Babysat-Sad

[Body odah Man]

So my parents/sis are gone for a month starting today and I have mixed feelings.
While it's nice to have no1 nagging me and filling girly baths, I feel kinda depressed about the whole thing. Last time I had a sitter I was 8 and couldn't cook/wash myself so she helped with that. Now I'm more autonomous and can cook and shit so sitter just watches over house and stuff. She's nice and all but... I always feel judged by her (she doesn't say anything but still it feels that way). I'm underweight but she makes me feel bad for spending money on food so I eat less than when parents are home. It's rlly overwhelming and I dunno what the ehll to do :( :( :(

[Woodstommy]

you should speak to her and your parents and just ask if you can have any more responsibility, maybe she come over later to give you some time on your own. hope this helps

[Body odah Man]

My parents are in America so they can't change things. I can try your second peice of advice tho

[Second Chance]

Assuming your parents are going to be gone for a while leaving you home alone, then I can understand why they have gotten you a babysitter. Perhaps calling her a babysitter at this point is not the best term but rather look at her as a housesitter/housekeeper who is making sure everything around the house is all right. The fact that the lady gives you space is a good thing, and chances are your parents wanted to have an adult around just in case something went wrong and that you would have a resource person. Especially if your parents are out of the country it is not like they can get to you right away if there's a major problem, and at least there's an adult around who can handle problems in their place if the worst should happen. Parents always have to plan for the worst especially since you're still a minor.

As for the eating thing, I would have a respectful discussion with your housesitter letting her know that you feel like you're being judged. Without giving us specific examples on what she does to make you feel the way you do it's tough to tell you how to handle this woman. I think your best bet is to maximize your free time while the woman is away, and if there is some flexibility with the woman's schedule, then I agree with the poster above that you can ask her to come by later so that you can have free time to do your own thing including cooking/eating what you want.

[Body odah Man]

Assuming your parents are going to be gone for a while leaving you home alone, then I can understand why they have gotten you a babysitter. Perhaps calling her a babysitter at this point is not the best term but rather look at her as a housesitter/housekeeper who is making sure everything around the house is all right. The fact that the lady gives you space is a good thing, and chances are your parents wanted to have an adult around just in case something went wrong and that you would have a resource person. Especially if your parents are out of the country it is not like they can get to you right away if there's a major problem, and at least there's an adult around who can handle problems in their place if the worst should happen. Parents always have to plan for the worst especially since you're still a minor.

As for the eating thing, I would have a respectful discussion with your housesitter letting her know that you feel like you're being judged. Without giving us specific examples on what she does to make you feel the way you do it's tough to tell you how to handle this woman. I think your best bet is to maximize your free time while the woman is away, and if there is some flexibility with the woman's schedule, then I agree with the poster above that you can ask her to come by later so that you can have free time to do your own thing including cooking/eating what you want.

I can try that. Any advice on how to discuss the food thing with her? Cuz that is my only issue at this point.

[Body odah Man]

Any other help? Cause it would be thanked

[Croconaw]

My parents would never get me a babysitter because I'm trusted. The advice from Second Chance is quite useful. She is there just in case something bad were about to happen. I don't think this is a punishment in any way. Your parents just don't want anything to happen to the house. You said they were going to be gone for a while, assuming you mean a week or more.

[Ben_Frost]

Any other help? Cause it would be thanked

Have you told her about how you feel when she's around and you're going to eat? Maybe you should try cooking while she's in the house and see if she says or does something that makes you think she's judging you for cooking too much or expensive stuff, and ask her if there's something wrong or something she'd like to tell you.

You could also discuss with her the fact you're feeling uncomfortable and that you're underweight, and then you could ask her if she knows something you could do about it. I hope this helps.

[Body odah Man]

My parents would never get me a babysitter because I'm trusted. The advice from Second Chance is quite useful. She is there just in case something bad were about to happen. I don't think this is a punishment in any way. Your parents just don't want anything to happen to the house. You said they were going to be gone for a while, assuming you mean a week or more.

They're going to be gone for a month. So the sitter's here. I know it's not a punishment, but it just feels awkward and uncomfortable cuz keep feeling guilty cuz of the stuff I like doing and buying food (not expensive food, just stuff like bread).

Have you told her about how you feel when she's around and you're going to eat? Maybe you should try cooking while she's in the house and see if she says or does something that makes you think she's judging you for cooking too much or expensive stuff, and ask her if there's something wrong or something she'd like to tell you.

You could also discuss with her the fact you're feeling uncomfortable and that you're underweight, and then you could ask her if she knows something you could do about it. I hope this helps.

O have not spoken to her about these things but I can try. Thanks for your advice

[CassnovA]

It may be a legal thing, like they cant leave a kid on their own for a month, yano

[Body odah Man]

It may be a legal thing, like they cant leave a kid on their own for a month, yano

This is Holland. We spit on legality! But you might be right, I dunno

[Body odah Man]

Any one got any more advice?

[Body odah Man]

Sitters gone now. I survived (mostly in good spirits). Plz lock this moderators