I gave it to you, now you give it to me.

[sixguy6]

Idk how to start this because idk where to start but I'll try my best.
I've given some ok advice (I think) now I ask you to return the favor. Please.

Well I'm in a LDR (long distance relationship). If I start from the beginning it'll be longer than all the posts on VT, so let me make it as short as possible.

Well I met My girl A In February of last year online and we talked like a normal friendship and we rly liked talking to each other and then after a few months became basically best friends. So on November of last year I told her I liked her and she said she liked me too and we both knew but we just stayed friends because we were far away. So I was with different girls and then on Christmas she texted me and I finally told her I loved her and she said she loved me too, so it was a great start of the year for us and even I did make a few mistakes here and there I did continue to love her. So in February 2014 i decided to just think of her and not be with anyone else.


In April we had planned that I would go see her because she lived in the same state but very far away. I ended up not going and I was devastated, I thought maybe I should have tried harder or? Maybe I should have asked my mum to take me and she did give me permission to go but no one wanted to go with me because I was a minor so I couldn't go :(.


Fast forward to the end of June, she had said that she was going to move and I nvr wanted to talk about it because it made us both very sad. So she left the US and moved to Italy, yes Italy. So now she lives practically on the other side of the world and we both want to stay together but for me its just been a long time and I've been having many doubts about if things will workout or not. For me its rly hard, my heart says yes to stay with her because I love her so much but my brain says leave her because she is going to stay in Italy for 2 years and she won't come and visit you, you won't be able to see each other at all and I can't sleep because I think of to many things at night. I just don't know what to do, I know I always said if you have a problem fix it because its so easy to fix things but this it the hardest thing I've ever had to do and now idk what to tell her. I want to stay but just knowing I will never be able to see her for 2 Years or more just tears my heart. I want to love her, i do but it'd just loving her hurts to much.


What do you think I should do? Leave her and try to find love with another girl? Or stay and toughen out all the years I will have to be without her for? I just don't know what to do anymore. Please help me, I rly need it. I am going crazy without her and maybe its ruining me or maybe its helping me somehow? Idk :'(:'(:'(. I just don't know:(I hate loving her but I love it even more ugh why does it have to be so hard..........

[metallic_pink]

Idk how to start this because idk where to start but I'll try my best.
I've given some ok advice (I think) now I ask you to return the favor. Please.

Well I'm in a LDR (long distance relationship). If I start from the beginning it'll be longer than all the posts on VT, so let me make it as short as possible.

Well I met My girl A In February of last year online and we talked like a normal friendship and we rly liked talking to each other and then after a few months became basically best friends. So on November of last year I told her I liked her and she said she liked me too and we both knew but we just stayed friends because we were far away. So I was with different girls and then on Christmas she texted me and I finally told her I loved her and she said she loved me too, so it was a great start of the year for us and even I did make a few mistakes here and there I did continue to love her. So in February 2014 i decided to just think of her and not be with anyone else.


In April we had planned that I would go see her because she lived in the same state but very far away. I ended up not going and I was devastated, I thought maybe I should have tried harder or? Maybe I should have asked my mum to take me and she did give me permission to go but no one wanted to go with me because I was a minor so I couldn't go :(.


Fast forward to the end of June, she had said that she was going to move and I nvr wanted to talk about it because it made us both very sad. So she left the US and moved to Italy, yes Italy. So now she lives practically on the other side of the world and we both want to stay together but for me its just been a long time and I've been having many doubts about if things will workout or not. For me its rly hard, my heart says yes to stay with her because I love her so much but my brain says leave her because she is going to stay in Italy for 2 years and she won't come and visit you, you won't be able to see each other at all and I can't sleep because I think of to many things at night. I just don't know what to do, I know I always said if you have a problem fix it because its so easy to fix things but this it the hardest thing I've ever had to do and now idk what to tell her. I want to stay but just knowing I will never be able to see her for 2 Years or more just tears my heart. I want to love her, i do but it'd just loving her hurts to much.


