How to get over a straight girl?

[RazorTourniquet]

Hello everyone!

I am not sure if I should place this thread here but I am hopeless. I am a girl in love with her friend who has known her for two years. And guess what. She has a boyfriend. Not sure if she is straight but anyway...
We used to act like we were lovers. All of the dirty jokes, holding hands, hugging way to often and being just so damn close. A several moths ago her boyfriend caught us making out. We were both drunk, so we hid behind the club and did it. he popped out of nowhere and the moment he saw us he broke down. He was flipping angry, he called her names, pushed her, almost hit her, we couldn't calm him down. Since then she is being cold as ice towards me. She hardly ever hugs me goodbye. And even when she does... It's not the same. I feel bad for almost ruining their relationship but I couldn't hold myself back. I fixed the deed I done and apologized both to him and her. I just want to see her happy. Now when we go back to school I will have to sit next to her and this is just driving me crazy. I can't even look at her.
Yet I can't get her out of my mind. Even drugs don't help anymore. What should I do?

[Jay bay]

I've been there Hun but drugs aren't the answer

[CrazyPerson101]

Hello everyone!

I am not sure if I should place this thread here but I am hopeless. I am a girl in love with her friend who has known her for two years. And guess what. She has a boyfriend. Not sure if she is straight but anyway...
We used to act like we were lovers. All of the dirty jokes, holding hands, hugging way to often and being just so damn close. A several moths ago her boyfriend caught us making out. We were both drunk, so we hid behind the club and did it. he popped out of nowhere and the moment he saw us he broke down. He was flipping angry, he called her names, pushed her, almost hit her, we couldn't calm him down. Since then she is being cold as ice towards me. She hardly ever hugs me goodbye. And even when she does... It's not the same. I feel bad for almost ruining their relationship but I couldn't hold myself back. I fixed the deed I done and apologized both to him and her. I just want to see her happy. Now when we go back to school I will have to sit next to her and this is just driving me crazy. I can't even look at her.
Yet I can't get her out of my mind. Even drugs don't help anymore. What should I do?


Hi, let me start off saying I'm sorry that happened, I had a friend named Dale and we where the same way. He was super straight and a country boy at heart and just was so nice but he treated me differently than all the other guys .... sorta like a girl but well not really.... Anyway I used to spend lotsa time with him, spent the night at his house like every 2 nights and we'd watch movies, I went fishing with him and I think its sooo boring but he made it fun. Anyway, I had to move one day and he wasn't all that happy about it. I tried going to his house one day to find out he had moved and I didn't know where. I was 12 ( he was 15 at the time ) and I still am not T totally over him but it takes time, eventually, that big fire will become a little flame but idk if it will ever go out, he was my first "love" that I cared about and really wanted to be with but it just didn't happen. I haven't seen him in 3 years so Its been hard. Anyway as I said before, It takes time, time heals just about anything, somethings longer than others but it eventually does & drugs aren't the answer, they don't work ( or so im told, I've never actually done any ). All they do is mess you up physically and emotionally. Time Heal's Things, You Just Gotta Wait.

Hope this helped.

[Fireangel]

Don´t worry, go for it and good luck babe. :)

[Luminous]

Teen Sexuality and Gender :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[CharlieHorse]

i think the best thing you can do now is try to be her friend again. She's probably not into you the way you might be into her because she had a boyfriend, but if you suspect she is bi, then you could try and ask if you want.

Let me say that I am impressed that you apologized about it. I know I would have an anxiety attack trying to do that. Good job :)

It is definitely possible to overcome difficulties in a relationship/friendship. If you try to be her friend, then things might go back to normal between you two. You could even tell her your feelings about what happened just like you said here, which might mean a lot to her.