Confused Best Friend

[SmokyChica]

I've known this guy for a really long time, and within the past few months we have grown extremely close. He's a friend of one of my exes, but for a while I had a small crush on him. He came out to me a while back and told me he was gay, so I just figured it was best to forget about it and stay friends. He is my best friend now and we share everything. Yesterday, he told me that he feels he lied to me because he was confused and he says he's bi. I told him it was fine and sometimes it can be confusing figuring out your sexuality, but it was awkward because it kind of brought up this old crush I have. We ended up kissing and stuff, but I have a feeling that it won't work because we couldn't go public (he's told his mom he's gay but no one else),I don't want to hurt my ex, and I don't want to ruin our friendship. Is there any way I can tell him and not hurt him? I feel horrible and don't know what to do about this.

[Gumleaf]

This type of conversation is always going to feel awkward. The most important thing you can do is be honest with him. Just telling him how you feel and what you are thinking. The sooner you do it, the less likely you will hurt or upset him. The longer you leave it, there is a higher possibility he is thinking he is entering a relationship with you which would likely hurt him more in the long run. But you need to tell him how you feel and why you feel like that, and that way if he can sort things out like his sexuality and stuff, there might be hope for a relationship in the future. Communication is the key, and if you keep the communication lines open and be honest, it's unlikely your friendship will be ruined. I hope it all works out.

[mitchgreen26]

It's so confusing to be in a situation like that. Like what happened to me. Ex of my best friend tried to court me.