fat/chubby boys

[Renata_cmp]

Hey girls, i was wondering...
right now i think im getting more and more attracted to my best friend (a guy) who is rather large (he went from skinny to normal, to obese, now he "chubby" whatever that means)... And yeah, i don't see anything wrong with his body, i'm not saying i have a "fat fetish" or whatever, but it seems like a lot of people finds fat boys really ugly and unattractive, everyone is all for 'muscles' and 'six pack abs' and such, but honestly i never get why. I think a little belly is as cute as a flat stomach and don't find abs more attractive... Plus i don't think it's fair to pressure guys for getting muscles and stuff if w don't want them to pressure us to be skinny and get big boobs and such.
I don't know if i'm weird or not for thinking that, what do you think? Do you find fat/chubby boys really ugly? Am i odd for not finding muscles that attractive?

[unknownuser]

Super super fit and ripped guys are just scary, no offense. :P

Everyone's got their own preferences. :)

[Renata_cmp]

so ripped guys are ugly too? Now i'm confused.. :o lol i guess you're right, it's a matter of preference, but the 'chubby ones' seems to be liked just by very few people...

[unknownuser]

so ripped guys are ugly too? Now i'm confused.. :o lol i guess you're right, it's a matter of preference, but the 'chubby ones' seems to be liked just by very few people...

No, no, no, I did not say that. It's just my preference.
Some people see overweight people as super ugly, some will tell you that super skinny people are ugly.


And I'm talking about those super super ripped guys, where they're to the point that you're like, "what? how? is this guy even real?" :eek:
Like scary, how is this possible, ripped. :P

[Renata_cmp]

well i met people that finds fat, skinny and super ripped people ugly, so the only thing they like is absolute perfection, great, does not put any pressure at all...
About super ripped people, i truly have a lot of respect for them, because it takes unbelievable time and dedication to obtain these results, a lot more than we can imagine, it's a complete lifestyle (and not a easy one) they're not doing it to be "hot", clearly, so even if i don't find it attractive, i still respect them for doing what i could never be able to do.

[Cece_Bugg]

Its all about preferance, i like guys with a little mucsel no fat,

[Renata_cmp]

yeah like everyone else, nobody tolerates fat guys, but if a guy tell you he like thin girls, he's a total jerk... sorry ig i sound mean, but i just don't get why...

[Luminous]

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[CharlieHorse]

soft guys snuggle better ^_^

I think it's normal to have preferences, however unusual or unpopular they may be. I think most find that the over-muscular look is not very practical. It's exaggerated by the media, just like it is for girls.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I share the same attraction, altough in my case it probably is a fetish. However I love bigger men, they cuddle better, and they're more masculine, generally.

[Renata_cmp]

last year my friend nearly killed himself, out of depression and self-consciousness, he was convinced that nobody would ever loved him... People always called him a "lazy fat kid who just sit on his ass and eat garbage all day", not knowing he was struggling with bulimia, was spending hours planning all his meals, doing sports everyday... but no, in the end people always assuming he was a lazy disgusting person just based on his looks...

[shaune]

Dat boys are ugly and have small dicks

[Dark Unicorn]

I would say my ideal is tall and slim,like boyishly muscular,not ripped but I find that guys come in all shapes and size and I think they are all cool.Chubby,skinny and everything in between,it all seems cool to me.

[CosmicNoodle]

Kind of a double standard here, women are allowed to like men with abbs and mscles, and thats OK, but if I guy only likes skinny women with big boobs then hes a jerk....whats with that? Why are women expempt from this?

[Renata_cmp]

Dat boys are ugly and have small dicks
Is that a joke?
Cosmic noodle, i agree with you. Women saying that they only like skinny and ripped guys that's ok , but men saying they only like skinny girls and they become the biggest assholes...
With that said, the "real women's beauty" trend is filled with incredibly hurtful comments made by men, when the "real men's beauty" is more accepted by females. So i don't know. I guess just everyone is shallow and regards beauty first...

[Melodic]

That's not bad at all. I've liked a few chubby guys myself.

