I'm going to die alone

[Jman437]

Dating is my biggest weakness. Besides being a shy, insecure, awkward guy(although physically appealing), girls cringed when they saw me, and if I got lucky enough, I would get ignored.

So, I turned to online dating, I thought that it would improve my chances. The result was the same, I talked to two girls, they both got bored and ignored me. I decided to try again with another one of the 5 people near me, still nothing.

I thought that, if I met someone online, it would be easier for me, because I'm shy as hell, so the anonymity would make it easier for me to show my true self, but has it turned out, it was the same crap all over again... They just ignored me an never talked to me again...

Damn, I must suck really bad! I can't find anyone, not EVEN when I have some kind of anonymity! Well, that's it: I'm doomed to die alone... Oh well, after all we can't everything we want...

[Flower96]

You seem to be too dependent on getting girls in order to feel good.
This probably shows in your way of speaking and writing to them as well, which also makes you appear stiff and insecure, and that might be the reason why it's not going the way you want.

If you "must" have a girlfriend to be satisfied with your life, then you are too needy.
You should make sure you feel as good as possible with other aspects of your life, and if you happen to see a hot girl somewhere, just flirt away, but do it in a way so that you feel like making her feel good as well.
That's one of the best ways to flirt, IMO - as a way to make the other person feel good and appreciated.

[Jman437]

You seem to be too dependent on getting girls in order to feel good.
This probably shows in your way of speaking and writing to them as well, which also makes you appear stiff and insecure, and that might be the reason why it's not going the way you want.

If you "must" have a girlfriend to be satisfied with your life, then you are too needy.
You should make sure you feel as good as possible with other aspects of your life, and if you happen to see a hot girl somewhere, just flirt away, but do it in a way so that you feel like making her feel good as well.
That's one of the best ways to flirt, IMO - as a way to make the other person feel good and appreciated.

I'm not co-dependent, it's just that I wasn't made to be an island. Struggle all you want, but in the end you'll need someone to share your happiness with, and there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with that! Oh, but "I'm a strong, independent person(gender is irrelevant) who doesn't need anyone to be happy!". Even this kind of people will feel this need sometimes, for christ's sake!

No, I didn't say that I hate being alone, I said that I wanted to share my happiness with someone, I want a boost to my happiness, just every normal human being!

[JustAGamer]

No need to be a crybaby about it. There are a lot better things to focus on while you are young. And the title "I'm going to die alone" should be renamed to "I haven't got a girlfriend yet, so I assume that I'm going to die alone".

So I pretty much agree with Flower96.

[Remora]

Obviously we can just die alone toghether. I have about the same problem as you described in your thread. I've just given up already and i'm just waiting fir someone.

[Jman437]

No need to be a crybaby about it. There are a lot better things to focus on while you are young. And the title "I'm going to die alone" should be renamed to "I haven't got a girlfriend yet, so I assume that I'm going to die alone".

So I pretty much agree with Flower96.

I never had a girlfriend, I'm almost 21. I'll say it again: I'm comfortable by myself, I just need to share my happiness with someone, it's a feeling everyone has, whether you accept it or not, but the way things are going and how every girl I've ever talked either ignored me or ran away from me, it's normal to feel like nothing is going your way...

Obviously we can just die alone toghether. I have about the same problem as you described in your thread. I've just given up already and i'm just waiting fir someone.

I was a year or two older than you when this started showing. Now I'm on my first year of college(20 years old, switched majors) and I absolutely lost all hope, I'm waiting for someone that will never come...

[Remora]

Then stop waiting and go on with your life. It's not that hard.

[Elanor]

I never had a girlfriend, I'm almost 21. I'll say it again: I'm comfortable by myself, I just need to share my happiness with someone, it's a feeling everyone has, whether you accept it or not, but the way things are going and how every girl I've ever talked either ignored me or ran away from me, it's normal to feel like nothing is going your way...
Well, if you spend time doing other things in your life, then you will eventually meet someone you have shared feelings for.
Also, flirting should be something casual and fun, not something that you "must" do to have a girlfriend as quickly as possible. :P

I can guarantee that your great need of a girlfriend shows in your whole behaviour, and this sends negative vibes, which probably scare girls away.
You should make sure you feel content with the things you already have, so that having a girlfriend eventually just feels like a plus, and one part of your life, instead of the only part.

