miguelc
August 12th, 2014, 04:13 PM
This is gonna be a long one, and for that I apologize.
Me and my girlfriend got together a week and a half ago. We are 2 hours apart because she lives upstate. I'm moving up to a college this Friday that's only 30 min away from her. This past week her grandmother had died. The second she told me I immediately hopped in my car and drove down there to comfort her. Well after that she became exceedingly distant. Rarely texting me back, not answering my calls, and whenever I ask her if I can come see her she makes up some sort of excuse as to why I can't. Such as, "I have practice all day," or "I'm hanging out with a friend," which never do these things actually happen. I guess she thinks I'm an idiot. I keep reminding her that I'm here for her but then she just says, "ok."
When we weren't dating she never would have shut me out like this. That's the main reason why we started dating is because I was always the person she came to with any type of problem. Especially something like this.
At any rate, after her grandmother's funeral she texted me apologizing for shutting me out. At this point, I thought things would go back to being somewhat normal, no, they just got even worse.
I get that this is her way of grieving and I am constantly reminding myself that, but damn it, it's hard. If she would just tell me that she needs to be alone, I would understand. I'm not unreasonable, but the fact that she is avoiding me is making me question if she even wants to be with me. It's driving me mad.
What do you think I should do?
Me and my girlfriend got together a week and a half ago. We are 2 hours apart because she lives upstate. I'm moving up to a college this Friday that's only 30 min away from her. This past week her grandmother had died. The second she told me I immediately hopped in my car and drove down there to comfort her. Well after that she became exceedingly distant. Rarely texting me back, not answering my calls, and whenever I ask her if I can come see her she makes up some sort of excuse as to why I can't. Such as, "I have practice all day," or "I'm hanging out with a friend," which never do these things actually happen. I guess she thinks I'm an idiot. I keep reminding her that I'm here for her but then she just says, "ok."
When we weren't dating she never would have shut me out like this. That's the main reason why we started dating is because I was always the person she came to with any type of problem. Especially something like this.
At any rate, after her grandmother's funeral she texted me apologizing for shutting me out. At this point, I thought things would go back to being somewhat normal, no, they just got even worse.
I get that this is her way of grieving and I am constantly reminding myself that, but damn it, it's hard. If she would just tell me that she needs to be alone, I would understand. I'm not unreasonable, but the fact that she is avoiding me is making me question if she even wants to be with me. It's driving me mad.
What do you think I should do?