Is it me or them?

[MrMister117]

So to shorten this long story, I have two friends who are older than me by a few years and Ive known them for about a year now. We got along fine, constantly laughing and just having a good time. They both have the xbox one and kept telling me to buy one to play with them. I knew I wanted one but was gonna wait to get it later then I did before their suggestion. So I got the system and bought a few games to play with them with wasn't cheap. Now they are too busy to play and when I try to play with them or explain why I constantly ask them to play (price/good times) they say that gaming isn't a big deal and to brush off when they don't play with me but the thing is they live far from me so I want a way to stay in touch, but they don't see it that way, one has gone the length of blocking me and the other ignores me at times. Who's right here? Am I valid in my feeling of anxiety and annoyance?:what::confused:

[Ben_Frost]

Perhaps they got bored of playing by now, you've known them for a year so you can't actually say they're your only friends. I'd recommend you look for new friends that would actually like to play with you and keep them as friends you'd turn to talk to and have fun in different ways than playin videogames.

[MrMister117]

Thank you Ben Frost!

[Second Chance]

That is so bizarre that your friends would push you into buying a Xbox only to bail on you when you had finally gotten one. To me, your friends are the ones who have the issue based upon the facts you have given, and I agree with the poster above that you probably should look for new friends especially since one friend has gone to the extreme of blocking you.

I would say that you should get to know people very well over a period of time (longer than one year) before putting money down on anything expensive be it a video game system, sports equipment, or anything else that involves money because you do not want to be in a position in which you purchase something only for your friends to be no where to be found. I do not blame you for purchasing the Xbox because at the time it made perfect sense, and your friends are really shady for having pushed you to buying the unit and video games only to disappear.

Besides the Xbox, were there any other warning signs from your friends that there were issues? Were your friends kind of cliquish and tolerated your presence as opposed to actually including you in their group? I wonder if the age difference between you and friends played a part in the problem.

Like the person above had said, your best bet is to find a better group of friends who you can connect to in different ways beyond video games so that you are not left holding the bag like you are with your current group of friends.

[MrMister117]

Thank you for responding! and I have since cut ties with the people that were treating me unfairly. I have made new friends since starting college, and although a few times were shaky I think things are gonna be okay. All one can do is hope.

[Body odah Man]

So to shorten this long story, I have two friends who are older than me by a few years and Ive known them for about a year now. We got along fine, constantly laughing and just having a good time. They both have the xbox one and kept telling me to buy one to play with them. I knew I wanted one but was gonna wait to get it later then I did before their suggestion. So I got the system and bought a few games to play with them with wasn't cheap. Now they are too busy to play and when I try to play with them or explain why I constantly ask them to play (price/good times) they say that gaming isn't a big deal and to brush off when they don't play with me but the thing is they live far from me so I want a way to stay in touch, but they don't see it that way, one has gone the length of blocking me and the other ignores me at times. Who's right here? Am I valid in my feeling of anxiety and annoyance?:what::confused:

sadly, people break apart. You can feel annoyed, but it's the way of the world sadly :(

[MrMister117]

Sometimes I feel like Im let down a lot, I often think I don't want to be let down ever again so I think dark things. But oddly I have a laugh and it all gets better, for a time.

[Karkat]

Cutting ties was probably a good option- anyone who is gonna run you through the mill like that is pretty unreasonable at best. Hopefully these new friends are better. :yes:

[JamesSuperBoy]

So to shorten this long story, I have two friends who are older than me by a few years and Ive known them for about a year now. We got along fine, constantly laughing and just having a good time. They both have the xbox one and kept telling me to buy one to play with them. I knew I wanted one but was gonna wait to get it later then I did before their suggestion. So I got the system and bought a few games to play with them with wasn't cheap. Now they are too busy to play and when I try to play with them or explain why I constantly ask them to play (price/good times) they say that gaming isn't a big deal and to brush off when they don't play with me but the thing is they live far from me so I want a way to stay in touch, but they don't see it that way, one has gone the length of blocking me and the other ignores me at times. Who's right here? Am I valid in my feeling of anxiety and annoyance?:what::confused:

Ok you are right to feel anxious and annoyed but sometimes that is life people change. You had some good times these guys are older and have more options - one has blocked you so no chance of staying in touch there -Move on find other friends and I am sorry this happened it hurts -

[MrMister117]

Thank you! I have felt like Ive moved on but sometimes memoirs reappear of hoe good it once was, but like some else said, its the world we live in.

[SethfromMI]

may be it is no one's fault. granted they should'nt have preassured you into buying one. but some people can only play those games so long before they are no longer fun (others can keep playing and playing). as been said, when people move away, sometimes they break a part, particularly if the bond wasn't super strong in the first place. it is sad, but it is a part of life. try to find some friends in your area you can hang with and even play games with