The fact that you created a thread with the title "I'm going to die alone" proves that you have a very pessimistic view of life right now, and you need to stop feeling that way.
People don't necessarily feel better just because they get a relationship, they can still feel that something is missing in their lives.
So you should focus on living life as best you can, and doing awesome things, and eventually you will meet someone.

I know several guys who lost their virginity and all that way after 21, and they were even good-looking, they were just very uncomfortable in social situations.
So don't worry so much about it.

[Jman437]

Well, if you spend time doing other things in your life, then you will eventually meet someone you have shared feelings for.
Also, flirting should be something casual and fun, not something that you "must" do to have a girlfriend as quickly as possible. :P

I can guarantee you that your great need of a girlfriend shows in your whole behaviour, and this sends negative vibes, which probably scare girls away.
You should make sure you feel content with the things you already have, so that having a girlfriend eventually just feel like a plus, and one part of your life, instead of the only part.

One more time: I feel GOOD by myself, I just feel the need to share my happiness with someone.
I can guarantee you that I don't let my normal need for a girlfriend get the best of me when I'm talking to a girl.

And that thing about focusing my time on other things? I'm still doing that, but I NEVER met anyone. Some people tell me to go looking for love, others tell me to just let it happen. NONE of them worked for me.

Then stop waiting and go on with your life. It's not that hard.

That's what I did, but it's not easy when you have to live the rest of it alone...

[Elanor]

That's what I did, but it's not easy when you have to live the rest of it alone...
Nobody says you are going to live it alone, except yourself.
I suggest that you wake up from that illusion right now, before you sink into it too deeply.

Now do something else and enjoy that instead. :)

[Jman437]

Nobody says you are going to live it alone, except yourself.
I suggest that you wake up from that illusion right now, before you sink into it too deeply.

Now do something else and enjoy that instead. :)

Myself and the factual proof I've been given...

But oh well, I'll go and do something that can suppress the harsh truth that I'm going to die alone...

[Elanor]

Myself and the factual proof I've been given...

But oh well, I'll go and do something that can suppress the harsh truth that I'm going to die alone...
You have no idea what's going to happen in the future.
That fact alone proves that you cannot possibly "know" that you will "always be alone".

Anything can happen, anytime.
Next time you go outside you might run into a girl you click with.

[Mastretta]

Maybe stop being on internet and do things you enjoy and stop trying to get a girlfriend I bet you're the type of guy that ask for nudes after saying hi which is why you're mostly ignored or you just seem desperate because girls don't care about looks, they care about confidence which you lack a lot of.

[Jman437]

Maybe stop being on internet and do things you enjoy and stop trying to get a girlfriend I bet you're the type of guy that ask for nudes after saying hi which is why you're mostly ignored or you just seem desperate because girls don't care about looks, they care about confidence which you lack a lot of.

Sorry man, I'm not in the mood for trolls. If your intention was to help me, you totally missed it in your actions, but thank you for trying.

You have no idea what's going to happen in the future.
That fact alone proves that you cannot possibly "know" that you will "always be alone".

Anything can happen, anytime.
Next time you go outside you might run into a girl you click with.

Anything can happen, but believing on that is like winning the lottery: it can happen, but you're screwed if you count on it.

If I go out and search for it, it won't come, and if this doesn't happen, be goddamn freaking sure that it won't just fall in my lap...

[Elanor]

Anything can happen, but believing on that is like winning the lottery: it can happen, but you're screwed if you count on it.

If I go out and search for it, it won't come, and if this doesn't happen, be goddamn freaking sure that it won't just fall in my lap...
When you try to win he lottery you have to waste a lot of money on something for who knows how long, and you get nothing for the failed attempts.

When you let certain things happen in the future in your life, you shape your life in the meantime.

So the lottery is certainly not an accurate comparison.

Also, although Lamborghini may have sounded slightly sarcastic in his reply, he does have a lot of points.

[Jman437]

When you try to win he lottery you have to waste a lot of money on something for who knows how long, and you get nothing for the failed attempts.

When you let certain things happen in the future in your life, you shape your life in the meantime.

So the lottery is certainly not an accurate comparison.

Also, although Lamborghini may have sounded slightly sarcastic in his reply, he does have a lot of points.

Point is, if you're waiting for the love of your life in the corner, the odds aren't in your favor! It CAN happen, but there's no guarantee that it will, and most likely "you will waste a LOT of time on something for who knows how long, and you will get nothing for the failed attempts". You said it very well: "Next time you go outside you MIGHT run into a girl you click with." There's no freaking guarantee! By making the lottery comparison, I was referring to the probabilities of that happening, so the point you're trying to make is essentially useless.

