Sex with a married guy

[Jonathan1998]

Ummm I'm ashamed to admit this but the thing is I'm kind of having a sexual affair with a married guy. It's wrong I know but it feels right. And well he's 33 and I'm 16 next week, but he thinks I'm already 16 because I panicked when he asked my age, to be honest I have thing for older guys and I have no idea what to do. I just want your opinion on it.

[Mastretta]

Did you know he was married before you guys had sex? If so you're equally as wrong as him, I suggest you to cut him off because all you are to him is a side piece and because you're young he thinks it'll be easier to have no strings attached. I had a friend that did the same thing and all they had was sex and nothing more and a few sweet lies.

[Jonathan1998]

No I didn't know he was

[ATOMICskittles]

I would suggest leaving now before it gets messy later. What if his spouse finds out about you and that will just be a whole other can of worms. Leave now. And judging from your looks, you seem very attractive and could get anyone. ��

[Jonathan1998]

Thanks Ethan but many actually think I'm ugly and I wish I could get anyone lol

[Typhlosion]

Erm...

That doesn't sound like a good idea at all. Not only he is married, but if things get out of hand the situation can go rotten really quickly. Not only he is an adult, he's an adult twice your age, and you're not even 16 yet. Not being 16 means that you can't legally consent, making him, legally, a pedophile (sounds like one anyways!). His life is in danger, and not letting him know is terrible already.

Avoid this situation as a whole, and immediately cut bonds with him.

[Jonathan1998]

I've broke the bonds

[Eric57]

The married part is something that I'm going to address, but first I need to address the other issue: Age. That is a HUGE problem. Doesn't matter if he thought you were 16 years old. The man is 33 years old. That is not cool for a 33 year old man to be sexually active with a minor. That right there says a lot about this guy and I'd consider the fact that he is willing to have sex with a minor a bigger issue than the married part.

Having said that, the fact that he is married is a huge problem as well. You should definitely break it off. Doesn't matter how "right" it feels to you. The man is married. He is taken. Things could potentially go completely wrong, i.e. the spouse finding out about his infidelity. It could get very, very messy and I promise you, dude, you're better off completely breaking all ties with this guy.

[Green Arrow]

As Eric said above there are two problems that you're facing at the moment him being married and his age. I'm not going to question what you did and say it was wrong because you can't change the past. What I am going to say is that you need to think about what you're going to do now. You need to make sure that you never do something like that again with him. If it's easy the best thing to do is to cut him out of your life forever and go your seperate ways and hope that, that's it forever.

On the thing that you said about people saying that you're ugly you should ignore them and just carry on with your life. I'm sure there are many people who think you're attractive you just have go out there and find them. That's what I'm trying to do, haven't found any as of yet but there's still time I suppose.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I hate to mention this, but you should probably go get yourself checked, this is a guy who has had sex with at least one person other than you, meaning he could have caught something from a past
partner and given it to you.

[Ben_Frost]

You'd better get out of this mess and quick, I had a married 30 something guy hitting on me a few years ago, and I pushed him off because I'd be in trouble with his wife, and he'd get sent to jail and it would only get worse after that. Stay away from that danger.

[Jonathan1998]

Cheers guys, I'll know for the future