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Strawberry_Essence
August 13th, 2014, 08:27 PM
I think this is the right forum to post this in? (Haven't been on here in agggeessss) Also if I'm violating any rules here lemme know please.

I'm liked this guy for about a year and a half now. He's know basically the entire time so don't assume anything like he was thirsty and saw me as someone easy. We've done a lot of (non-sexual) things together including, hiking, mini-bootcamps (Were both in ROTC), gone out to eat (platonically) and hung out at the mall with some other friends. We basically see each other everyday just because we're really good friends. I'm a sophomore and he's a senior so there is a small age gap.
We've cuddled before and have done sweet things for each other out of the blue prior to all this happening. We've also done some more intimate things but we've never had sex.
Anyways I was at his house watching a movie with him and we were cuddling so I was really happy. Then he started to touch me and things got heated from there. You guys get the point. I then asked him if I could give him a BJ and he thought about it for a second, then we went to the bathroom in his house and yeaaahhh. That was the first time i've ever done something like that so I guess you could call it memorable. I was really happy to have pleased him and frankly I enjoyed it. The reason I'm sharing this is because I don't feel guilty about it. For some reason that makes me feel bad that I don't feel guily if that makes any sense. I would like some external opinion on this. As far as guilt. If I made a mistake or not.




ADDITIONAL NOTES: I really like this guy and I feel he likes me. I do want to be in a relationship with him. He wants to take me on dates and go out to eat so I know that he's interested too. I guess.

Taryn98
August 13th, 2014, 10:12 PM
Why would you feel guilty or bad for doing something that both you and he enjoyed and is completely normal for people to do?

You did what thousands of people across the country and world do everyday and it wasn't hurting anyone. How could this be bad?

ChrisTJ
August 14th, 2014, 01:40 AM
Yeah no need to feel guilty, you gave a guy that means something to you a BJ, many teens do that. Just because you're not officially together doesn't make it wrong.

shaune
August 14th, 2014, 09:51 AM
Nothing to worrie about

MatiasKun
August 14th, 2014, 09:58 AM
Dont feel guilty, if u liked it theres no reason why you should feel like that. As you said you both enjoyed it.

sixguy6
August 14th, 2014, 10:00 AM
That's good! Great job and hope you're very happy with him!

punker_26
August 14th, 2014, 12:32 PM
if it feels good, why be guilty? who cares what anyone thinks but you:D

Thatcooldude
August 14th, 2014, 01:57 PM
It's completely normal, it was an intimate moment between you and someone you cared about very much, nothing to feel guilty about.

AnnaThaBabe
August 17th, 2014, 11:27 AM
its normal, and also very awesome! dont feel guilty feel happy!

dreamofdante
August 17th, 2014, 11:34 AM
There is truly no reason to feel guilty. You're living life and doing what you want. There's so many people who would want to do what you have with this guy. It's really normal. And tons of people would kill to get it. If you liked it then you liked it and there's nothing to feel ashamed of.

elentedchaos
August 17th, 2014, 09:57 PM
As long as both of u enjoyed it and u both enjoy each others company there is nothhing to feel guilty about.

dpriest
August 18th, 2014, 12:14 AM
I wouldn't stress it, you both enjoyed it.

Awesomeguy7777
August 18th, 2014, 12:34 AM
You should feel absolutely no guilt. Congratulations!

txtwister13
August 18th, 2014, 11:20 PM
I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about. you both like each other, you both enjoyed the experience....it sounds like the relationship is starting to turn physical so just go with the flow and enjoy being together.

JustJordan
August 18th, 2014, 11:23 PM
What is there to feel guilty about? Just be happy

Daniella98
August 19th, 2014, 01:27 AM
Your situation sounds like it went really well. Some girls first time doing stuff is often to regret. And he is a good friend and he likes you still or even more.

Dont ruin it with guilt you shouldn't have in the first place.

Luminous
August 21st, 2014, 08:38 AM
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