So are Lamborghini's points. I may be insecure and what not, but I don't let my insecurity get the best of me! I'm not lacking in confidence, like he wanted me to be! When I'm talking to a girl, I'm not acting like a thirsty little bitch, I'm the best person I can be! I follow the "be yourself" cliche very seriously! Fuck, can't a guy feel the need to get a girlfriend?! Am I a little bitch if I feel it?! Isn't it normal for someone to feel it since humans are social beings and not solitary ones, like cats?! Isn't the need to be loved normal?! Did I EVER tell that I depend on it for survival?! I'm gonna answer this last one: NO! I feel good by myself, but I just feel the need to share this happiness with someone, and it tears me down having so many failed attempts, just like you when you fail a class(es)!

"Maybe stop being on internet and do things you enjoy"- the latter is right, you build confidence with successes, but the former really shows that this guy didn't read my OP. I said that I chose online dating because it would be easier for me to show my true self because of the anonymity! Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with you people?! Where are the ones who really take the time to read and try to understand what a certain post is all about?!

[dreamofdante]

Jesus I know exactly how you feel.

[Perfectly Flawed]

Confidence and strong motivation in life will attract people to you.

[dreamofdante]

Confidence and strong motivation in life will attract people to you.

No not always. I've done that my entire life and I've never come close to having a real girlfriend. The OP probably knows what I'm talking about too.

[Perfectly Flawed]

No not always. I've done that my entire life and I've never come close to having a real girlfriend. The OP probably knows what I'm talking about too.

There must be something else going on then. I don't know what, but something must be causing girls to not be attracted to you guys right? It's not like there is no hope, you just have to find out what's wrong and figure out how to fix it.

[dreamofdante]

There must be something else going on then. I don't know what, but something must be causing girls to not be attracted to you guys right? It's not like there is no hope, you just have to find out what's wrong and figure out how to fix it.

My reasons are different than his but we're in a similar boat.

[Perfectly Flawed]

My reasons are different than his but we're in a similar boat.

Well my only advice would be find out what's causing it and attempt to fix it or make it work as a positive.

[dreamofdante]

Well my only advice would be find out what's causing it and attempt to fix it or make it work as a positive.

It's completely my looks. I'm confident, motivated, a good listener, a hard worker, caring, and sweet to everyone I'm around.

[Daracon]

I'm 18, never had a girlfriend, never held hands, never kissed. But I was in the same boat as you, I may be kinda of still am. I do want to share my happiness with someone else, but I believe it has to be the right person. I theoretically could have a girlfriend at the moment, but I realized that if I went into a relationship with her, I would not be happy, and I would be dating her on false pretenses. But I am going to live out my life and enjoy it. If I so happen to find the woman of my dreams then I will accept it and welcome it with open arms. I guess what I am trying to say is, live your life and don't take just any girl just because it is a relationship.

[dreamofdante]

I'm 18, never had a girlfriend, never held hands, never kissed. But I was in the same boat as you, I may be kinda of still am. I do want to share my happiness with someone else, but I believe it has to be the right person. I theoretically could have a girlfriend at the moment, but I realized that if I went into a relationship with her, I would not be happy, and I would be dating her on false pretenses. But I am going to live out my life and enjoy it. If I so happen to find the woman of my dreams then I will accept it and welcome it with open arms. I guess what I am trying to say is, live your life and don't take just any girl just because it is a relationship.

I've never had the chance and still don't so I myself am not in the same boat as you. Not sure about the OP though.

[Mastretta]

Sorry man, I'm not in the mood for trolls. If your intention was to help me, you totally missed it in your actions, but thank you for trying.

Not even trolling just giving the truth.

[Jman437]

I've never had the chance and still don't so I myself am not in the same boat as you. Not sure about the OP though.

I'm on the same boat as you man...

[Tenoka]

Could it be the type of girls you are talking to? If they seem similar in some aspects or more, that could honestly be it. You're not going to die alone nor be alone for your whole life, someone will have an interest in you. Get out more, do things you wouldn't normally do. On the way you might meet some new people and things you like.

[Elanor]

I'm on the same boat as you man...
It is easy to sink into feelings of hopelessness when things don't seem to work your way.
However, there are many factors that determine whether or not girls will be attracted to you.
Of course, good looks is an advantage, but it is also very important how you behave, what charisma you have, how healthy you seem, etc.

