Dating your best friend?

[bigboy1342]

So I became very close with this girl in the past couple months. We are best friends, always hang out, talk almost every day etc. Lately I have realized I have developed feelings for her but don't know what to do. She currently has a boyfriend and Ive respected that and haven't said anything, tried to makes moves or whatever. But recently she went to college and whenever we talk she always tells me what her boyfriend did or what they were talking about. Its been making me pretty upset and pretty much the only thing I can think about because I like this girl and have to always hear about her boyfriend. Is there anything I can do to see if she feels the same way, or any advice to go about it? I have considered just stopping talking to her completely to try and stop me from being upset about it but i don't know if i should throw a whole friendship down the drain for it. I've also thought about just sucking it up and maybe in the future if they break up then try but I still don't know. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

[Calliope]

Don't just stop talking to her because of that! Just tell her about it, let her know that she talks about her boyfriend a bit too much and it doesn't really interest you... or something along those lines.
I'm afraid I don't have good advice for the romantic feelings part, but I don't think you should tell her yet. I'm really glad you're respecting the fact that she does have a boyfriend and I think it should stay that way for now.

[Melodic]

Honestly, If I was you, I would talk to her about how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same, at least you were honest to her and got it out of your system. However, doing that could have a big risk on your friendship if you aren't close enough, and if you want to still be close to her afterwards, I'd suggest probably not telling her and try moving on.

[Gumleaf]

If she is talking about her boyfriend a lot, especially in a positive way, i'd suggest she is liking him very much and as for you, you are very much in the friend zone right now. I've liked a friend before who had a boyfriend, and it sucks. But try and think of it this way.... Would you really want to risk upsetting her and screwing things up with her because you're upset about this sort of thing? Surely not. So I would not be telling her how you feel about her while she is happy with another guy, it will only create awkwardness for you. What I would suggest is to find another friend you can talk to about this. I've found talking to other people rather then moping about it does help. It also opens the door to talking to and possibly liking other people. Crushes you can't act on really do suck. But try not to let it get to you. The happiness of your friend should be one of your top concerns here and try and find some positivity from that.

[jacko]

Tell her how you feel and explain. This probably won't change the situation a whole lot, but since you're best friends, honesty and trust count. Don't stop talking to her just because of the situation.

[liptonlee]

sorry bro but the friendzone is really really hard to escape :/ (tried before)

but sooner or later you gotta tell her how you feel, way much better than letting the feelings pile up and explode at some point.

if you two are really best friends, I'm sure you can make it thru even if it turns out the wrong way!

[LoveLessOne]

i would let her know that you care. because she may be trying to prove to herself that this is the guy for her by tryingto convince her best friend. she may need another opinion