Mom doesn't like my underwear preference.

[Decalo]

I was wondering if anyone can give me advice. I'm 17 and my brother wears boxers (23). I wore boxers up until 10th grade when I had finally had enough. I switched to trunks. But since tenth grade, my mom hasn't bought me a pair of underwear because I usually buy it myself or have my dad buy it. I live with my mom though, and she does the laundry and refuses to let me do my own. About 2 months ago she did laundry and I had a pair of black briefs in there, and she looked at me and said "What the hell are these, you actually wear these". I threw them all away, but recently I told my dad I prefer briefs, so he bought me some, and I'm scared to wear them, What would you do? I prefer briefs, I can handle wearing trunks but I like the support of briefs. Should I try and hide them, or tell her it is none of her business?

Last question, what do you wear, Boxers, BoxerBriefs, Trunks, or Briefs?

As a side note, my mom is very judgmental, so she will see like a pink shirt and call me gay. Which I am bi, but she doesn't know that.

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[chris97]

:s its your body and your clothes; you wouldn't tell your mum that you hate the top shes wearing or judge her for the clothes that she wears :l

if she has a problem with them just tell her that you like the support they give you, thats the reason i gave my parents when i chose briefs over y-fronts or boxers and mum& dad just went with it and bought me the undies i preferred :)

what he said

[Canadian Dream]

I wouldn't try to keep it secret, it would probably become a real pain. Maybe have a talk with her and let her know that you choose what you wear and that she shouldn't judge you that way.

[Just a Guy]

Just tell her the truth and wear the underwear you want to wear.

And I personally wear boxer briefs and boxers

[ksdnfkfr]

maybe she just didn't like that they were black. but unless she says you can't wear them then go for it. since when do we do every last thing our parents like?

[joel-d]

That sucks man, I'm sorry your mom is so judgmental.

My opinion is that it's up to you what kind of underwear you wear, especially if you or your dad buy them and you're not even asking her to pay. But I guess she has her own opinion.

Is there any way that you can do your own laundry, like maybe do it when you get home from school and before she's home? I know that something could go wrong with that if she finds out you're using the washer and she gets mad. But I think that's what I would try if I was in your situation.

Good luck man.

[MatiasKun]

Just keep wearing them, eventually she will get tired of making any comments. Meanwhile ask ur dad for new briefs in case your mom keeps throwing them away

[dreamofdante]

Honestly she shouldn't be so concerned over what underwear you wear. That's kind of mean to be honest.

I wear boxers.

[Bull]

I wear low rise Jockey briefs and prefer black or navy blue. Why should it make any difference to your mother what style of under ware you wear? I choose briefs for the support they provide. I go commando a lot, but there are times a guy needs to support his penis and balls, so it is briefs for that reason. A lot of straight guys wear briefs and pink shirts. To say a particular color is "gay" is just wrong. So, does your mother go ballistic every time God shows her a rainbow? You don't say how old you are, but it may be time to change your living situation to be with your dad.

[Jim1]

That situation sounds pretty bizarre, but I suppose at 17 you are already planning for the next stage
of your life when you won't be living with your mom and you won't have to take any guff about your
underwear choices, or any others. It's unfortunate that some kids have to grow up in living situations
where not everyone in the home is perfectly sane.

[justarandomteen]

It's your clothing preference, your mom shouldn't judge! Anyway, I'm 13, prefer briefs.

[Decalo]

Thanks for all the replies! I am 17 for those of you wondering. I'm currently wearing block hanes xtemp briefs, I think because they look nice, they aren't dorky or "gay" looking that I might get away with not having her comment on them. I'm laughing at the comments about my mom being insane ect. Because I thought I was the only one who thought this. So far I have decided to work my way into this and wear about 2 a week and hope that she doesn't comment. Many times in the past she has referred to briefs as gross and for grandpas. Next year I will be going to college but I am unsure of if I am moving or not for it so I might be stuck with her and her ways for a few more years. Again thank you for all the replies so far, I love hearing all the opinions.