Also, don't get hung-up on the classic stereotypical personalities "nice guy" and "bad boy".
A "nice guy" is a guy who tries too hard to make a girl like him, hangs around his girlfriend all the time, and appears generally "needy";
and a "bad boy" is someone who acts like an ass to everyone.
None of these personalities are recommended, instead, what most girls tend to be attracted to is a guy who seems independent and self-confident, but also charming at the same time.
For example, I can go crazy over a guy who takes me on a date, gives me tons of fun, kisses me, and then doesn't call me until I do.
This is because he has triggered my curiosity and interest in him, and then shows me that I must also make efforts myself if I want to keep him - he didn't "need" me, he just took charge and showed his interest in me, and then left it to me to decide if I wanted to hear from him again.
Sure, this might sound like "manipulation" or whatever, but my point is that it's much more fun with guys who already seem content enough with their lives and don't need to double-check their girlfriend's interest every day.

[Jman437]

It is easy to sink into feelings of hopelessness when things don't seem to work your way.
However, there are many factors that determine whether or not girls will be attracted to you.
Of course, good looks is an advantage, but it is also very important how you behave, what charisma you have, how healthy you seem, etc.

Also, don't get hung-up on the classic stereotypical personalities "nice guy" and "bad boy".
A "nice guy" is a guy who tries too hard to make a girl like him, hangs around his girlfriend all the time, and appears generally "needy";
and a "bad boy" is someone who acts like an ass to everyone.
None of these personalities are recommended, instead, what most girls tend to be attracted to is a guy who seems independent and self-confident, but also charming at the same time.
For example, I can go crazy over a guy who takes me on a date, gives me tons of fun, kisses me, and then doesn't call me until I do.
This is because he has triggered my curiosity and interest in him, and then shows me that I must also make efforts myself if I want to keep him - he didn't "need" me, he just took charge and showed his interest in me, and then left it to me to decide if I wanted to hear from him again.
Sure, this might sound like "manipulation" or whatever, but my point is that it's much more fun with guys who already seem content enough with their lives and don't need to double-check their girlfriend's interest every day.

I get what you're trying to say, but in my case girls just want a seemingly confident guy for a boyfriend. They just don't give a shit if the guy is good or bad, and they prefer to date an overly confident guy than an average secure guy, which I am(note: I didn't put the insecure guy in here, anyone with half a neuron knows that insecurity is bad).

(now, a little rant about confidence):
Yes, confidence is attractive, because it's an indicator of past success, but this seems to be one of those deals where they've confused correlation and causation. Rather than thinking, "Maybe kids with high self-esteem feel good about themselves because they get good grades in school and have lots of friends," they decided that it's the other way around, that they succeed because they have self-esteem. So they tried to teach people to feel good about themselves for no other reason than pure entitlement, figuring the actual reasons for feeling good about themselves would follow at some later date. THIS is why I get so fucking angry when people tell me to "be confident", because it's no longer the "remember all of your past successes(if you have them) and realize that you're worth it!"(the REAL FUCKING MEANING OF CONFIDENCE), it's more like "feel like you're worth it, even if you're a complete piece of shit, good for nothing loser!", because let's face it: if you had nothing but failure to draw upon, and STILL be confident, then you'd be considered what science calls "a complete fucking idiot". (part of this I read it on cracked.com - 6 Bullshit Facts About Psychology That Everyone Believes)


"The trouble with the world is that the stupid are so confident while the intelligent are full of doubt."- Bertrand Russell

Now, I'm not saying that I'm the most intelligent person on earth(the more I know, the more I don't know xD), and there's also stupid people who are insecure, but confidence really gives stupid people an advantage. That's why people often complain about "jerks getting the girl", they take advantage of this loophole that exists on people's minds!

Now, feel free to call me an insecure idiot, you won't understand what I'm saying because you never had it any other way!
(end of rant)

It's not that I don't want to be confident, I just want to base my confidence on something that's not pure entitlement! And in the relationship department? With all the failures I've faced? It's COMPLETELY NORMAL to feel insecure. Now, there's a catch: I don't let that insecurity get the best of me! My body language certainly won't show it, but it's gonna be a long, hard way until my insecurity disappears.