[Blood]

Kind of a double standard here, women are allowed to like men with abbs and mscles, and thats OK, but if I guy only likes skinny women with big boobs then hes a jerk....whats with that? Why are women expempt from this?

For the same reasons a guy can sleep around with women and be considered a player while a woman can do the same thing but she'll be considered a whore. Social stigmas.

I don't like overly defined muscles on men or women. It just doesn't look right to me. I prefer them to be toned or with some muscle definition. I don't mind chubby guys or girls either, you just have to be generally healthy. But at the end of the day personality will always win with me.

[Renata_cmp]

the point is, guys, if you're not skinny or ripped you're never gonna find a girlfriend...

[metallic_pink]

Do you find fat/chubby boys really ugly?

Of course not. I mean, personally, I prefer toned guys over a chubby or the super ripped ones. Though there are actually fat/chubby guys who are cute. I won't mind dating one if he's got a great personality. A super muscular guy is intimidating too, then again, it's all how they carry a conversation (and themselves) that matters!

[rvale22]

I know I'm a guy... but you should choose what you want! Its better to have a fat boyfriend that respects you for who you really are, than a ripped guy who treats you good for the first 2 weeks and then treats you like garbage! Go for what your heart tells you! Fat and everything can go away, attitude doesn't....

[nikkissippi121]

I like boys of all sizes. I've dated several boys who were overweight, and several who weren't. I don't see how it should matter. Cute is cute! :)

[Waleedbt]

I like that this thread started.
I was never fat, but tbh i never got myself to talk to a girl that i might be interested in without actually getting fully tonned. Its not easy, but hey i'm doing it for my own good too, loving the transformation also.
Point is, made me thinking, its not like i'm wanting a certain body shape from the girl.

No one is perfect. The girl i'm into right now is amazing, i never thought about her body, or anything like, i fell for her kindness, on how much we are alike, and how she treats people exactly like me, unable to say "no" to anyone.

Sorry, i realised the title states "boy" :)

[Renata_cmp]

Again, you will have a lot more chances to get dates with your body than a large guy. Same goes with large girls, and this sucks. I'm sure if i showed a pic of my bff here, everyone would find him disgustingly ugly... I don't get why physique is so important, but it is, so... "On ne vois bien qu'avec le cœur, l'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux." said a wise man.

[Juggalosmoker]

There is nothing wrong with fat guys i've learnt to live with my moobs ;p

[Obsidian]

If I was pursuing a relationship with someone it wouldn't matter to me that much what they look like. If they had personality traits that I was really attracted to it wouldn't matter if they were fit and muscular or if they were a little bit bigger. As far as relationships go looks are unimportant to me. They aren't what makes a relationship work.

When it comes to just noticing whether or not someone is attractive, I find myself attracted to bigger guys as well as fit guys. I like blonde guys as well as dark haired guys and guys with long hair as well as guys with short hair. I guess I am just really open minded when it comes to looks. I can find something attractive in everyone.

Obviously not everyone is like this. Some guys like thin girls and some guys like big girls. Some girls like blonde guys and some girls like dark haired guys. There is no universal definition of what is attractive. Different people are attracted to different things, and there's nothing wrong with that. I don't think it's right to tell people what they should or should not be attracted to.

You have the right to believe that your friend is attractive just as others have the right to believe he is unattractive. There is no right or wrong answer. It all depends on the person. It's inaccurate to assume everyone would find him unattractive because you don't know what each individual person finds attractive.

The problem is with conventional beauty standards; the standards that tell us girls have to be thin to be attractive and guys need Channing Tatum-like muscles :P I think it's up to us to not let those standards define our own. Just because the media or whatever makes it seem like you have to be a certain way to be attractive doesn't mean that everyone buys into that and follows those standards for beauty. Be your own person and find your own definition of what's attractive.

[Renata_cmp]

I wish everyone had the same mindset as you. Unfortunately, medias keeps smashing into people's head that everyone should have a god-like body and if you don't you're a loser that deserves to die... and the worst thing is that it's working.