Does My b/f Still Think I’m Hot?

[Abbeys]

I don’t want to be too explicit and upset the mods but I will try to make it obvious.

A lot of girls on here have more experience than me and so I need your advice.

Thing is,when I first got with my b/f he was instantly ready for action,if you see what I mean?
Now three months on I have to get him (warmed up) before he can perform.

Does this mean he is going off me or getting bored?
Other than that things are really good.

[Taryn98]

He's the only one who can answer this and this is a prime example why good communication is very important in a relationship.

[Abbeys]

He's the only one who can answer this and this is a prime example why good communication is very important in a relationship.

Your right Taryn but I don't think I could start a conversation like that but if I could and he said he didn't like me anymore I would be in pieces.

I was just wondering if this is one of the first signs it is over so I can try and prepare myself for being dumped and not cry too much in front of him when he tells me.

[Renata_cmp]

I think you should talk to him about it, even if he's not always 'ready' doesn't mean he wants to dump you, being in a relationship is not just about sex (and if he think that way, he wasn't worth it anyways).

[ozteen]

l'd say he's getting used to you and isn't quite so ''trigger happy'''....

[Abbeys]

l'd say he's getting used to you and isn't quite so ''trigger happy'''....


Which is a nice way of saying he's bored.

:(:(:(

[Renata_cmp]

Imagine people married for 20+ years, obviously they're used to each others, it doesn't mean they're bored.

[sophiaLockhart]

sometimes with guys, at the start its the thrill of something new, then they calm down from it. but even when this happens it doesn't mean they have gone off you, just find ways to keep it exciting for you both, don't make it chore make it a surprise for you both if that makes sense to you

[shaune]

Try New things in bed,spice it up

[ChrisTJ]

I think it's actually quite common for both partners eventually to slow down as others have said. In the beginning sex amazing and wonderful and you want it 5 times a day but in time, this can be 3, 6 or 12 months down the line you slow down, you become 'used to' it. Doersn't mean bored per se, just the relationship may mean other thangs than just sex. However if you're worried then ask her about it as it may be an underlying problem.

[Abbeys]

Thanks everybody for your wonderful messages,they are so helpful and helps me understand better what's going on.

I did think I made a mistake with the title of this post cos it makes me sound like I think I;m hot but I really think the opposite but I didn't know how else to put it.


AND

Some people have sent me lovely messages of support but I can't answer cos I don't have enough posts yet so please don't think I'm being ignorant or unfriendly.

Abbey

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