self harming and cant go to doctors

[Broken Toy]

i self harm all the time and im so scared about opening up to people. there are 5 people who know, 4 of them already told me they had self harmed and the 5th is the reason i self harm. she is my best friend and i fell for her and i began to self harm after not feeling good enough and now i want to go to the doctors but im scared. im 15 and apparently i need to go with and adult but no one in my family knows. what do i do

[Luminous]

You're very brave for telling people and deciding you want to go to the doctor. Unfortunately, if you need an adult, you need an adult, but there are other ways to deal with this. Do you have a school counselor you could talk to? They've likely dealt with this before and can help you, they will also assist you in telling your parents or will do it for you if you don't think you can. If not, talk to another adult you trust. An aunt or uncle, a teacher, your old babysitter. If the other people who already know are willing to help, don't be afraid to ask. They may be willing to call up your parents for you and explain what you can't say. Once it's out in the open you'll find it easier to talk about, and it'll all get better from there.
I admire your bravery, and I believe in you. If you need to talk with someone, I'm always here.

[Broken Toy]

unfortunately schools in england are spectacularly bad at supporting mental health issues. if i go to the school they'll tell my parents so i am trying to find a way around. i'll be 16 in january so i guess i could wait but i might just try and book an appointment and see if they will. i'm just so scared about going but i know i need to. its took me 2 months. thanks for the help

[Desuetude]

Right I'll tell you my experience because a year ago I was in exactly the same boat being 15 and living in England.

I was having a particularly shit day and ended up going to my head of year. Told her I was feeling suicidal and she called my mum (not actually telling her specific details) to take me out of school to my GP. Got to the doctors and asked mum to wait outside to which she complied and the doctor allowed. Told the GP I was feeling down blah blah and she made me do the depression test from which she said I had moderate depression and would refer me to a local self help centre. However my head of year is in contact with CAHMS (child and adolescent mental heath services) therefore I was pushed up on their register and got to that therapy quicker.

So if you do end up telling your doctor your parents might find out that you're going but they don't really need to know specifics, not unless you confide that you're actively suicidal and actually contemplating. I mean I understand that in my case everything was extremely confidential which you might not find everywhere but sometimes, if you find yourself at the last straw, you need to pick yourself up and do something about it. I also saw a youth councillor that came into the school in year 10 and she somewhat helped. Are you sure there's no one like that at your school? Guidance councillor etc? I mean ask around and see because I assume most schools will have one. Also if you do talk to them then before you give any personal situations away ask about their confidentiality system and at what point they'd need to tell someone else what you've said. Then you'd know where you stand and should feel less anxious about giving things away. I hope my story somewhat helps and if you have any questions feel free to ask.

[Broken Toy]

thanks so much it means a lot to have support. im pretty sure theres no-one like that because my city isn't exactly catering towards young people and in school there isn't even anywhere you can go if you need time alone. in fact, my school has a lot of holes in the walls from people punching them when they can't go anywhere. anyway, the closest we have is that my head of year is quite nice and if i asked i guess she would be willing to talk without making it official. my friend has gone on holiday and when she comes back she said she would ring up the doctors for me and everything. i guess i should mention she's why i self harm. thank you so so much though.