Family Problems Forum?

[Mzor203]

Unless I have been so stupid as to have missed it, I do not see a forum for people having issues with their family, and it seems to me that that kind of thing happens a lot through the teen years. So, unless there is a forum which covers that kind of thing and I missed it, I think we should have one.
And I'm not talking about the big crisis kind of things which would be covered by the mental crisis forum, I'm talking about things where your parents aren't giving you enough freedom, or if you were having problems with your siblings (Which I am).

Just a suggestion.

[Gavin]

What about the TWPR,thats just a room to vent and stuff

[Mzor203]

I knowit's a good place to vent your anger, but we need a forum where people can go and know they'll get help with a specific kind of thing.

[Antares]

I think your idea is TOO specific. Maybe you should generalize it more.

[Mzor203]

Okay, instead o "family problems forum" it could be called "Family discussion", or even "Friends and family", so it could encompass any problems, or things you would like to discuss that deal with family and friends.

Also, if this were to be made, I would suggest it go in the help and advice forum, seeing as that's where stuff like relationships and dating is.

[BornActor]

I think it's a good idea but I think you can just put this under relationships and dating or the white padded room.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Relationships are more than family issues. It's more of a discussion forum for those who need relationship advice.

Anyway, I think that this is a good idea, or can be made into a sub-forum...

[Aηdy]

I don't think we have a need for it.

[Underground_Network]

I agree with Andy, in order for a forum, or even a sub-forum like this to be created, a lot of people have to show in interest in actually having the need to make posts like that in a forum like that. And I think that if someone is having problems with their family, that can probably go under abuse, or they can post things like that in their diary, or vent in TWPR. And relationships and dating isn't just for girlfriends/boyfriends, don't be afraid to post something about a friend or friends in there, I've done that before, and it didn't get moved and people didn't say that it was in the wrong section or anything.

[-Silence]

I like the idea of 'Friends & Family', it could be put under the help and advice.

What teen doesn't have issues with their parents at some point or another? Hell, I'm 20, don't live with my parents and I'd post there. And it's not drastic enough for abuse and TWPR is a big place some people might feel uncomfortable posting it there.

[redcar]

I like the idea of 'Friends & Family', it could be put under the help and advice.


I think something like this would be pretty good. As Heather says we all have issues with our parents. I really like it.

[Sugaree]

Well I think that if you have to vent about your parents or siblings or friends then it should be done in TWPR and if something that is not related to venting then put it in the 'Family and Friends' section.

I think it would be a good idea

[Antares]

But this would take alot of posts of of TWPR and make it alot less crowded. Im all for it.

[Sugaree]

Yeah there's one benefit for it due to less crowding in TWPR

[Mzor203]

Yeah, I didn't think of that when I was suggesting it, but TWPR is REALLY crowded every time I look it there.

[Sugaree]

Yes but if you want to vent it's the perfect place. And yes it's over crowded with things like surveys and all this other stuff that took away it's meaning.

[Mzor203]

Yeah, like all those, "YAY!! I got 27 posts! Go me!!" threads. I think we've got to get as much things out of there as we can.

OH!!!!

I know, we could also have a bragging sticky in TWPR to clean up some of those types of posts and keep them in one place.

[Sugaree]

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=20314&highlight=A+bragging+forum

that's the thread that Rudi suggested and that didn't work.

[Mzor203]

Okay, but this is becoming something about TWPR.
Back to the family problems forum.
I think VT would benefit from it, because not only are threads dealing with family being posted in TWPR, but also other places like the puberty forums, when normally they don't have anything to do with puberty. So, in short, I think we should really make a "Family and Friends" or something like that, forum.

[Aηdy]

I think something like this would be pretty good. As Heather says we all have issues with our parents. I really like it.

A friends and family forum wouldn't be bad idea actually.

[Underground_Network]

^^ Damnit, you beat me to it. I was going to say the same exact thing! :D

[Sugaree]

Ok I think we need to get back on topic.

I think this is a great forum idea. But the thing is about where we should put it?

General Discussions is the one I'm feeling

[Aηdy]

Help and Advice

[Sugaree]

Well that seems pretty resonable but general discussion seems a better fit to me

[Mzor203]

I think help and advice is where you would put it, because if you think about it, most of the posts there would be asking for advice on family or friends. I think the Help and Advice section is the best place to put it.

General discussion is just about different random things.

[Aηdy]

I think help and advice is where you would put it, because if you think about it, most of the posts there would be asking for advice on family or friends. I think the Help and Advice section is the best place to put it.

General discussion is just about different random things.

That's right, general discussion is not for help and advice.

[Sugaree]

yeah agreed.

[Mzor203]

Okay, so some people think it's a good idea, and basically we know where it would go, so the last question is, what do the Admins think? I know the Alex approved, but what do the others think?

[Underground_Network]

Its not just up to the admins, though I guess if the admins had an idea and the majority hated it, but the admins absolutely loved it, they COULD still go through with it.. Anyways, this isn't a bad idea, but the admins aren't the only ones with a say in this, 'tis why they made a suggestions thread in the first place. (In other words other people's opinions do count too)

[Maverick]

I think problems with family and friends fit just fine in relationships. Altering the description to maybe include family and friends can work.