[dreamofdante]

I get what you're trying to say, but in my case girls just want a seemingly confident guy for a boyfriend. They just don't give a shit if the guy is good or bad, and they prefer to date an overly confident guy than an average secure guy, which I am(note: I didn't put the insecure guy in here, anyone with half a neuron knows that insecurity is bad).

(now, a little rant about confidence):
Yes, confidence is attractive, because it's an indicator of past success, but this seems to be one of those deals where they've confused correlation and causation. Rather than thinking, "Maybe kids with high self-esteem feel good about themselves because they get good grades in school and have lots of friends," they decided that it's the other way around, that they succeed because they have self-esteem. So they tried to teach people to feel good about themselves for no other reason than pure entitlement, figuring the actual reasons for feeling good about themselves would follow at some later date. THIS is why I get so fucking angry when people tell me to "be confident", because it's no longer the "remember all of your past successes(if you have them) and realize that you're worth it!"(the REAL FUCKING MEANING OF CONFIDENCE), it's more like "feel like you're worth it, even if you're a complete piece of shit, good for nothing loser!", because let's face it: if you had nothing but failure to draw upon, and STILL be confident, then you'd be considered what science calls "a complete fucking idiot". (part of this I read it on cracked.com - 6 Bullshit Facts About Psychology That Everyone Believes)


"The trouble with the world is that the stupid are so confident while the intelligent are full of doubt."- Bertrand Russell

Now, I'm not saying that I'm the most intelligent person on earth(the more I know, the more I don't know xD), and there's also stupid people who are insecure, but confidence really gives stupid people an advantage. That's why people often complain about "jerks getting the girl", they take advantage of this loophole that exists on people's minds!

Now, feel free to call me an insecure idiot, you won't understand what I'm saying because you never had it any other way!
(end of rant)

It's not that I don't want to be confident, I just want to base my confidence on something that's not pure entitlement! And in the relationship department? With all the failures I've faced? It's COMPLETELY NORMAL to feel insecure. Now, there's a catch: I don't let that insecurity get the best of me! My body language certainly won't show it, but it's gonna be a long, hard way until my insecurity disappears.

Shit dude...You just said a lot of things that have been on my mind for a while. Preach on, brother.

[Jman437]

Not even trolling just giving the truth.

I know you want to act like the "brutally honest friend" on this topic. Well, sorry to break it to you, but you just plainly failed at it. Instead of giving me some harsh truth, the only thing you gave me was an awful impression of yourself, AND you proved that you didn't read my posts, which led me to the conclusion that you're just an ignorant little troll.

Now, even a broken clock is right two times a day, and if this ever happens to you, if you have anything good and intelligent to say in the meantime, say it. Otherwise, shut the hell up.

[Jman437]

Shit dude...You just said a lot of things that have been on my mind for a while. Preach on, brother.

It's nice to see that someone sees the world as I do. Thanks you for your kind words! :)

[dreamofdante]

It's nice to see that someone sees the world as I do. Thanks you for your kind words! :)

No problem. I'm a realist and the comment about intelligent people having doubt makes me wonder. When you've been rejected your whole life, it's natural to be insecure. I hate when I'm told to just be confident.

[Jman437]

No problem. I'm a realist and the comment about intelligent people having doubt makes me wonder. When you've been rejected your whole life, it's natural to be insecure. I hate when I'm told to just be confident.

They seem to think that confidence gives you superpowers xD
It's like telling a homeless person to get more money!

[dreamofdante]

They seem to think that confidence gives you superpowers xD
It's like telling a homeless person to get more money!

Confidence is such an odd word to me. I'm plenty confident but it doesn't get me anywhere haha. It really depends.

[Jman437]

Confidence is such an odd word to me. I'm plenty confident but it doesn't get me anywhere haha. It really depends.

I think that's just bad luck. Keep on being yourself, as you seem to have all the qualities and skills to make it, but it all seems to not go your way...

[Ben_Frost]

Everyone dies alone. Unless you're in a couple where both are suicidal maniacs or somehow plan to die at the same time.

You acknowledge you're shy, so the way to get around this would be to try as hard as you can to stop being overcome by your shyness, you should look for a way to be more outgoing and appealing to the kind of girl you're going for. Or you could always look around for people who would like you for who you are. You may not fin that person now, but it's no reason to think you never will.

And if what you say were true, solitude isn't as bad as everyone makes it seem. I've been alone for years, and I won't say I haven't considered what you've said, but after those years, I found you're not doomed to be alone forever, even if you don't get into a romantic relationship, there will always be someone willing to share their life with you.

