Changing your last name

[trustn01]

Do you think it's disrespectful to change your last name? I have a very complicated, 16-letter long last name. I was thinking of changing it to something else, and while I don't dislike my last name, there are some that I like more. I have a cousin, so the family wouldn't die out unless he also changes his, but would it be generally disrespectful to change your last name? (to be clear, my father insist that our family name is pretty ancient. I would have no problem with changing from a name if it was made up my grandfather or someone else)

[CosmicNoodle]

Disrespectful or not its up toi you, not to your parents or fimilly, but since you asked, no, I don't think its disrespectful, like you said your cousin still has it, so it ain't going anywhere.

[Cognizant]

I personally don't mind my last name (like, I can't imagine myself as a Patrick Harris or anything :P), but I don't see anything wrong with dropping it. The only issue I see prevailing for me is that I would be the only one to carry on my family name (unless one of my sisters never marries), but ehhhhh.

[JamesSuperBoy]

There may be some practical things to consider - but just get all the info on how you can change and then see where you are at -

[Gamma Male]

I don't think it's disrespectful. It's your name, you should be able to do whatever you want with it.

[Gigablue]

Your name, your choice. Some parents would see it as disrespectful, but it's really up to you. Also, I don't really see why it matters if the name disappears. Names disappear all the time.

[Croconaw]

I wouldn't say it's disrespectful. I hate my last name...

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

No, it's just a name, a collection of letters. I plan to switch my first and last name when I get older, because everyone calls me Lastname Firstname intstead of Firstname Lastname.

[Typhlosion]

Unless family honour and code is really strong in your household, I don't think any modern parent would be troubled with such change,

I'll probably change my first name this year or the next.

[xXEverReadyXx]

I don't think its disrespectful, I mean its your life, do what you want ^_^
I'm actually changing mine soon.

[dontfiguremeout]

I think it's a bit disrespectful if you have no reason to change it, like you just don't like it. I know last names are just a name, but they mean more than a name though. It's a family. I'm changing my last name to my mothers maiden name because my dad's family was never really in my life and my mothers family was, and still is, so therefore I feel more in that family which is why I'm switching my last name to hers. So I think you really should consider the fact that last names do mean a lot and it shows what family you're in!

[LoveLessOne]

ill change my last name when i get married

[Aajj333]

Bob Dylan changed his entire name. He said he simpily wasnt born with the right name. If it is someting that you are going to live with your life, it should be something you like.

[Waleedbt]

Lol my last name is so weird and complicated, but i like how its different.
I would not change mine ever, but then again that is only me, do what you feel and see how your parents react.

[Lovelife090994]

Your last name is your heritage and house. I have my mother's maiden name and it fits since that is a part of me, and since my mother's side is close to me.

[sqishy]

Up to you entirely, would depend on how the rest of the family reacts of course

[Neverender]

My family has changed it's last name at least once every other generation. But I'm not nd never have been very comfortable with sharing my last name on the site.

My grandfather dropped the "S". Other groups that split far back have added "-ton". Some flipped I for E (like my crowd), and After my grandfather dropped the "S" which was carried by my great-grandfather, my uncle picked it back up so I have my family with all "-hion", except him with "-hions".

-enchion
-enchins
-enchions
-enchionton
-enchinton
-inchin
-inchins

So for any of you trying to puzzle through that behemoth, my point is It's perfectly fine to change your family name so far as I'm concerned.

Although I'm not sure what your motive would be in changing it radically to something completely different.

[dakeep18]

i would never change my last name not for the life of me

[Uranus]

Unless family honour and code is really strong in your household, I don't think any modern parent would be troubled with such change,

I'll probably change my first name this year or the next.

What's your new name going to be? :) or is it confidential? O.o

[Typhlosion]

What's your new name going to be? :) or is it confidential? O.o

Not really :P

Just changing from Alexandre to Alexander or Alex.

