im gay, but can i have some personal help?

[Jack russell dad]

I know im gay, men turn me on, i want to date and kiss and hug and have sex with men. Women are complete turn offs. I have no desire to kiss, hug, or have sex with a woman.
Now, i have not experimented, im too shy. But i can think of hugging a woman, kissing one, or spending my life with one. I dont really get a happy feeling. No feeling. Just a uncomfortable feelin. Yet with a guy i get aroused when i think of kissing and hugging, and i get this happy feelin from thinking of spending my life with a guy.
now i have one main question. I had this before but it turned into a pure argument.
how do i stop these thoughts saying im in a phase or that being gay is wrong.

But my attractions, crushes, and feelings say other wise. I have thought about it and i wont be completely happy unless im with a man. I have no feelings towards women. I wouldnt be happy with one. Im thinking the thoughts are because i was raised against homosexuality.
And wish me luck im gonna try and get with this hot blonde guy

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

To do something wrong, one has to, or has to have done something actively wrong. That being said, being gay is not wrong, because, nature or nurture, you did nothing to become gay, therefore being gay is not wrong.

[Jack russell dad]

To do something wrong, one has to, or has to have done something actively wrong. That being said, being gay is not wrong, because, nature or nurture, you did nothing to become gay, therefore being gay is not wrong.

No no no. Im not saying its wrong. In my opinion i like it better than being straight. Its beutiful. I just said thats one of those thoughts. I only get them when im not doin anything and im just thinking. Im just accepting the fact. Cause its just something i never thought id be. but im gay. I cant change it, nor do i want to. I just wanna stop those thoughts that make me question myself, even tho i know im gay. I reviewed my attractions in the passed and EVERYTHING points to gay.
I actually am gonna come out at school. The guy that i like, just moved here and is being cussed out and stuff. Im gonna come out to relieve some of that off him. And i have fallen for the guy. Blonde, my height, skinny, blue streak in his hair, beutiful voice. i just hope he likes me

[fast8]

There is nothing wrong with being gay no reason you should feel there is go and be happy don't worry what some say not everyone think the same

[AdamS]

If youre like me its mainly society that tells us being gay is different or negative or wrong. Especially with all the "that's gay..." for anything bad or different or silly.

At least you know youre gay and you accept it?
These wrong or guilty feels, thats probably cause of all that other stuff. Stuff that isnt really real :D

[Jack russell dad]

If youre like me its mainly society that tells us being gay is different or negative or wrong. Especially with all the "that's gay..." for anything bad or different or silly.

At least you know youre gay and you accept it?
These wrong or guilty feels, thats probably cause of all that other stuff. Stuff that isnt really real :D

Thats actually exactly what it is. If i listen to music and it talks about picking girls up and i enjoy the song, then i start questioning. But what you said pretty much sums it up:D

[AdamS]

See its not real negativity anyway :)

Sounds like you need a positive person in your life you can trust. Someone you can come out to and accept you. Parent, brother, sister, friend?

[Jack russell dad]

See its not real negativity anyway :)

Sounds like you need a positive person in your life you can trust. Someone you can come out to and accept you. Parent, brother, sister, friend?

Teacher. My mom knows cause she seen my messages to my boyfriend, she told my step dad who wanted to make me straight. Luckily she wouldnt let him. my sis hates me. But i trust my teacher. Mr. Keaton was supportive when i told him.

[AdamS]

The fact your mom and teacher support who you are should go some to making you feel better about who you are. Reminds me of a quote my cousin told me

"Those that matter, don't mind. Those that mind, don't matter".

[Jack russell dad]

The fact your mom and teacher support who you are should go some to making you feel better about who you are. Reminds me of a quote my cousin told me

"Those that matter, don't mind. Those that mind, don't matter".

Yea mom dont support me exactly. And yea that quote sounds nice:)

[JakePaiv]

I've heard that quote before, but I can't place it. And it's completely true . If you love your family, there's not much you can do. If they don't accept you for who you are, then let them be that way. Otherwise thank them for their support. Eventually they should come to terms with it.
And that new member was a "little rude".

[AdamS]

I've heard that quote before, but I can't place it. And it's completely true . If you love your family, there's not much you can do. If they don't accept you for who you are, then let them be that way. Otherwise thank them for their support. Eventually they should come to terms with it.
And that new member was a "little rude".

Who was rude? Did i miss something? O_o

[Jack russell dad]

Who was rude? Did i miss something? O_o

Yea. Big time. My last post. Some guy calling me a mental case and that being gay means only having sex up the ass. As if we dont love other men.

http://www.ocfoundation.org/eo_ho.aspx

Oh btw i finally, FINALLY, figured out what makes me constantly test myself and have these thoughts saying im not gay. The answer is this simple= O.C.D
go to that link. I experience alot of that. I know im gay, but i constantly worry over it as if im gonna instantly turn straight

[AdamS]

Ah i see. I missed the trolls visiting...

I have someof those symptoms n some OC too. But I think for me it's part of the aspergers... #socially awkward :D

[Jack russell dad]

Ah i see. I missed the trolls visiting...

