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[japanman]

Ok this girl named karra rides my bus and lately she has told me that her dad has thrwon her and also kicked her. she says this happens alot. Her dad also cuesses at her for no reason and yells at her this has been goin on alot and her best friend travis isnt helping so i came here for help. Do you think this is abuse? what could she do to stop this?
Is there anything i should do to help her?
anything will be appreciated

[thesphinx]

This sounds most definitely like abuse, have you talked to her about going to the police? if it's as bad as she says it is she NEEDS to do something before she gets seriously hurt!

[japanman]

This sounds most definitely like abuse, have you talked to her about going to the police? if it's as bad as she says it is she NEEDS to do something before she gets seriously hurt!
Yes i have tried to tell her to call the cops but she said she already tried but her dad noticed and told never to try that again. but i will keep suggesting it to her. :(

[Sugaree]

Yup this is abuse. it's verbal and phisical. So go ahead and talk to the police about it. They will be able to help

[japanman]

ok well i will tell her that but i may have to contact the cops too but i dont want her dad to find out and hurt her.

[Sugaree]

Well just go and tell your parents about it and they will call the cops. Make sure that you give them the adress and all before ok?

this situation will be over trust me

[Techno Monster]

^ Agreed call the Authorities.

[japanman]

Well just go and tell your parents about it and they will call the cops. Make sure that you give them the adress and all before ok?

this situation will be over trust me
ok well ill have to ask her for her address tho then tell my parents and give them the adress and tell them the story i just hope she tells me.

[Sugaree]

Well ask her the next time you see her

[japanman]

Ok thatl be tomorrow morning on the bus. thank you so much. :)

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

I was in this situation, with my 'dad' where, if we had called the police on him, he'd only be in there for one night the next day, well we never found out. But the fear of being murdered wasn't a good fear to live with.

So look at it from this side, when he gets out, he's going to be extra mad, which undeniably means more pain for her, then again, she just gets the police again, and arrest him again. I'm not sure how the entire system works, but as far as I know, after that one time, I wouldn't wanna face him.

[japanman]

ya thats why i am so confused

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

My solution was to simply get myself kicked out of my home, live with my grandparents, its all I could do.

[japanman]

ok well i told her but she said "he said he was sry and that i wasnt listening" i thought that wasnt a good reason to hurt her but she said no its ok. so i just told her if she gets in trouble to try that plan out. i just hope shell be ok. but i tried my best and ill be on my gaurd ill ask her how shes doing with her dad every now and then. so ya thanks for the help The Reaper and Leagelbeagle and Ifpiratescouldfly and The sphinx thank you all, i will make sure to keep you ppl updated b/c i have never delt with a problem like this before and i need to learn. and i am.

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

Learning is probably the best thing ever, so its good you learn. And yes, keep us updated :3

[thesphinx]

Alright hang in there :hug: we're here for you.

[japanman]

:confused: ok so today she talked to me and said something about her mom doing something abusive and her dad not. it confused me but she didnt want to say more so ill ask her tomorrow on the bus. So far i can only help her by listening to her but eh it is workin she does seem more happy now.

[sophies_justice]

i think that maybe you should go to your school counselor and tell him/her what is going on. i know that i was once in an abusive situation and i had no idea how to get out of it, so if i were you i would just go to your school counselor, tell them what is going on, and they will have to do something about it. it's the law here in the U.S. and it will help your friend in the long run. especially since she is afraid. better to do it now, before it gets any worse than what it already is. hang in there and stay strong. you're a good friend and she is lucky to have you!

[japanman]

i think that maybe you should go to your school counselor and tell him/her what is going on. i know that i was once in an abusive situation and i had no idea how to get out of it, so if i were you i would just go to your school counselor, tell them what is going on, and they will have to do something about it. it's the law here in the U.S. and it will help your friend in the long run. especially since she is afraid. better to do it now, before it gets any worse than what it already is. hang in there and stay strong. you're a good friend and she is lucky to have you!
i am? lol ok thanks im just doin what i no is right but still thank you. So today she was a bit confused. She said that her dad had stop and that her mom who lives in san diago is doing something to make him angry. I told that i could help her by calling the police but she doesnt want to risk it so after that i didnt kno what to do but since you mentioned school counseler ill try that. But before i do i gotta tell her about if shes ok with it then ill go but if she doesnt im gonna make sure to ask everyonce in awhile how shes doin with her dad but if he starts bieng abusive well i have no choice but to go to the counseler cause i cant let it happen.

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

I dont like guidance councelors or however you spell it, mostly because they really don't care in my personal opinion, but if it gets the job done, then yeah, you should tell them.

[japanman]

hell ill try anything. it is against my moral fiber to let abuse live.

[Nihilus]

ya i think its child abuse.:eek::eek::eek:

[silentc0re]

I think its child abuse but that dad is a bitch i cant believe he would do that to his own daughter.

[japanman]

I cant beilive it either and today she told me more her grandfather was telling her father to stop drinking and bieng so iggnornt he even called her dad a prick. Her dad then got angry and started throwing dishes around. SHe said she was in the same room when it was happening.
To make things worse Travis her best friend is now bieng a dick hes bing mean and obnouxious and he has been accting like this around everyone.
So all i could to do help her is to talk to her and that seemed to help but i still dont know wat to do.
shes thinking of moving back in with her mom or grandparents.
So i posted this update to see if anyone has any ideas of wat she should do.

[Oblivion]

I dont like guidance councelors or however you spell it, mostly because they really don't care in my personal opinion, but if it gets the job done, then yeah, you should tell them.

They care so much! Why else would they be guidance counselors? They WANT to help, they are certified to help, they get PAID to help! Try going to the counselor and asking about it

[alicia]

I dont like guidance councelors or however you spell it, mostly because they really don't care in my personal opinion, but if it gets the job done, then yeah, you should tell them.

Guidance counselors do care. Although, from personal experience I hate taking a visit to one. Everytime I do I end up bawling my eyes out because they talk about such personal moments.

But they help out, so suggest that to her.
Maybe she should move in with her mom or someone close that is trusting and wouldn't abuse her like that. You need to make sure she gets out of that environment.

[japanman]

Well ill suggest to her the guidene counsler and if she should move in with her mom.
thanks all the help : )

[Nihilus]

Ok this girl named karra rides my bus and lately she has told me that her dad has thrwon her and also kicked her. she says this happens alot. Her dad also cuesses at her for no reason and yells at her this has been goin on alot and her best friend travis isnt helping so i came here for help. Do you think this is abuse? what could she do to stop this?
Is there anything i should do to help her?
anything will be appreciated

Yes this is abuse. What she should do if this continues is go to a adult like a councilar and if this continues she should call the cops. japanman I would keep on supporting her through this. I wish her good luck in with dealing with her father. :(:(:(:scratchchin:

[foof1]

that is abuse.