[Uranus]

Not really :P

Just changing from Alexandre to Alexander or Alex.

Ahh I see! :) so not a big change just a......modification? :P cool idea bro

[queenofcontrariety]

In some instances it's practical to change it to have a better chance of employment or just to make it easier to pronounce, so if thats the case it isn't disrespectful. but being I have the most basic name in history I won't be changing it til marriage

[Karkat]

I don't think it's disrespectful, per se. It's your name, it should be your choice.

Personally, I hate Cox, so I might change it to my mom's maiden name (Jones) or something else if I don't get married.

[Melodic]

Honestly, I don't think so. It's not like your father created your last name. It's went through probably countless generations so I don't find any harm to it.

[SethfromMI]

some people would say it is. I wouldn't change it to just change it (well I would not change mine at all, but that's a different story).

in the end though it is your name and if you want to change it, then if your parents approve or when you get o legal age you should be able to do so

[RRay99]

Totally up to you. Guess its how you see yourself. Lots of reasons why people change their name. No harm to you, or anyone else that I can think of.

[Babs]

I don't think so. Go for it.

[Karsten]

I feel like it's justifiable for some reasons, like if the person has a surname that is constantly made fun of or is seriously just too difficult for people to pronounce or spell.

[Dennis98]

No . It is very original last name , with deep history and interesting members . It is known as good , rich , fair and respectful family ...

[Uranus]

ill change my last name when i get married

Yea but that's different from a guy. When girls get married they are supposed to change their last name.(except in some rare cases they keep it and their husband changes his last name to the name of his wife's maiden name.)

But the male is supposed, and responsible to carry on the family name, unlike women.

In my opinion its not really disrespectful at all. I mean, you didn't choose it and I believe we should have a choice. You could keep it and use it as the name before your last name. So you keep the name. And still have your chosen last name. And you could make it a two part word. So your son would have both names.
Basically modifying the name bit use your chosen one for your last.

[LoveLessOne]

Yea but that's different from a guy. When girls get married they are supposed to change their last name.(except in some rare cases they keep it and their husband changes his last name to the name of his wife's maiden name.)

But the male is supposed, and responsible to carry on the family name, unlike women.

In my opinion its not really disrespectful at all. I mean, you didn't choose it and I believe we should have a choice. You could keep it and use it as the name before your last name. So you keep the name. And still have your chosen last name. And you could make it a two part word. So your son would have both names.
Basically modifying the name bit use your chosen one for your last.

that is a really good point! thanks for pointing that out to me

[Uranus]

that is a really good point! thanks for pointing that out to me

You're welcome! :)

[Typhlosion]

Yea but that's different from a guy. When girls get married they are supposed to change their last name.(except in some rare cases they keep it and their husband changes his last name to the name of his wife's maiden name.)

But the male is supposed, and responsible to carry on the family name, unlike women.

In my opinion its not really disrespectful at all. I mean, you didn't choose it and I believe we should have a choice. You could keep it and use it as the name before your last name. So you keep the name. And still have your chosen last name. And you could make it a two part word. So your son would have both names.
Basically modifying the name bit use your chosen one for your last.

Why is a woman supposed to change her name, and not men? Why can't neither change? Honestly that's just a sexist tradition.

Also keeping it a two-part word isn't really changing the name entirely...

[mrmee]

Not really :P

Just changing from Alexandre to Alexander or Alex.

I was gonna say whats wrong with being Alex? But i was born as Alexander, Alex for short. :P
Alexandre kinda sounds thug if you ask me. Lmfao. :yeah:

[Babiole]

I think it is.

I'd never change my surname. I'm a Rigaud for life.

Typhlosion: Why do you hate the name Alexandre? It's so much nicer than Alex. Alex is so Anglo sounding. I like Alexandre since it's my grandfather's name. (BTW, it's far from old-fashioned in France. And to the above user, it's not considered a black name in France. We don't have the concept of "black name" here. I only know white guys with the name.)