Now tell me how to deal with this

[PantherSized]

I really don't have much problems... but I'm just lonely. Lonely lonely lonely. Everyday its just continuous loneliness... I don't know if any of you have ever felt this way before, but it can drive someone into insanity. I have no friends, no girlfriends, no nothing. It's like this deep deep hole in my mind that nothing can fill. Now, naturally, I'm not the type that resolves to stupid ways to deal with problems such as cutting, suicide, etc... I do talk to people in my community college, but thats about it. Nothing outside of that scope. It's a recurring madness that happens everyday. Most of the people i meet either don't share similar interests as I do, or just don't interest me. I just don't understand.. I really don't. All I do is sit at home and think about what exactly is wrong with me. I talk to people, but I just don't have anyone at ALL... no one to hang out with my age, etc... my parents don't give a flying fuck about me, neither does my older brother (He's enjoying his life at his 4yr college). It goes way deeper than this, but someone HELP.. I just can't explain it and don't know exactly what is wrong with me, but I'm sinking, and I'm going fast...

[Crystal-Clear]

My goodness you sound just like me, except your slightly worse off than I am.

I can completely relate to how you feel, I moved away to college, and I live with a host family who are lovely to me but I pretend I'm fine to them allll the time, and I see no one outside of where I see them really. I got a voluntary job because I was so bored and lonely, because I have no friends here.
My friends in my home town said they'd visit, but not once have they come to see me. Only people who bother are my parents and boyfriend. My older brothers been up once, but we're not very close at all.

Perhaps theres a youth group or something you could go to? I got myself into cub leading, and I met a guy there whos about my age, and okay so his not a friend as such but I talk to him online from time to time. Its a start.

Thats what you need, you need 'a start' you know, even if its just one friend you have, one friend is all you need. And I know the loneliness sucks, I've had some pretty shit days, and I've cried myself to sleep because I feel isolated here. But the best thing to do is to dust yourself down and keep on going till the next thing sets you off.

If you really really need anyone to talk to, just pm me okay? I could always do with a new friend =)

Sorry for talking about myself too much there, I'm just trying to cast light on the similatirys is all....Ummm lets see what other nuggets of wisdo can I throw down here...

You say it goes deeper than just the loneliness, perhaps you just need a bit of a break from things, to help shed light on perspectives and what not.
Also try out this website -> http://www.connexions-direct.com/
They have on line e-mail and advisors, they can be quite helpful sometimes, if you give them the right information.

The best thing I can say really, is try and get yourself out there, its alot harder said than done, but as long as you try, no one can ask anything more of you.

I wish you the best of luck sweetie x

[steven]

i have never felt like you have, but at one stage in my life, i did feel like everyone was talking about me behind my back, as i kept hearing my name, this put me in such a state that i never left my house but stayed on video games all the time... then we got the internet and i said to myself, it cant be much worse getting along with people online than it is in real life, so i tried it, and had some of the best times in my life on video games online, because i had finally made some friends... online communities are generally the best because generally you have things in common, there is atleast one thing and that is the game/forum that you are on, this could be a basis for a conversation start, to talk about the game/forum how good it is, what could be improved and how good you are etc, then if you get to talk to a few people alot, then you could become real friends, although this has never actually happened to me personally, but i bet you could be really good mates with someone and then end up meeting them in person, this could take a few long years as i was on the video games for a good 3 - 4 years,
this is just basically what i did when i felt a little bit lonely, it could help you but i dno
Steve

[PantherSized]

Thanks for the replies guys, I appreciate it a lot.

[Nihilus]

At school try and find some of the other lonely to hang out with. As for the rest I can't help you.Just don't o to alcohol,smoking, or drugs.

[PunkPotterKid7]

i know how you feel. i am way younger than you, and i hae friends, but i feel like i have none sometimes. just try to find someone to talk to. dont seem desperate for friends, but try to have a conversation, or maybe try to find someone online. been single all my life. i kinda hate it, but it allows me to have freedom. so u should embrace it until you find someone.

[SirRawrsalot]

You just have to make some friends. It seems like that's the main thing. So by "stupid things like cutting" are you saying people who cut are stupid or just do stupid things, or something else. The vibe I'm getting is you think that it's really stupid and people who cut are just as stupid, but I could easily be wrong (I hope I am)

[byee]

wow, a picture Elliot. Wow.

Anyway, I can't respond to the original intent of the 'stupid' remark, but I can share my own reaction when I hear someone responding to their angst by cutting. It's very difficult to hear/read, Elliot. Eventhough i don't know what's going on inside at that moment (since I am a non cutter), I think just about anyone can imagine the intensity of the unhappiness, as well as the desperation.

So, I think people with feeling need to respond somehow to that, to the recognition of the overwhelm of the cutter. However, without a frame of reference for cutting, it seems illogical. you know, when most people are in pain (be it physical or mental), the intuitive response is to protect yourself, not inflict more pain!

So, although I'd never use the word 'Stupid' to describe anything, really; for some, it's the confusion of recognizing both the intensity of the pain and the desperation, on the one hand, and on the other, an awkward use of syntax to describe the bewilderment at the response to cause more pain that he might be responding to.

And when you think about it, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense. But that's emotions for you.

[SirRawrsalot]

You think things like love make more sense? Absolutely not. Nothing makes sense logically in that the human mind does unless you're currently doing it lol.

[byee]

No, love makes you crazy, we all know that! Bad example.

I think the issue is that the 'regular people' have a hard time squaring their recognition that cutting=pain + desperation, and the instinct to heal and take care when you're hurting. It IS illogical, when you think about it.

With love, people put up---------->No, wait, seek out!-----------> the craziness because there is also something so intrinsically and instinctually GOOD about it, it feels so deeply gratifying, that it's (all kidding aside) worth the angst and torment! LOL!

[Medical Kid]

C'mon Mr. Otaku Geek, I'm certain he didnt mean it like that, it was just a wrong choice of words.