What do you think I should do? Leave her and try to find love with another girl? Or stay and toughen out all the years I will have to be without her for? I just don't know what to do anymore. Please help me, I rly need it. I am going crazy without her and maybe its ruining me or maybe its helping me somehow? Idk :'(:'(:'(. I just don't know:(I hate loving her but I love it even more ugh why does it have to be so hard..........


So sorry to hear about what you're feeling. You have to weigh things up. Is she worth fighting for? Do you think she'll put in some effort too if you choose to go on with your LDR? Have you talked about your set-up seriously?

Time flies so fast and before you know it, that 2-year wait is over. My best friend was on an LDR. It was really tough (seen her pains and all that), but after all those challenges and years, she and her guy are engaged to be married next year. If you're willing to sacrifice a lot of things (as with any type of serious relationship) then go for it.

Easier said than done, I know. Good luck and hope you've come up with the best decision for the two of you.

[sixguy6]

So sorry to hear about what you're feeling. You have to weigh things up. Is she worth fighting for? Do you think she'll put in some effort too if you choose to go on with your LDR? Have you talked about your set-up seriously?

Time flies so fast and before you know it, that 2-year wait is over. My best friend was on an LDR. It was really tough (seen her pains and all that), but after all those challenges and years, she and her guy are engaged to be married next year. If you're willing to sacrifice a lot of things (as with any type of serious relationship) then go for it.

Easier said than done, I know. Good luck and hope you've come up with the best decision for the two of you.

Thank you for answering. Yes she is worth it but idk if I can be without someones touch for so long:(. We do put in effort but seems like I put in more than her and when doesn't show her love as much as I do but imo she does love me.

Yeah we have talked about it but it makes us sad to talk about it and if we talk about it for to long I think both of us know that either one of us would suggest we end it and thats why we don't talk about it much. Well everyone is diff but I just dont know what'll happen. I'm just scared of the future and she also says she's going to a university in Scotland for 10 years or something:/ its rly hard

I haven't come up with anything to say but I will soon, I hope. Thanks once again and I appreciate it:)

[Blood]

If she just recently moved and you're already doubting you can "go without somone's touch for so long" I think it's best for you to move on, you know? That's just my advice. You know yourself better than any of us ever will, so you'll do what you thinks best in the end.

[Waleedbt]

Hey, wow that's a hard situation.
If she is there for 2 years, there will be a point where she will come back to the U.S to visit. Unless her family is just staying there and not coming for the next 2 years, heck im a student abroad and i visit every break i have, i have the right to go any country i want too.

All im saying, its not impossible for her to come visit after a while, heck you tried (i think ) and she should too. Easier for her than you in that situation, since she has friends she might want to see too ( just an excuse i guess ).Now thats an effort to show how much she loves you.

I honestly say if you love her, you should give it a go. Even though its a risk that you should take to trust her same as her trusting you.

I don't know what to tell you about that ' Touch ' but people do need it, and thats coming from me, someone who has been alone forever. ( being in a different country doesn't help me either)

Good Luck bro, its your call, you have to decide if she actually cares as much as you do , i mean you are here talking about, just shows how you are holding strong to this relationship. I wish you the very best :) and im sorry if im not able to get my point across. Im weird ;p

[Phonix]

Damn.

I think if I was in a relationship like this it would be hard for me also. I mean people have to do this all the time like if they are in the military. I feel were you're coming from though because I know how it feels.

I think that you should really talk it over with her, you should really try to relate with her in the ways that you can relate with her. So that the decision can become more clear. I think only you two could make that decision.

All the best prayers and wishes to you. I hope that whatever happens, your happy with it and you have no regrets about it.

