Erection While Kissing Problem

[Gpmdefender1]

Getting straight to the point, whenever I kiss, make out, cuddle, or sometimes even hold hands with my girlfriend, I get an errection. I'm pretty sure she's felt it once or twice and I kind of get the feeling that she's not comfortable with it. I haven't talked to her about what she thinks about sex before marriage, but I'm pretty sure she's against it, so this is not a good thing. What do I do? I'm 18, so this shouldn't be something to do with horemones or anything like that and I've never had a problem getting random erections before, even at swimming pools or those kinds of situations.

[chris97]

Maybe its just something that turns you on

[Rascaldog24]

It might just be something that happens as you get closer and more comfortable with/around her it might go away or might just be something she will have to ignore

[greenMCRday]

I haven't kissed anyone or anything like that yet, sadly, but if someone I were kissing had that happen, I'd assume either they're nervous or turned on, both I'd be completely fine with. Even though I prefer females, that'd be kind of a nice way to see if they're turned on if they were a guy. But from people I know, I've heard of them taking that as sort of a compliment, for lack of a better word. But I'd still be uncomfortable if I were kissing someone and had an erection and try to remember I can't really control it much.

[ComfortableInChaos]

You're an 18 year old guy, of course you're gonna be turned on by your girlfriend. That's completely normal. It's not like it's something you can control, I wouldn't even complain about it if I were you, some guys just don't get turned on by their girlfriend and don't get boners from them much at all. And sex, I wouldn't worry about it. Just ask her if she's had sex and then talk about your experiences with her (if you have any) and then you'll both know.

[SeinFan77]

It's normal

[Liven]

This is normal. It should go away soon though.

[Marco97]

I'd say it means deep down you get really turned on by her, which is great because that means she's the girl for you. You should be worried if you didn't get a hard on while kissing her.

[Curious.]

Normal they will love it

[fast8]

You could be getting trun on by her bc u really love her

[PinkFloyd]

I say talk to her about it. If she's your girlfriend, she will understand and tell you what she thinks is best. And plus, kissing and cuddling especially can come off as sexual. your entire self is up against her while you're laying down, then it's not just you that get's a boner from it. With making out, same goes in a way. If you start by standing up and kissing and there's a lot of hand movement, it's also not your fault.

[Hermes]

If you (plural) want to wait until after marriage to have sex by what mechanism do you think your body will know that you are now married and it is now acceptable to get aroused in preparation for sex, i.e. get an erection?

It doesn't work like that. If you find her attractive and you are being intimate short of sex then you will get aroused. Being successful at no sex before marriage is not about controlling arousal but choosing what do about it which is obviously to either do something about it together that stops short of whatever you define as sex or wait until you are alone again and masturbate.

She needs to understand that too, in fact she may do already! Girls get aroused by intimacy too but getting wet inside is not as obvious as an erection. It it worth talking it through with her.

[lacey02]

She may not understand your body and that this is normal so its a good idea to let her know what is going on and that it does not mean you want to go all the way right now. I think she would feel better about it then. You can also take breaks from kissing so that it has time to go down.

[Emerald Dream]

She may not understand your body and that this is normal so its a good idea to let her know what is going on and that it does not mean you want to go all the way right now. I think she would feel better about it then. You can also take breaks from kissing so that it has time to go down.

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