't seem to care very much about me at all or barely even notice me (which sucks, since I am extremely bad at approaching girls myself, so there's not much happening at all, and I very rarely visit parties either), and sometimes even seem stiff and on their guard around me (for some reason it's usually only guys who try to learn to know me when I am a new student at some new school or whatever - girls usually never make those efforts), but if I show them some signs of mild interest then they often completely change, and I become super-attractive to them all of a sudden.
What gives?
I find these signals very contradictory, first the girls don't care about me or even try to learn to know me, but if I flirt with them they often suddenly become really interested, and think I am "really pretty". :confused:
My first clear memory of this happening more than once over a short time was 6 years ago, when I was 13 years old and on a school trip with a lot of other students.
I saw a cute girl in one of the school buses and looked her curiously in her eyes, then she looked back and I held her gaze for some time, and about 15 minutes later she stood behind me in a line with several of her friends and they were all like "hiii hottie" and acted very giggly, and I would be with them for some time that day.
The a couple days later, at a school disco, I watched some hot girl on the dance floor and flirted with her, and I think she smiled at me right before I left, and she also approached me with two of her friends shortly after that, and they wanted to know my name and took me back to their room, and I chatted with them for a while and got their numbers and whatnot.
And I have noticed the same thing happening after that as well - if I make eye contact with a girl, then she will usually seem flattered by it, act shy, or simply smile and make a cute short laugh for herself - at least if she is the friendly type.
And if I keep eye contact and seem friendly to female cashiers at supermarkets they will very often seem flattered and act shy and stuff.
I also got one of those cashiers interested in me once, and she told me on Facebook that she thought I was "really cute", and I ended up having a relationship with her for a few months.
But it feels like she only did that because I had slightly flirted with her a little bit on a few occasions.
Basically, it seems like if I show them that I find them attractive, they suddenly notice me a whole heck of a lot more than they did previously.
If I just do my ordinary things then girls don't seem to care very much about me at all or barely even notice me (which sucks, since I am extremely bad at approaching girls myself, so there's not much happening at all, and I very rarely visit parties either), and sometimes even seem stiff and on their guard around me (for some reason it's usually only guys who try to learn to know me when I am a new student at some new school or whatever - girls usually never make those efforts), but if I show them some signs of mild interest then they often completely change, and I become super-attractive to them all of a sudden.
What gives?
I find these signals very contradictory, first the girls don't care about me or even try to learn to know me, but if I flirt with them they often suddenly become really interested, and think I am "really pretty". :confused: