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Polo2847
September 5th, 2014, 02:32 AM
Hi! So I'm a freshman in college now. Back in senior year, I spent a lot of time with this girl who had many many things in common with me. She introduced me to anime, and we had fun talking and spending time together. I loved spending time together. She had to move to Japan for university (I know, ouch!), and when I confessed to her, she said stuff like "Oh, uhh, I don't know what to say...well you know, people change over time...I'm not really interested in love." She also joked about friendzone a bit. AND before I liked her, we were talking about our future, and she mentioned she was never interested in love. Soo she never gave me a clear answer whether or not she likes me.

I also like another guy, he's a senior in high school now, but the thing is, he doesn't have many common things with me. I guess this makes me have to try harder, and things get more interesting as I have to "squeeze" the information out of him. I like him because he's cute and we both watch anime, we love spending time together, but I don't feel the same way towards him as I felt with the girl. He's still in the same city that I'm in, so I'm able to see him often.

With the girl, it's more of a wholesome feeling, I felt deep. I guess you could say it's love. She never acknowledged my love back. The thing is, the girl is in Japan, while I'm in West USA, and I don't know when I'll have enough money to visit her. I cried the day she left to her plane. I feel like a 'player' because i like/love one person, and I like the other. Even if I do wait for the girl, who knows if she'll have a boyfriend, or love me back 4 years from now. I don't even know what I should do, or how I should handle this...

Gumleaf
September 5th, 2014, 03:43 AM
I think your thread title answers your question. I think it would be good for you to keep her as a friend to stay in contact with, but as for a lover you need to move on from her. Four years is a long time and you don't want to be holding yourself back from potential relationships at home holding out for her. That's not to say that something wouldn't happen when she comes home, but you need to be realistic and have some common sense about it. As for the guy now, just try and develop the friendship for a while and see where it goes and how you feel about things. Hope everything works out.