Should I chase her?

[Vendetta123]

Going to try to make this short. I ended up going to senior prom with this girl who is a freshman but very fun to be around. She wasn't my first choice, but I thought why not. So fast-forward 3 months and I realized I really like her and want to be in a relationship with her. She is the first girl I liked for her personality more than her looks. The more I think about her, the more things I find we have in common. The only things preventing me from letting her know how I feel is that first of all, she is only a sophomore in high school now and I am entering college. Second, she is getting real popular now and I feel like she is too busy with sports and having fun with all her friends. And third, if she doesn't feel the same way about me, it will make our friendship awkward and I don't know when the next time I will feel the same way about a girl will be.

[CharlieHorse]

hey welcome to VT :)
you should also make an intro thread and tell about yourself here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=38).

As for your girl, maybe you should tell her your feelings about her, but do so in a way that is open to ideas and possibilities. If she says she doesn't want to be in a relationship, then that's something that you should be able and ready to hear and understand. I've done just that, and we both agreed to just be friends, and now, years later, we're great friends and have never been closer. You can do the same too if you allow it.
If she does like you back, then great! :D You might get some weird look from people because of your age difference, but I don't think it's worth losing the chance of a relationship with her. If you love her, then a little age difference shouldn't make an issue. People sometimes don't get that, but I think that love is worth it, even with the occasional weird look from judgmental jealous lonely people.

Do you think you would be willing to tell her your feelings? You might even want to tell her everything you said here.

[Karl1]

It takes a lot of courage to say that, because it is kinda risky. But we only live once so I suggest that you make the most out of it. little age difference for me is not an issue either.

[liptonlee]

Going to try to make this short. I ended up going to senior prom with this girl who is a freshman but very fun to be around. She wasn't my first choice, but I thought why not. So fast-forward 3 months and I realized I really like her and want to be in a relationship with her. She is the first girl I liked for her personality more than her looks. The more I think about her, the more things I find we have in common. The only things preventing me from letting her know how I feel is that first of all, she is only a sophomore in high school now and I am entering college. Second, she is getting real popular now and I feel like she is too busy with sports and having fun with all her friends. And third, if she doesn't feel the same way about me, it will make our friendship awkward and I don't know when the next time I will feel the same way about a girl will be.

i'd say go for it!

do you 2 have common friends so you can try to solicit some of her opinions towards you? that may help you plan better

i know, 'afraid of breaking the friendship' is a fairly common reason holding people back, but since you are in college, if you keep the current state of affairs, it seems you 2 can't get any closer than now. Age difference doesn't matter, especially when yours isn't really a major one lol

if you 2 are true friends, i'm sure even if you get rejected, things will heal fast! like you said, feelings like these comes rare and you needa seize the opportunity before all the magic is gone.

[Gumleaf]

I agree with those above me. Talk to her about how you feel and see where she is at. If you don't, you'll just end up driving yourself crazy with the various 'What if.....' scenarios going on in your mind. By getting it all out in the open one way or another you will know and then you can move on whether it be in a relationship with her or be able to move on knowing you tried. From my experience (even if it's a rejection) it's a positive step to tell someone you like how you feel when you know they are single and might be interested. It's much easier to move on from someone when you know how they feel about you also. Good luck, and I hope it all works out for you.