What should I do????

[chickflick09]

Hi everyone! I'm not sure if this is where I should post this, but oh well.

I'm beggining to really hate my parents. I mean they are very nice I guess caring for me, feeding me, putting a roof over my head, but everything else, not so much.

I"m really good in school, I get straight A's in everything. My dad signs me up for all these afterschool mathcourses. He thinks i'm going to be an engineer when I grow up. Yesterday, he actually had the nerve to say, when you get older, we're going to move to coopertino with you when you work for Apple. It's like he's dictating what I'm going to do with my life, and he's turning HIS dreams, into my life, which I hate.

I love animals, I have 2 rabbits and 2 turtles. My parents only let me play with them when I'm done with all my schoolwork. They don't take any of my pets to the vet. Once they took my rabbits to the vet for there teeth, and my dad told me how much a waste his $50 was.

My parents FORCE me to play tennis, piano, and do math. I aboslutely HATE tennis. It's just not what I want to do. I'm okay at it, and whenever I tell my dad I hate it, he yells at me and says "don't you every say that again! We're a tennis family." He's forcing me to play it and I hate it. The piano is not to bad, but the math. I do get really good grades, but my dad keeps signing me up for all these really hard after school math courses.

My true passion is with animals. I love horses, and dogs. I really want a dog, but my parents keep making up reasons not to get me one, like what about your tennis schedule, and you'll get distracted with your math.

Yesterday, my dad was just watching T.V, and I asked him if he could help me move his chicken coop to the back of the house. He said this, "With your attitude, you seriously think i'm going to move it, think again "honey"."

I really want to volunteer at the animal shelter, and ride horses. But I have no idea on how to tell my parents that.

Please don't say I sound like a spoiled brat, because I'm the total opposite of that.

I really have lost so much respect for my parents, they think what THEY want is making me happy.

[Leprous]

Hey, there, look, first of all, we are all there for you. You should believe in yourself and try to tell your parents what you want to do with your life. I'm sure you can do it. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm always there to help.

[lemondrop]

That discipline is good but wayy too much, you should say them thag you not interested in that ,tell him that you hate engineering, they can force you to study but not plan you life if you don't even like it...So just one day say to you mom that you don't want to be engineer and she should try to speak with your dad if he's not listening to you..

[Luminous]

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[Whight]

It's great that you are a good student and it's great that you also know what you're passionate about.
Working with animals doesn't mean you're doing something less worthwhile with your life than doing math. Try and explain that to your parents.
Or at the very least tell them you're still growing up and you want to experience different things and for now, working with animals is an experience you fill is crucial for your upbringing. I'm certain you can find multiple articles online that proves working with animals has a really positive thing.

Other than that, I will say though I can sort of understand your parents. They want to see you realize your potential to the fullest, possibly thinking you're not in an age where you know what is best for you and if they won't push you then your potential will go to waste.
Try and look at it from their perspective and attack at as such. explain to them that it's too much for you to bear and that putting some of it on hold for a few years until you get a sense on what you really want to do isn't the worst of things and might even be the best course of action.
But you must also know that just because you love animals now, doesn't mean 5-6 years from now you'll still want to work with them. That's why it could really be good for you to have that experience now to see how you like it.

Hope it all works out :)

[Second Chance]

While your parents certainly seem like they want the best for you, they are definitely taking things overboard with their basically planning out your life for you now and into the future. At this stage there is no sense in talking about what is wrong since you laid that out for us but rather to think about how to make things right.

Is it a fair guess that where you live is kind of a rural area or semi-rural area? Based upon your having a chicken coop I think you are somewhere outside a metro area because most cities have ordinances against having farm animals at houses. Assuming your parents have lived in a rural area for most of their lives or are currently farmers, then I'm guessing they want a change and want to live in a city. There is nothing wrong thinking like that, but if they want to make a change, then they need to do it for themselves and not through you. Perhaps your parents had some missed opportunities they have regretted and are now trying to live their lives through you which is not right.

What I would suggest is that you look up your school counselor and talk things out with him/her. There is no question that you and your parents are going to have to come up with a happy medium. For example, if you give up tennis, then you should make up for that by being committed to a volunteer schedule at the animal shelter.

As for the piano, since you do not hate that, then I would not give that up because you do not want to rock the boat too much. I would leave the piano thing alone and continue doing that.

Thinking about the math, that is a tough call because there is no question in our modern economy that is a skill everyone is going to need. Especially if your goal in life is to work in veterinary science, then you will definitely need strong math skills because there are all of those conversions that happen with medication and calculating this or that for certain kinds of animals. I know this sounds crazy, but I think the math would definitely help you if you choose to pursue veterinary science, and it would not be a bad idea to pursue math. I would compromise with your parents so that you are taking a math class that is more geared towards complementing what you are taking at school as opposed to hard core engineering.

It seems like your parents are those types who think they have to make all the decisions for you because they think you might end up living in a cardboard box under a freeway overpass. It seems like you have a good head on your shoulders, and working with animals, especially veterinary science, is a good way to go and will definitely ensure you have a good future because America is still a nation of farms needing plenty of people to handle sick and injured animals. If it is scary to talk to your parents on your own, then get someone to help you such as an older person or someone who your parents expect.

My fear is at the rate you are going your parents are turning you into a robot and are basically making you do everything they say without getting input from you. While you're not an adult you still have a right to your feelings. As long as you are not doing anything wrong like hanging out with the wrong crowd, doing drugs, or even not putting the effort in school, then your feelings are fine. All because you have a different ambition than what your parents had planned out for you does not make you bad or should make your relationship with your parents impossible. Basically, your parents have to accept you for who you are rather than who they want you to be. All I can say is you'll end up on some therapist's couch in a couple of years if your parents don't try to meet you half way and lighten up.