[Jman437]

Everyone dies alone. Unless you're in a couple where both are suicidal maniacs or somehow plan to die at the same time.

You acknowledge you're shy, so the way to get around this would be to try as hard as you can to stop being overcome by your shyness, you should look for a way to be more outgoing and appealing to the kind of girl you're going for. Or you could always look around for people who would like you for who you are. You may not fin that person now, but it's no reason to think you never will.

And if what you say were true, solitude isn't as bad as everyone makes it seem. I've been alone for years, and I won't say I haven't considered what you've said, but after those years, I found you're not doomed to be alone forever, even if you don't get into a romantic relationship, there will always be someone willing to share their life with you.

My opinion on solitude is based on my own experience, and I don't really enjoy it, I profoundly hate the void that it creates, there's something missing, I want to share this solitude with someone, and with all the bad luck I've been having, the void gets even bigger...

[Mastretta]

I know you want to act like the "brutally honest friend" on this topic. Well, sorry to break it to you, but you just plainly failed at it. Instead of giving me some harsh truth, the only thing you gave me was an awful impression of yourself, AND you proved that you didn't read my posts, which led me to the conclusion that you're just an ignorant little troll.

Now, even a broken clock is right two times a day, and if this ever happens to you, if you have anything good and intelligent to say in the meantime, say it. Otherwise, shut the hell up.

Well that's is your opinion. Just know I pull more than you :yeah:.

[Ben_Frost]

My opinion on solitude is based on my own experience, and I don't really enjoy it, I profoundly hate the void that it creates, there's something missing, I want to share this solitude with someone, and with all the bad luck I've been having, the void gets even bigger...

Well that's totally unfortunate, but I think everyone here is actually trying to help you and you're pretty much rebuffing most advice we're giving to you. It's good that you acknowledge what's going wrong, but sulking about it won't help you. You want to share your happiness with someone, get a friend in the meantime, a good friend that will be happy because you're happy. You shouldn't worry too much about sharing your happiness with a loved one, friends do the work just right. You may have been alone for long, but there are people out there who have been in your same situation for longer, and they're not dooming themselves to die alone. Don't take that for granted just yet. I don't know what you will think of what I'm telling you, and I have a different view on solitude than you have, and I really wish what i have told you does help you.

[dreamofdante]

I think that's just bad luck. Keep on being yourself, as you seem to have all the qualities and skills to make it, but it all seems to not go your way...

Yeah nothing ever goes my way. I gave up trying back in February.

[Elanor]

The more you think about this, the more you will sink into negative, hopeless thoughts.
Yeah it's hard to just stop thinking about things that trouble you, but seriously, this is one of those things that won't get better just because you always have it on your mind.
I believe the reason for your problem started with some negative specific experiences with girls in the past, and then you have let this distort your whole attitude to it all, which gives you a hesitant vibe, which might make it harder for girls to feel comfortable around you, and so on.

Just stop dwelling on this now, and try to think of something else that you find enjoyable.
If you feel you don't have any success with girls right now, then you should try to make the best of other aspects of your life to begin with.
I know guys who have been in very similar situations, and then been able to "rise" again and suddenly start having much easier times with girls and social interactions in general.
The most important thing is to feel comfortable with yourself, that's when you can confidently pursue other things that you want in life.
You could always talk to a psychologist about this as well, they have lots of experience of people with psychological difficulties.

[EvanGr]

My friend, sorry if I offend you, but I think what you say is ridiculous, steming from the teenagers' lean towards a melodramatic attitude. You should realise you are pretty young to find your alter ego. I am 16 and still haven't had a girlfriend. Don't try to be like the others. Think that relations in teen years are not permanent for sure. So what if you have 100 relations when you are a teenager, what if you had none. I believe there is always an alter ego for everyone. So don't get depressed from this non-important matter many gyus have in our age.

[Jman437]

My friend, sorry if I offend you, but I think what you say is ridiculous, steming from the teenagers' lean towards a melodramatic attitude. You should realise you are pretty young to find your alter ego. I am 16 and still haven't had a girlfriend. Don't try to be like the others. Think that relations in teen years are not permanent for sure. So what if you have 100 relations when you are a teenager, what if you had none. I believe there is always an alter ego for everyone. So don't get depressed from this non-important matter many gyus have in our age.

*Your age