[Gumleaf]

That sucks dude. Online relationships are the hardest of all and I really think in this case you should just remain friends and no longer be 'official' together. People online can be the greatest of friends because it's so easy to open up to someone online and to have a really close bond like that. The thing is though as humans we need that touch or at least the promise that you'll get to be together in person in a realistic time frame. Even maintaining quality friendships can be hard online, let alone full blown relationships. I really think you should focus on your friendship and not rob yourself of the chance of meeting someone lovely who you can be physically with. I know it's hard, but sometimes the right decisions are the hardest. Good luck!

[Klokotnitza]

Find another girlfriend,LDR's don't work.

[sixguy6]

If she just recently moved and you're already doubting you can "go without somone's touch for so long" I think it's best for you to move on, you know? That's just my advice. You know yourself better than any of us ever will, so you'll do what you thinks best in the end.

I have never hugged her or touched her or even felt the warmth of her breath......but now that shes even further i guess i doubt it way more. Thank you so much! I didnt expect this many people to answer, im very greatful:) i think i may have to move on........idk

Hey, wow that's a hard situation.
If she is there for 2 years, there will be a point where she will come back to the U.S to visit. Unless her family is just staying there and not coming for the next 2 years, heck im a student abroad and i visit every break i have, i have the right to go any country i want too.

All im saying, its not impossible for her to come visit after a while, heck you tried (i think ) and she should too. Easier for her than you in that situation, since she has friends she might want to see too ( just an excuse i guess ).Now thats an effort to show how much she loves you.

I honestly say if you love her, you should give it a go. Even though its a risk that you should take to trust her same as her trusting you.

I don't know what to tell you about that ' Touch ' but people do need it, and thats coming from me, someone who has been alone forever. ( being in a different country doesn't help me either)

Good Luck bro, its your call, you have to decide if she actually cares as much as you do , i mean you are here talking about, just shows how you are holding strong to this relationship. I wish you the very best :) and im sorry if im not able to get my point across. Im weird ;p


Don't worry about it lol. You did get your point across and I'm glad you answered:). I may give it a go or I may not, I just don't know lol I'm indecisive. I do love her but it just hurts to much to be without her......:(. I guess it is my call, thanks for the advice tho. I appreciate it:)

That sucks dude. Online relationships are the hardest of all and I really think in this case you should just remain friends and no longer be 'official' together. People online can be the greatest of friends because it's so easy to open up to someone online and to have a really close bond like that. The thing is though as humans we need that touch or at least the promise that you'll get to be together in person in a realistic time frame. Even maintaining quality friendships can be hard online, let alone full blown relationships. I really think you should focus on your friendship and not rob yourself of the chance of meeting someone lovely who you can be physically with. I know it's hard, but sometimes the right decisions are the hardest. Good luck!


Well we don't call each other bf &gf but we do do everything a bf & gf would do but we don't say we are together because we want to wait and I don't want to wait for 2 more years or probably more than that. I guess I'll have to talk to her about it soon. I hope I can even find someone who is as great as she is because girls like her don't come by so easily. We are a perfect match but just had to my luck that were are very far away from each other.

Damn.

I think if I was in a relationship like this it would be hard for me also. I mean people have to do this all the time like if they are in the military. I feel were you're coming from though because I know how it feels.

I think that you should really talk it over with her, you should really try to relate with her in the ways that you can relate with her. So that the decision can become more clear. I think only you two could make that decision.

All the best prayers and wishes to you. I hope that whatever happens, your happy with it and you have no regrets about it.

I will talk to her. Thanks for the advice bro, I appreciate it

Find another girlfriend,LDR's don't work.


She's not my gf and haha aren't you straight out lol I like it :cool: XD

Posts merged, next time please use the edit button. ~Hannah

[Cece_Bugg]

I say keep trying with her and if it just becomes to much then to break up but stay best friends

[metallic_pink]

@sixguy6 - No worries! Hope everything turns out fine. Best of luck. :)

@Cece_Bugg -Dunno if the quote "Friends can be lovers, but lover cannot be friends." is true.

[JustJordan]

If you see a future with this girl then go for it, nothing tried nothing done but otherwise I would advise you to remain friends as long as she is far away.