Being Not Attractive in the Gay Community

[riguy99]

In today's gay community being not attractive is the worst thing that could happen to a gay man. It seems like if you do not have abs or you are a bit too feminine, then you are not accepted. I am among that group. I have experienced first hand what it feels like to be rejected by your looks. Why do you think that you have a be perfect built man to be attractive?

[Living For Love]

Just like different women like different types of guys, different guys like different types of guys too. It's not like you're not accepted, people will judge no matter what, but that shouldn't stop you from finding a person who will love you, not only for your looks, but for the inside as well. You are what you are, you don't have to change it just because someone tells you to do so.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Maybe in the mainstream Gay Community where things seen to be dominated by pole skinny guys, but when you get away from the in crowd, you start to see more camps like the Bears who are pretty much anything but the norm, and as for being feminine , there are groups that like that too, I'm sure.

Basically, if you exist then there's a 99.99999% chance that someone else within reach is attracted to your type/is your type.

[Tenoka]

Basically, if you exist then there's a 99.99999% chance that someone else within reach is attracted to your type/is your type.

Basically this. Someone is always going to have an appeal to you. There are different types of people for different types of taste in people. While some guys might like feminine guys, some prefer the more chunky manly kind. It really just depends who you surround yourself and if you have similar interests with them.

[Dalcourt]

In today's gay community being not attractive is the worst thing that could happen to a gay man. It seems like if you do not have abs or you are a bit too feminine, then you are not accepted. I am among that group. I have experienced first hand what it feels like to be rejected by your looks. Why do you think that you have a be perfect built man to be attractive?

I never really experienced what you say. I mean that good looks are important isn't just limited to the gay community, it's practically everywhere...and as everywhere besides the mainstream there are the normal people...so you don't have to be more or less attractive in the gay community than everywhere else.

[Unde4dmau5]

Now see, I would never say there is such a thing as not being attractive in any sense. Whether it be in the gay or straight community. People all have different tastes. Now sure, I would say there is a specific type of person that people say is attractive, of course, but that is to be expected with all humans. Naturally because we are human. But don't worry yourself if you don't find somebody right away who loves you for more than your looks. There is more to a person than what meets the eye.