Being Used.

[AlexanderTheGreat]

So some of you may have been following my posts on here about the relationship between me and a girl that I want to date. I've liked her for about 2 years and I've known her for 8 years. We've made out so many times and I've thought I've had an amazing few months because this new side to her came up and suddenly I'm kissing the girl I've liked for ages! I wanted to ask her out for ages but I had the fear of rejection as most people do. So I consulted her best friend and she said that she didn't want a boyfriend. That didn't put me off her, I didn't care I still liked her. Then we are at a party and we make out & kiss but then she is kissing other people. I think she is drunk so it doesn't matter. This thing goes on for a while where we would make out and she would make me feel so much for her but then at parties she would kiss others but as I said I though she was drunk so it didn't matter. We then get to 2 days ago at a party. It's a small party with 11/12 people. Now I'm a depressive drunk and so I tried not to drink a lot but in the end I ended up in a depressive state. My thoughts then turn to her and I get even more sad. People start noticing and my mate David who I like to think of as my big brother took me aside and we had a chat. He was asking what was wrong and I explained that I was just thinking about her. He doesn't really know her but in a way that helped because he said this: 'I remember you telling me a few weeks back that you liked someone, I didn't realize that was her. Now I'm gonna put it on the table, from first impressions she behaves sluttly. She was making out with people and so I thought she was one of those girls. Now you don't see the flaws in her because you like her of course, but trust me, it doesn't look like she is ready for a commitment anytime soon. I took on what he said.
It's later in the night and I'm outside with David and Kieran who I also think of as my big brother. He said similar things and again I took it on board. Then I'm with my friends Nancy, Sophie and Luke. They then tell me what's really been going on because they were there when we first kissed. They were there at all the parties. They were there almost every time something happened. They said 'She's using you'. They went on to explain that I had been so easy manipulated. I was buying her gifts. I was giving her free gigs (because I'm a DJ). I was always there but she wasn't always there for me. She said jump I said how high and I could always go higher. Looking back on it people were trying to tell me and it got to the point where I didn't pay attention because I was so obsessed with her. To myself I thought 'Be stubborn. Say No'. She then comes into the room, sits down and leans on me. In my head I'm thinking 'No!' but it doesn't translate. She then asks me to get her phone and I do. In my head I'm thinking NO, but I doesn't translate.

I know she is using me but I struggle to do anything about it. And I don't want to end an 8 year friendship.
Any advice or stories would benefit me greatly and would be appreciated.

[Gumleaf]

There are many people out there who know how to get what they want. They just have the skills to manipulate and know how to flaunt it. For guys, there are some girls out there who figure out that the guy they are friends with like them and then they will give them just enough attention that they will do whatever they want them to do because the guy thinks he is always in with a chance with her and will do anything for her to keep that dream alive. You know, in this situation I would really think about ending the friendship with her because otherwise, unless you are very strong willed (and from what you say you haven't been so far despite being aware of how she manipulates you) you're just going to end up being in the cycle, because every time you convince yourself you'll say no to her, she'll do just enough to do you over again. So I would think carefully about this because apart from the manipulation, you could be robbing yourself the chance of dating other girls because of this too. Finally, listen and trust your friends. They know you best and possibly know what's better for you then you do yourself in situations like this. Good luck.