I just want to forget her

[Jman437]

I once went on a trip with some of my high school friends(back when their relationship status didn't define them) to the countryside, and on the way back home we stopped at a café to have a couple of drinks, and there was this waitress that, as soon as I entered, started smiling and greeting us, but as my friends were going to the table, she made eye contact with me and we both smiled at each other. I felt some kind of chemistry, but I don't know if this was just her being nice, or just the fact that I fall in love very easily... I like to think it was something special we had there, like love at first sight(I felt like I knew that person, even though I never knew she existed), but this is too good to be true. She was wayy out of my league...

Still, I never saw her again. Two years passed and I went to the same café(call me creepy, what you want :b) and she wasn't there, which left me heartbroken and emotionally devastated. I came home depressed, I never felt so sad. Now there's a massive void I can't fill, no matter how hard I try. I really want to forget her(I don't need any more pain in my life, anxiety's enough), but she marked me in such a way that, whenever I thought of her face and her smile, my day improved and I faced everything with a new light. But I'll never see her again and will never have a chance with her... I don't want any more pain, I want to forget her...

[Cognizant]

I felt the same way towards a ride operator at a local amusement park that I go to often. I was extremely attracted to them when I first saw him. Throughout the day I was there, I would constantly keep going on his ride so I could socialize with him, even if it meant just acknowledgement that he recognized that it was me again. If I'm being honest I probably would've started to get a little more flirty with him if I knew he didn't scream "straight boy." :P I felt really close to him though, and I did have very nice dreams and such about him. After I left the first day, I never really saw him again (I did end up seeing him the next time I went, but it was at the end of his shift and then never saw him to date). It did make me a bit depressed, because I did really want to see him again and get to know him better (and whether he was available or not).

In the end, I came to a realization: once you two split ways and never really see each other again, keeping your feelings for them is a lost cause. I've come to accept that I'll never really see him again, and even if I do, the possibility of romance is highly unlikely. Oh well, that's just how life rolls. There'll always be another guy (or girl) that I find equally or much more attractive, both physically and emotionally, and if you try to take comfort in that idea, it'll help you move on past her faster. Chin up, bud!

[Gumleaf]

This might sound a bit harsh, but I don't think it was love at first sight. we can find someone really attractive at first sight and they can leave a really positive impression on us with a smile or something like that. Sure, there is a chance that there may have been some chemistry. But chances are she was just being nice, as you are the customer afterall.

[Jman437]

I felt the same way towards a ride operator at a local amusement park that I go to often. I was extremely attracted to them when I first saw him. Throughout the day I was there, I would constantly keep going on his ride so I could socialize with him, even if it meant just acknowledgement that he recognized that it was me again. If I'm being honest I probably would've started to get a little more flirty with him if I knew he didn't scream "straight boy." :P I felt really close to him though, and I did have very nice dreams and such about him. After I left the first day, I never really saw him again (I did end up seeing him the next time I went, but it was at the end of his shift and then never saw him to date). It did make me a bit depressed, because I did really want to see him again and get to know him better (and whether he was available or not).

In the end, I came to a realization: once you two split ways and never really see each other again, keeping your feelings for them is a lost cause. I've come to accept that I'll never really see him again, and even if I do, the possibility of romance is highly unlikely. Oh well, that's just how life rolls. There'll always be another guy (or girl) that I find equally or much more attractive, both physically and emotionally, and if you try to take comfort in that idea, it'll help you move on past her faster. Chin up, bud!

Problem is: she was the only girl that smiled at me... No other girl smiled at me before, I will probably never have another chance in the future...

[Cognizant]

Problem is: she was the only girl that smiled at me... No other girl smiled at me before, I will probably never have another chance in the future...

Hey man, you never know. I felt that way after breaking things off with my first ex, but then my second ex proved me wrong (until they turned into a jerk but I digress :P) Sometimes the spark won't come to you, and you have to go looking for it. THat's my situation now, and I'm pretty sure I'll find someone to love my way soon if I just do a little bit of looking and talking.

[Jman437]

Hey man, you never know. I felt that way after breaking things off with my first ex, but then my second ex proved me wrong (until they turned into a jerk but I digress :P) Sometimes the spark won't come to you, and you have to go looking for it. THat's my situation now, and I'm pretty sure I'll find someone to love my way soon if I just do a little bit of looking and talking.

Nah, probably not. Trust me, I've gone looking for it, didn't find it. I stopped and focused on college and myself, still nothing. I've lost absolutely all hope of finding someone...

[Cognizant]

Nah, probably not. Trust me, I've gone looking for it, didn't find it. I stopped and focused on college and myself, still nothing. I've lost absolutely all hope of finding someone...

Have you tried an online service, such as OkCupid or eHarmony before?

[Jman437]

Have you tried an online service, such as OkCupid or eHarmony before?

No, I don't really trust those websites...