Is it okay to only feel close to a couple of people?

[ksdnfkfr]

I like most of my family a lot. But only feel genuinely close to my dad and cousin. I wonder if my mom is bothered that I'm close with my dad but not her. I mean I love her and like her, but just not as much. Maybe being autistic I shouldn't feel close to anyone. Should i work on feeling closer to mom and others or just be okay with the way it is?

[Croconaw]

I feel close to only one person and that is my friend.

[Blood]

I think it's fairly normal and okay to feel closer to certain members of your family than others. For instance, I'm very close to my siblings but my parents and I aren't close anymore at all. It's not that I don't love them; they're my parents, I'm always going to love them. It's just that as I've grown older and matured I've realized that my parents and I don't share many of the same views and values about important things, and we look at situations a lot differently. I love my parents but I've learned to grow into my own person and they any always accept that.

I'm not saying this is your case or anything, but I don't think it's odd at all that you feel closer to certain members of your family.

[Melodic]

I feel way closer to my mom, then I feel to most of my family. It's really a normal thing of relationships in general to feel closeness to some people than you do to others.

[Cognizant]

It's totally normal and fine. As long as you love her, it shouldn't be a huge matter over who's your favorite parent.

That's my psychology on it at least: I get along better with my mom rather than my dad, but I love them both and would never want anything bad to happen to either of them, and I think that's what matters most.

[MatiasKun]

Yes it is , depends on the confidence u have towards certain people.

[micheal951]

Completely normal to feel like that, we can not like everyone the same, I myself feel closer to my mum than I do my dad. But over all, I feel the closest to my younger brother.

[Second Chance]

I like most of my family a lot. But only feel genuinely close to my dad and cousin. I wonder if my mom is bothered that I'm close with my dad but not her. I mean I love her and like her, but just not as much. Maybe being autistic I shouldn't feel close to anyone. Should i work on feeling closer to mom and others or just be okay with the way it is?

I do not see a problem here because what you describe is pretty normal. Especially in puberty boys tend to be closer to their fathers (or male authority figure) because of the changes going through their bodies. Chances are as you are changing physically you are looking to your father and cousin who are both males and understand the kinds of changes you're going through.

I would at least try to reach out to your Mother assuming she is a good person and is not someone who does anything bad towards you. Having a balanced approached towards your parents is the best way to go if possible.

In light of your having autism I am sure some of that may be adding to the mix of confusion, and if you do have a therapist or someone who is helping you with your autism, then I would bring up your feelings to them. Also, talking with your parents would be the way to go assuming you have a good relationship with them. This is my ignorance speaking here, but I heard that some autistic kids do not talk much, and if that is your case and you feel more comfortable with writing things down, then writing something to your parents might be your way to go if talking is not your strength.

[Body odah Man]

I like most of my family a lot. But only feel genuinely close to my dad and cousin. I wonder if my mom is bothered that I'm close with my dad but not her. I mean I love her and like her, but just not as much. Maybe being autistic I shouldn't feel close to anyone. Should i work on feeling closer to mom and others or just be okay with the way it is?

Be ok with it. sounds fine to me as long as you love your parents. Love is the most important thing: amor omnia vincit

[CosmicNoodle]

I don't feel to close to very many people, I've had bad experiances being close to people, so I try to keep myself to myself. I don't feel close to eather of my parents

[Mathew142]

I only feel close to about 2 people, who are my best friends actually. It's not uncommon to feel like this though.

[Pilyk]

It's normal I think. You can't "force" yourself to be close from people. I only have maybe 3-4 persons I'm very close with. The important is to have these few very good friends whith whom you're entierly confident. I know that, I had no friends until I was nearly 15 and I grew up awfully alone ...