Max97
September 11th, 2014, 04:04 PM
Hi guys,
I have recently been thinking a lot about and been feeling very depressed about having a lack of friends.
This is not the situation you probably think it is. I used to have a lot of close friends back up until grade 11, but they have been fading away quickly.
I recently (6 months or so ago) stopped going to parties on weekends, stopped drinking and stopped smoking weed. My intentions were purely good-I did not enjoy any of these activities very much anyway, and I wanted to reduce my stress (I pressure myself to achieve very high marks in school). I also got very into weightlifting at this time, and began to spend more and more of my time in the gym (sometimes with friends, most of the time without, as many of them stopped going after a month or two). Lastly, I rekindled my interest for tabletop-wargames, a passion I have had for years that I suppressed to fit in with people at my school, and which until recently was replaced by video games (which I also stopped playing).
Society deems these changes I have made to my life all extremely positive and self fulfilling, as they are all to better myself and let me enjoy activities I truly want to do...but they have left me without any close friends. My old friends still drink and party, and It seems there is no one who does the same things I do, or is interested in my hobbies as much as I am. This is making me very depressed and despite having such a bright future ahead of me (If I work hard enough, which I will, I could go to pretty much any university in the country as my parents can pay for my education) I have recently had suicidal thoughts and mental breakdowns. I have never cried any more than this in my life...and it seems like such a small issue that I have no close friends, but the isolation that I put on myself after changing my life "for the better" has caused me a lot of sadness and anger towards myself and others.
Does anyone have any advice for me?
I have recently been thinking a lot about and been feeling very depressed about having a lack of friends.
This is not the situation you probably think it is. I used to have a lot of close friends back up until grade 11, but they have been fading away quickly.
I recently (6 months or so ago) stopped going to parties on weekends, stopped drinking and stopped smoking weed. My intentions were purely good-I did not enjoy any of these activities very much anyway, and I wanted to reduce my stress (I pressure myself to achieve very high marks in school). I also got very into weightlifting at this time, and began to spend more and more of my time in the gym (sometimes with friends, most of the time without, as many of them stopped going after a month or two). Lastly, I rekindled my interest for tabletop-wargames, a passion I have had for years that I suppressed to fit in with people at my school, and which until recently was replaced by video games (which I also stopped playing).
Society deems these changes I have made to my life all extremely positive and self fulfilling, as they are all to better myself and let me enjoy activities I truly want to do...but they have left me without any close friends. My old friends still drink and party, and It seems there is no one who does the same things I do, or is interested in my hobbies as much as I am. This is making me very depressed and despite having such a bright future ahead of me (If I work hard enough, which I will, I could go to pretty much any university in the country as my parents can pay for my education) I have recently had suicidal thoughts and mental breakdowns. I have never cried any more than this in my life...and it seems like such a small issue that I have no close friends, but the isolation that I put on myself after changing my life "for the better" has caused me a lot of sadness and anger towards myself and others.
Does anyone have any advice for me?