[nklarke]

Tell her that you don't like the underwear she wears......... let's see if she will change just because of your opinion.

[GoGoDiego]

Try to talk to her. Remember: Your body=Your clothes

[NeuroTiger]

If you feel comfortable in briefs...feel free to wear it.
As for your mum, explain to her about the comfort of briefs and also briefs are easier to wash.so easier task for her.

[Andy1998]

Start wearing panties just to see what she does

[CrazyPerson101]

I was wondering if anyone can give me advice. I'm 17 and my brother wears boxers (23). I wore boxers up until 10th grade when I had finally had enough. I switched to trunks. But since tenth grade, my mom hasn't bought me a pair of underwear because I usually buy it myself or have my dad buy it. I live with my mom though, and she does the laundry and refuses to let me do my own. About 2 months ago she did laundry and I had a pair of black briefs in there, and she looked at me and said "What the hell are these, you actually wear these". I threw them all away, but recently I told my dad I prefer briefs, so he bought me some, and I'm scared to wear them, What would you do? I prefer briefs, I can handle wearing trunks but I like the support of briefs. Should I try and hide them, or tell her it is none of her business?

Last question, what do you wear, Boxers, BoxerBriefs, Trunks, or Briefs?

I prefer Boxers but that's just me ....

Try to talk to her. Remember: Your body=Your clothes

this is the best answer right there ^^

[CuteGuy889]

Tell her how comforatble and practical briefs are....All athletes/footballers wear them.......
Of course moms can be pretty intrusive and treat u lyk a baby into your teens.....

For instance, if I fall a sleep on the sofa my mom always used to take my pants off leaving me in my briefs. Even in my cousins'/friend's place..In front of my sis (6 yrs older) + girl cousins (all older)!!!
This happen until I was 14 years old!!!. It is pretty embarrassing to fall asleep all dressed up and wake up sans you pants in front of your sis + girl cousins even tho they were in thier 20s.....I had to cry and make a tantrum for her to stop these whn I reached 14.

[Decalo]

I prefer Boxers but that's just me ....


I'm so excited you answered my question, you're like my favorite poster on here!
Thank you everyone for your replies!

I don't want to say anything like "I don't approve of your underwear mom" ect because she is just the kind of person that just wouldn't take that okay. My best bet from what I can think of is to just say that I prefer them. As a follow up question can anyone relate to this? I know a few people have said they can, how did it go for you?

Tell her how comforatble and practical briefs are....All athletes/footballers wear them.......
Of course moms can be pretty intrusive and treat u lyk a baby into your teens.....

For instance, if I fall a sleep on the sofa my mom always used to take my pants off leaving me in my briefs. Even in my cousins'/friend's place..In front of my sis (6 yrs older) + girl cousins (all older)!!!
This happen until I was 14 years old!!!. It is pretty embarrassing to fall asleep all dressed up and wake up sans you pants in front of your sis + girl cousins even tho they were in thier 20s.....I had to cry and make a tantrum for her to stop these whn I reached 14.
I can totally relate to this, my mom used to "put me to bed" when I was about 13 or so, and she told me I had to take off my pants before I could get in bed. I know this sounds weird, but it isn't AS weird as that sounds haha. Was like a routine.

-merged double post. -Emerald Dream.

[CrazyPerson101]

I'm so excited you answered my question, you're like my favorite poster on here!
Thank you everyone for your replies!

I don't want to say anything like "I don't approve of your underwear mom" ect because she is just the kind of person that just wouldn't take that okay. My best bet from what I can think of is to just say that I prefer them. As a follow up question can anyone relate to this? I know a few people have said they can, how did it go for you?