I have someof those symptoms n some OC too. But I think for me it's part of the aspergers... #socially awkward :D

#sociallyawkward i hear ya bro. I made friends with that blonde hottie today :D im gonna wait till were good friends before i ask him out.
God he's hot:wub:

[AdamS]

:D
That's awesome!
& that seems a smart plan, good luck ^_^

[JakePaiv]

All right good luck and may the odds be ever in your favor!

[Jack russell dad]

:D
That's awesome!
& that seems a smart plan, good luck ^_^

All right good luck and may the odds be ever in your favor!

Thanks guys:D

[xXEverReadyXx]

Good luck! ^_^

[Matt_97]

Just something you've got to remember is that its society telling you its wrong, that's likely the reason you're having these thoughts. You're unlikely to be able toc hange them yourself because society is a bit of a repressive d!(k, but i think if you come out then i'll become easie for those thoughts to slip away because knowing that you have other people accept you then you'll be more ready to accept that it is right (not that you believe it's wrong in the first place)! I hope that made a tiny bit of sense :/

Juts think about these little things: How many song are written out of a gay relationship? How many adverts feature a gay/lesbian couple or even family? How many TV shows are centered around gay characters? Is society showing you that being straight is the most acceptable thing!!

[Jack russell dad]

Just something you've got to remember is that its society telling you its wrong, that's likely the reason you're having these thoughts. You're unlikely to be able toc hange them yourself because society is a bit of a repressive d!(k, but i think if you come out then i'll become easie for those thoughts to slip away because knowing that you have other people accept you then you'll be more ready to accept that it is right (not that you believe it's wrong in the first place)! I hope that made a tiny bit of sense :/

Juts think about these little things: How many song are written out of a gay relationship? How many adverts feature a gay/lesbian couple or even family? How many TV shows are centered around gay characters? Is society showing you that being straight is the most acceptable thing!!

Yea, true. That makes sence. And ive noticed i feel better about it as i have come out. Well ive came out to mom, friend(3), my 9th grade science teacher, and with luck i can muster the courage to tell the new guy i like him. Thanks

[Whight]

Good luck with the guy.
I think it's awesome you took a step and came out to people.

I was the same place you were a couple of years ago. I felt better around guys, even though I tried to always picture myself with a girl. Even dated one for a bit. But when things took a turn for the worst in my life - I sought comfort in my best friend who's a guy and that's where I felt truly safe and happy.
And I haven't left there since :P.

So what i'm saying is. What we feel isn't a choice, but how we act on it is. Just do whatever, it's not like your choices now will set your sexual alignment one way or the other for the future.

[Jack russell dad]

Good luck with the guy.
I think it's awesome you took a step and came out to people.

I was the same place you were a couple of years ago. I felt better around guys, even though I tried to always picture myself with a girl. Even dated one for a bit. But when things took a turn for the worst in my life - I sought comfort in my best friend who's a guy and that's where I felt truly safe and happy.
And I haven't left there since :P.

So what i'm saying is. What we feel isn't a choice, but how we act on it is. Just do whatever, it's not like your choices now will set your sexual alignment one way or the other for the future.

Ugh i cant muster up to talk to the new guy. And i sometimes picture myself with girls, but i can say 100% truthfully that i would never be fully happy unless i was with a guy. Ive never dated a girl, or crushed crushed on one. i really have no interest to. And yea, i like my guy friends, i remember i had a really strong crush on josh in 10th grade, i mean STRONG. i wantedto kiss him, hug him, but alas, as every other crush except rich(new guy) and ryan(my ex) are or were straight.
and yes i know. But im embracing it. I really need a gay friend. If i cant date rich, i want to be his friend

[Whight]

Ugh i cant muster up to talk to the new guy. And i sometimes picture myself with girls, but i can say 100% truthfully that i would never be fully happy unless i was with a guy. Ive never dated a girl, or crushed crushed on one. i really have no interest to. And yea, i like my guy friends, i remember i had a really strong crush on josh in 10th grade, i mean STRONG. i wantedto kiss him, hug him, but alas, as every other crush except rich(new guy) and ryan(my ex) are or were straight.
and yes i know. But im embracing it. I really need a gay friend. If i cant date rich, i want to be his friend

You could just be his friend and work up towards dating him.
How did you get with Ryan?

[Jack russell dad]

You could just be his friend and work up towards dating him.
How did you get with Ryan?
Yea.
well i met ryan off here, vt. He was 4 1/2 hours away. Same state etc. I LOVED him. Never had i loved anybody that much. He was himself, cute, a mean streak, lovable, affectionate. We talked on skype and i asked him out. Last friday (august 15) one day before our one month anniversary he left me for another man. I felt empty inside, as if i had had all that i care about and love took away from me. I still feel like that when i think of him. He didnt even say he loved me the last time i said it before we broke up.

[Whight]

In that case I suggest you pace yourself with Rich. Just be friends with him.
Sounds to me like you blew a fast one through your first relationship. One month is quite a short while to both fall madly inlove and have your heart snapped in half.

I was friends with my boyfriend for a long time before we started dating.