"Best Friend" Gone

[Celtics]

We used to be neighbors and that's when are "friendship" started. After a couple years they moved and so we talked less and hanged out less often. I thought we were still close, but I was totally wrong. Then probably another 2 years past and we never talk/text. If we do text I text first always, and I don't know what I did wrong. He was the only person I ever trusted with anything. If I don't text him he will never talk to me again. I'm 99% sure he just used me for my xbox, as sad as that sounds. I would've given up pretty much everything for him, but now he's gone. I'm alone, with no friends in a school I can't stand. Don't even go to lunch, since I have no friends anymore. Every single "friend" I had is gone, I don't know what I did wrong. Everybody says I'm one of the nicest people they've ever met, why do the good people always get the worst...... Every night suicide is screaming at me, just thinking maybe they will notice me again if I do it.... Then I realize how much I've done wrong and think never mind, I'm going to hell.... If there even is a God, out there.......

[Ben_Frost]

You're just overreacting about this, I've been where you are now. It really hurts when people treat you that way, when they just use you and then the friendship is over... if there ever was one to begin with. Don't rush to end your life, it's not worth killing yourself over this kind of trashy people. You still have more to live and more people to know who will value you the way you should, you probably can't see it now, but it's not something that will happen overnight. It may be hard to live like this, but I managed to survive for 5 years like this, you can do it I'm sure of it. Be patient, forget about that kid who was your "friend" and open yourself for new ones that are on the way, maybe it won't be tomorrow, next week or the next months, but you can't remain gloomy and depressed because of this for long. Nobody else is going to help you get up and move on if you don't do it for yourself first. Stan up for yourself, love yourself and move on to this, waiting for the next person who might show up in your life and be ready to think well if it will be the friendship you'd like to have or if he or she is going to use you again, it's hard but you get to learn to analyze people this way before lending them entry in your life. I hope you manage to get better and maybe follow the advice I'm giving you.

[Giando]

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I can understand you, about 7 months ago I moved to another town which is 10 km far from my mother town, naturally I started to see and hang out with my friends less often, and I disliked (and I dislike) my actual town, I was very depressed, I used to feel alone, but I have passed that gradually and I can tell you that there are some (maybe long) moments where we have to be strong. What I wanna tell you is this, hold on, after rain there is the sun, I lost a lot of friends but I've also found the good ones, and don't think about suicide not even remotely! I don't wanna say life is beautiful and bullshits like that, but everyone has good and bad moments in own life, outside there is good people who maybe is in the same situation like you, you'll find good friends, but you have to be more strong and looking for. :)

[Celtics]

You're just overreacting about this, I've been where you are now. It really hurts when people treat you that way, when they just use you and then the friendship is over... if there ever was one to begin with. Don't rush to end your life, it's not worth killing yourself over this kind of trashy people. You still have more to live and more people to know who will value you the way you should, you probably can't see it now, but it's not something that will happen overnight. It may be hard to live like this, but I managed to survive for 5 years like this, you can do it I'm sure of it. Be patient, forget about that kid who was your "friend" and open yourself for new ones that are on the way, maybe it won't be tomorrow, next week or the next months, but you can't remain gloomy and depressed because of this for long. Nobody else is going to help you get up and move on if you don't do it for yourself first. Stan up for yourself, love yourself and move on to this, waiting for the next person who might show up in your life and be ready to think well if it will be the friendship you'd like to have or if he or she is going to use you again, it's hard but you get to learn to analyze people this way before lending them entry in your life. I hope you manage to get better and maybe follow the advice I'm giving you.

I'm not overreacting, this is not the only problem in my life. I literally can not wait until a die and go were I deserve.

[Ben_Frost]

I'm not overreacting, this is not the only problem in my life. I literally can not wait until a die and go were I deserve.

You are overreacting. You didn't read the entirety of my post and just jumped to reply once you read "overreacting". Really are you looking for help or just attention from other people to feed your ego?

Most people who announce they're going to commit suicide don't actually commit it. Seriously, get over this, there is more to live than to give up in your teenage years. You're not a special snowflake to just cry whenever you lose a so called friend, he doesn't even seem like a true kind of friend if he's leaving you like that to deserve you getting all depressed and suicidal over him.

And if you're so eager to die, then perhaps you shouldn't be posting about it looking for help or attention from someone else, it's disrespectful when you do so and don't even consider following the advice anyone is giving you. If the users from this forum are even taking a bit of their time to read what you have posted, it's obvious that we all care about you going to kill yourself over some kid that stopped texting you, stop overreacting about this, stop with that attitude of not valuing yourself and consider what may lie ahead for you.

In VT, we care about you, we don't want you to go and kill yourself over something like this.

[Magenta]

Guys, everyone gets depressed and triggered by different things. It may seem insignificant to you but it can mean the world to someone else. So yeah, maybe this friend wasn't that great if he just left but everyone gets upset about losing friends and some people "overreact". To them, it's not overreacting, it's their emotional response. So let's not judge each other and assume we know what's worth getting depressed over or not.

Anyway, friends are fickle when you're a teenager. You are going to lose them. Believe me, I know. Been there, done that, got the ugly tshirt. People are figuring themselves out and people change and move on and it's just a fact of life. But one friend is not worth killing yourself over. You're going to make new friends and maybe they'll leave too. It happens. I talk to almost no one I went to high school with now. It's not a big deal. It may seem like it at the time but you're going to move on too and realise it had nothing to do with you.

Part of the problem too is once you convince yourself you have no friends and no one wants to be friends with you, people don't. A negative attitude does drive people away. I'm not saying this to be mean or saying that there's something wrong with you, I'm just saying that people do notice these things. And it's important to be aware of how you're reacting to situations and how you handle them. That's when you can move onto trying to make friends with new people. Be aware of yourself and those around you and you'll have a much easier time when it comes to people.

[Luminous]

This thread is not for arguing, it's for helping. If this continues, there will be more severe consequences.

[Ben_Frost]

I'm not overreacting, this is not the only problem in my life. I literally can not wait until a die and go were I deserve.

What I'm trying to say is that you may feel sensitive about this because he was the only friend you knew. I'm really trying to help you out here, I was in the same situation years ago, I'm not just assuming things, I know what it feels to be rejected by the only friend you once had. It's painful and you think there's no way out ,but what I'm trying to tell you is that nobody's worth you losing your life.

You still have more to live, and my point is, you're losing someone now, but it's so you can learn to enjoy being with someone else who is on the way to being your friend, so you can learn how to enjoy the company from someone else, and learn how to cope with rejection. I know you may take medication and that's why it's important you learn to cope with these things. Otherwise you just won't get better at life.

Do your best to get over this and move on, all of us in VT don't want anyone committing suicide, there is a way out and there is a better future waiting. Don't kill yourself, you're still here with us and you can find someone else who will truly appreciate you for who you are. Trust me, I've been there where you are now.