Lol really ? Well thanks :) and I understand what you mean. You wanna tell your mom you don't like the underwear you've gotten BUT you have to word it carefully. I think saying that you prefer them would be your best bet ( since I don't know you're mother and how she thinks and all that ) & I told my mom I need more underwear and she asked if I wanted white ones and I said nope, boxers, I need for room around there and Id like some please and she said Okay Will do. ( oh btw, feel free to pm me if you want lol )

[Decalo]

Lol really ? Well thanks :) and I understand what you mean. You wanna tell your mom you don't like the underwear you've gotten BUT you have to word it carefully. I think saying that you prefer them would be your best bet ( since I don't know you're mother and how she thinks and all that ) & I told my mom I need more underwear and she asked if I wanted white ones and I said nope, boxers, I need for room around there and Id like some please and she said Okay Will do. ( oh btw, feel free to pm me if you want lol )

Well I don't wear white ones in my opinion that is gross, I like black or grey and the nice looking ones not nerdy boy in tighty whities lol. That is what I do to get briefs from my dad because he is a guy he understands. I don't think I can pm yet lol but I think all your answers are always good and you post so much haha. I always look for your comments.

[CrazyPerson101]

I know right ! and lol yeah I told her that and she was like okay and Okay, maybe you should ask him to help you out :) Maybe he can talk to her ? and Oh yeah I just noticed that and Awww Thanks lol and I do don't I lol .... and Aww Thanks again :)

[Cloud_Strife]

I was wondering if anyone can give me advice. I'm 17 and my brother wears boxers (23). I wore boxers up until 10th grade when I had finally had enough. I switched to trunks. But since tenth grade, my mom hasn't bought me a pair of underwear because I usually buy it myself or have my dad buy it. I live with my mom though, and she does the laundry and refuses to let me do my own. About 2 months ago she did laundry and I had a pair of black briefs in there, and she looked at me and said "What the hell are these, you actually wear these". I threw them all away, but recently I told my dad I prefer briefs, so he bought me some, and I'm scared to wear them, What would you do? I prefer briefs, I can handle wearing trunks but I like the support of briefs. Should I try and hide them, or tell her it is none of her business?


It's a matter of personal choice, which she should learn to respect. As a parent, she's probably made most, if not all of the major decisions for you in your childhood until more recently. It is very easy for her to translate her preferences across onto it being as decisions on your behalf, even now.

Nonetheless, preferences are preferences and conscious choices are conscious choices. I doubt she'd go so far as to scathingly say: "How could you like chocolate ice cream more than vanilla ice cream? You are to eat vanilla flavour from now on only as it is what I prefer!" You could learn to accept vanilla ice cream, but in the above scenario, you'd probably still prefer chocolate at the end of the day.

Likewise, clothing choice, which if not openly offensive and in this case is personal? You should have your own control over.

I would not openly say that it is not her business, as you so worded. Instead I'd explain it so that she understands that it is your own personal preference and is what makes you feel comfortable with your own body. If she can see past her own personal preferences, she would then hopefully be able to prioritise your comfort and happiness instead.

Hope that helps and good luck!

[PinkFloyd]

It's really none of her business what type of underwear you prefer so I say just wear what you want; and if your mom gives you shit for it, tell her it's weird and obnoxious for her to critique what type of underwear you prefer. Oh and I wear boxer briefs.

[Tyson S]

Let's get something clear, mums are always concerned over our well being , telling us from right from wrong. Its OK for your mum to "dislike" your choice in underwear, however its your body and only you know what is comfortable and what is not. Let's be honest, were all scared That our mums going think differently about you if you wear "weird" underwear. The reality is that boys will be boys.

So my advice is wear them, let your mum know that wearing briefs are more comfortable and go from there

[Coolguy10890]

OMG dude if I had your mom I wouldn't be able to stand her! This is what I would say (but I suggest you don't actually say it)

"MOM! I'm 17! I can do my own laundry, and what's wrong with my underwear? It gives me support, what if I said to you I didn't like your bras? But wait they give you support don't they?"

Don't actually say that, but if I was in your shoes that's what I would say… I wouldn't care if she punishes me after that XD

[Decalo]

OMG dude if I had your mom I wouldn't be able to stand her! This is what I would say (but I suggest you don't actually say it)

"MOM! I'm 17! I can do my own laundry, and what's wrong with my underwear? It gives me support, what if I said to you I didn't like your bras? But wait they give you support don't they?"