Although the type is different, you do have a relationship with your parents, friends, and other people.

[Mzor203]

Yeah, but in the end the admins are the only ones who have the power to actually create a new forum. The people's opinion may count, but it could also work the other way, everyone could approve but the admins might decide not to make it. Just because a lot of people like an idea doesn't neccesarilly mean it's entirely beneficial or meaningful to the forum.

[Underground_Network]

^^ Thats what I stated on either the first or second page, but no one listened to me. :/

[referring to Ant!]

[Maverick]

^^ Thats what I stated on either the first or second page, but no one listened to me. :/

[referring to Ant!]Oh you did. Sorry I guess I missed your post. :)

[Sugaree]

Not like your dating your parents so I don't think that would be right lol. Referring to what Ant said about putting it in the Relationships and Dating forum.

We could make one that says "Family and friends relations"..?

[Maverick]

Not like your dating your parents so I don't think that would be right lol. Referring to what Ant said about putting it in the Relationships and Dating forum.
I never said that. Not all relationships have to do with dating.

[The Batman]

To me its kinda uncomfortable asking for advice on family in a dating forum even if it says relationships in the title and I have alot of issues with my family but i just don't know where to post it so I dont

[Mzor203]

You mean like a sub-forum? I think that would work because it would create that forum without cluttering up the main page.

Reffering to Legalbeagle here.

[Underground_Network]

As I said before, Relationships and Dating isn't solely based on Dating, relationships are not necessarily between a boyfriend or girlfriend. Friendships are relationships, and we all have "relationships" with our parents. I've made at least one post in r and d about my friends b/c it seemed like the best place to put it. I mean if you had an urgent friend problem and weren't willing to wait for this forum to be created, where would you put it? Most likely r and d, and you wouldn't complain about it, because people would probably seriously help you it. If I do recall correctly, my post in r and d about my friends received more feedback than most of my threads on actual dating/bf/gf relationships have gotten.

[Maverick]

Well this thread here fits just fine in that forum.

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=21515

[Sugaree]

I never said that. Not all relationships have to do with dating.

*cough*

I'm sorry I must have misread your post.

[Mzor203]

Still, some people may be afraid to put something having to do with family in the R&D forum, so having a forum called specifically "Family and Friends" or something, they would be more comfortable posting things they wouldn't normally post or would put iin TWPR.

[redcar]

I think as it stands problems of this nature could really fit in in the current set up of forums. However I think it's not very clear and to some it can be a grey area, like "can I put this here?" or "should I put this here?".

My reasons for supporting a dedicated forum like this would be it would eliminate this grey area but also more importantly develop and enhance our image of peer support. VT is not just about Puberty101 it is about teens helping teens in all aspects of life.

[-Silence]

So what's going on with this idea?

[Maverick]

To be honest, actually nothing but thanks for the reminder. I'll bring this up to the staff for discussion asap. :)

[Nihilus]

It might work out I dunno.:cop::bye::clap:

[hellokitty]

i think its a good idea, i have heaps of problems with my famiy

[iJack]

I could use it, my family has problems, my social life/friends has problems

I think as it stands problems of this nature could really fit in in the current set up of forums. However I think it's not very clear and to some it can be a grey area, like "can I put this here?" or "should I put this here?".

My reasons for supporting a dedicated forum like this would be it would eliminate this grey area but also more importantly develop and enhance our image of peer support. VT is not just about Puberty101 it is about teens helping teens in all aspects of life.

I agree totally,

I have dealt with a lot of family problems in my life, and i would gladly help people work through them.

[MoveAlong]

Hey maybe we can have it include several social problems, like those at home between you and your family, and what happens with your social life like at school

[iJack]

it would be titled: Family and Friends Problems

[The Batman]

I don't know about that its kinda boring and plain (no offense) and we don't know if their making it yet but hopefully they will.

[Mzor203]

I personally don't think it should be separated into two parts, because that just means more clicking. Call it Family and Friends, or something like that and it's all taken care of. The number o fposts in it may be less than other forums for a while, so why dilute them even more?

[iJack]

I personally don't think it should be separated into two parts, because that just means more clicking. Call it Family and Friends, or something like that and it's all taken care of. The number o fposts in it may be less than other forums for a while, so why dilute them even more?

very true, good idea

[MoveAlong]

I personally don't think it should be separated into two parts...

who said that it was should be separated into 2 parts? I never said that

[Mzor203]

Hey maybe we can have it include several social problems, like those at home between you and your family, and what happens with your social life like at school

Oh sorry, I was reading it wrong. I thought you meant include several social forums, not problems. My bad.

[Techno Monster]

Good Idea.

[Mzor203]

Question for Admins , etc.

Maverick said he was taking it to the staff for discussion. Any updates?

[Maverick]

If there's an update one will be posted.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

[Maverick]

heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyAnd what was the point of that post?

[-Silence]

Thank you for creating the forum. :-)