Don't actually say that, but if I was in your shoes that's what I would say… I wouldn't care if she punishes me after that XD

HAHAHA, I don't think I'll go that far. And for all the people saying to tell her it is none of her business, she seems to think everything is. But she is the kind of person that even though I have a job, car, ect. She still wants to know everything that happens in my life. "What I ate" "Every possible thing about me" lol. As an update, she did laundry yesterday and didn't say anything about it. But if she would have I would have explained to her that I paid $75 for groceries because she said she was broke so her opinion on my underwear is not needed. I just hate sounding mean.

[Your Captain]

Who gives a shit about what she thinks. Just wear them, next time she washes them she won't say anything

[fast8]

Just tell her u like wearing them they feel better

[Waleedbt]

I wear boxer briefs.

To the topic, well... It seems that she only really asked you if you wore them.

[HSJock206]

Wear what you want. IF your dad buys them and she has an issue with it, take it up with him, not you. If your dad is ok with it and its what you like, your old enough to decide what to wear for underwear. Parents have alot more to be worried about with teenagers than the underwear they have.

[Semi_IronMan]

Yor mom shudn't tel u what underwear u should wear, i mean you're 17. U dnt tel her wat underwear to wear do u?
So i suggest u tel yor mom u wnt to wear briefs n she must just mke peace wth the fact tht u're grown enough to chose the kinda clothes/underwear u wnt to wear, n maybe u shuld do ur own laundry... Jus' say'ng

[girllover666]

I was wondering if anyone can give me advice. I'm 17 and my brother wears boxers (23). I wore boxers up until 10th grade when I had finally had enough. I switched to trunks. But since tenth grade, my mom hasn't bought me a pair of underwear because I usually buy it myself or have my dad buy it. I live with my mom though, and she does the laundry and refuses to let me do my own. About 2 months ago she did laundry and I had a pair of black briefs in there, and she looked at me and said "What the hell are these, you actually wear these". I threw them all away, but recently I told my dad I prefer briefs, so he bought me some, and I'm scared to wear them, What would you do? I prefer briefs, I can handle wearing trunks but I like the support of briefs. Should I try and hide them, or tell her it is none of her business?

Last question, what do you wear, Boxers, BoxerBriefs, Trunks, or Briefs?

I think that as long as you or your dad are buying it and not your mom, you should do whatever you want with them. Couldn't you jut do you laundry at your dad's house if you go over there??
I wear hollister boxer briefs.

[crazypuertorican06]

[QUOTE=Decalo;2904174 About 2 months ago she did laundry and I had a pair of black briefs in there, and she looked at me and said "What the hell are these, you actually wear these". I threw them all away, but recently I told my dad I prefer briefs, so he bought me some, and I'm scared to wear them, What would you do? I prefer briefs, I can handle wearing trunks but I like the support of briefs. Should I try and hide them, or tell her it is none of her business?

Last question, what do you wear, Boxers, BoxerBriefs, Trunks, or Briefs?

As a side note, my mom is very judgmental, so she will see like a pink shirt and call me gay. Which I am bi, but she doesn't know that.[/QUOTE]

So, personally, I wear BoxerBriefs, because I like the tightness. I think it's a little weird that your mom said that to you....briefs are considered men's underwear :/ I think you should tell her, that wearing them is your choice, and she can't control that. Don't be hostile though, as that can cause problems, and if she calls you gay for it, then you might as well tell her that you're bi. My parents found out, and they're really judgmental, but I told them I don't care about their opinions. Eventually, it got to the point where we don't talk about me having boyfriends and stuff like that, so it's WAY less awkward.

[Connormann]

I either use Trunks or Low Rise Trunks. These are pretty much the only things I own:
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?productId=0234_4263_476&catId=cat1710005
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?productId=0235_1255_597&catId=cat1710005

[lemondrop]

Tell her that you feel comfortable with them or something like that