Vacation from hell - Possible pregnancy

[Dennis98]

This summer I was on vacation with my father in Tunisia , but my mother ,sister and grand mother were in Turkey on vacation ... So, I asked my father to I took few friends with me , so he acepted it ... So , we left Montenegro on 3th the July .. Everything was fine , I was hanging with friends , anyway my father alowed me to hang up until morning times , so , alchohol ...There was no problem for me , I carried condoms with me every time , I thought that this was the best vacation until one night ..I was drunk , and I was hanging with some girls ( they were from Spain , France , Germany , England ,America ...) , but I was alone that night , my friends didnt want to hang out that night ... As I said , I was drunk , so I asked thoose girls to call me taxi because they knew which was hotel that I was .. So , one of girls told me to come with her , so I entered in some taxi and taxi drived us in some unknown path . When we left taxi ,we were in some cheap motel , so , she told me to I should sleep here to my father wouldnot be angry ( my father caught me drunk million times but he never argue with me about that ) , so she took my phone and sent message to my father to I will stay late .... Anyway , she helped me to some room , than I fall on bed , and I dont remember rest .. In some middle of the night she woke me , and told me on bad english that she wants sex , I was still drunk , so I continued to sleep like I didnt hear that . Storytelling removed. ~Elysium There was a bottle of wine and she started to drink , she asked me too , but i refused it .. Than she was drunk , and we started with real sex , but I didnt hve condoms with me that night , so , I thought that she used pill or I can just cum on her stomach in point of near cumming ... But I was wrong , I cummed inside her first time , and I was like nothing special ... Than we had sex for 2 times in row and everytime I cummed in her ... I was little bit drunk , and I wasnt scared ... And after it we went to sleep that was about 4h andwe woke in 13h ... And there starts my hell vacation ... She asked me did I use protection , I told her that I used , and she was like - Great , I was scared because I didnt use pill . From that point I felt like I a, going to die .... She complimented my dick , and my glans and some shits ... but I didnt hear her , because I was thinking about only one thing -pregnancy ... So I left hotel and rest of day was usual , but I constantly thought a out that night .... So , today morning she called me about 20 times to ask me am I sure that I used condoms , everytime I told her yes .... She told me thqt she is not feeling great , she had nausea and other prenancy signs ... So , I am going back home in monday , but I constantly think about her .... I dont knwo what should I do, should Imtold it to my father or I should just leave country ... If she would be my girlfriend I would tell that my father , byt , irony of this situation is that we each other dont know our names , so we are total strangers .... I only know that she is from Germany . Anyway , good side of this is that she dont know where am I from , what is my name and best , she dont know that I have flight in monday .... What should I do , I know that I done stupid thing ?!

[jessie3]

It only takes one time to get a girl pregnant and since you cummed inside her then yes she is pregnant. Tell your parents the truth about what happened, they will probably get mad but it's better if the child gets to know the father .

[Elysium]

Own up and confess to her so that she can deal with it. By withholding this information from her, you're only hurting her. You made the mistake, so deal with the consequences. Do not assume that she will keep a potential child, by the way.

Learn a lesson from this.

[jessie3]

Own up and confess to her so that she can deal with it. By withholding this information from her, you're only hurting her. You made the mistake, so deal with the consequences. Do not assume that she will keep a potential child, by the way.

-Agreed and congratulations :-)

[Dennis98]

It only takes one time to get a girl pregnant and since you cummed inside her then yes she is pregnant. Tell your parents the truth about what happened, they will probably get mad but it's better if the child gets to know the father .

I know , I am also 99% sure that she is pregnant. I am not scared of telling truth , my family is very rich , so finances are not problem ... But basic of problem is that it was just sex for one night and nothing more , I must admit that she is beautiful girl , very rare to find such kind of beauty , but , I am not lovesick in her ... Just , that was sex for night , without emotions ... I think that I could just leave Tunisia in monday , and to try to forget all this , like many situations , because I am psychopath , but I dont know could I forget this - for first time in my life I feel bad because I did something wrong , so this is first time I did something wrong to girl ....



Own up and confess to her so that she can deal with it. By withholding this information from her, you're only hurting her. You made the mistake, so deal with the consequences. Do not assume that she will keep a potential child, by the way.

Learn a lesson from this.


I think that she is smart , she called me about 20+ times today about condom use . As I said , I dont feel anything , or any emotion because of psychopacy , but for first time It is not really easy to me , maybe because this is first time I hurt girl , I dont know ... It is not problem to me to deal with consequences , but what should I do in that case than , what should I do if I told her that ? And I didnt understand what did you mean in last sentence , you think that she would keep child or abort , I would be happiest man on the world if she would say that she would abort potential child ... And that is basic of my problem , will she keep it or abort it ? I dont know , I am very rich , she look like higher middle class girl , if money playes role here , I am not sure ...

[jessie3]

I know , I am also 99% sure that she is pregnant. I am not scared of telling truth , my family is very rich , so finances are not problem ... But basic of problem is that it was just sex for one night and nothing more , I must admit that she is beautiful girl , very rare to find such kind of beauty , but , I am not lovesick in her ... Just , that was sex for night , without emotions ... I think that I could just leave Tunisia in monday , and to try to forget all this , like many situations , because I am psychopath , but I dont know could I forget this - for first time in my life I feel bad because I did something wrong , so this is first time I did something wrong to girl ....






I think that she is smart , she called me about 20+ times today about condom use . As I said , I dont feel anything , or any emotion because of psychopacy , but for first time It is not really easy to me , maybe because this is first time I hurt girl , I dont know ... It is not problem to me to deal with consequences , but what should I do in that case than , what should I do if I told her that ? And I didnt understand what did you mean in last sentence , you think that she would keep child or abort , I would be happiest man on the world if she would say that she would abort potential child ... And that is basic of my problem , will she keep it or abort it ? I dont know , I am very rich , she look like higher middle class girl , if money playes role here , I am not sure ...

- Money is not the issue here it is about you owning up and being the father of your child and I know you are saying that you are psyco but mental issues is not the problem. If she decided to keep it then she could put child support on you if they have that in her country and if you think she should abort it then you should look up actual abortion videos, it may not bother you right now but it could come haunt you in the future and like they say karma is a bit**

[Dennis98]

Jessie3 - As first , I see that your medical knowledge is very bad , psychopacy is not mental issue , psychpaths just dont have feelings , they are cold blood persons , maybe you thought for psychosis , psychopacy and psychosis difference between them is like sky and land ... There is primary and secondary psychopacy , you have that stuff on wikipedia , read it because , on 100 people , about 40. Are psychopaths , but only 5-10 of them know that ... As I said , my family is rich , so I go in private school , and I am pretty good student with 131 IQ if you didnt know, and I am pretty good in medicine , so , I know all procedure for abortion , but , what should you choose in this case , child with beautiful stranger with 15 years or to say nothing and just continue life as usual , but I dont know how could that "usual " be , or just to tell her for it and to give her money for abortion and few thousand euros for some kind of excuse ?!

[jessie3]

Jessie3 - As first , I see that your medical knowledge is very bad , psychopacy is not mental issue , psychpaths just dont have feelings , they are cold blood persons ... There is primary and secondary psychopacy , you have that stuff on wikipedia , read it because , on 100 people , about 40. Are psychopaths , but only 5-10 of them know that ... As I said , my family is rich , so I go in private school , and I am pretty good student with 131 IQ if you didnt know, and I am pretty good in medicine , so , I know all procedure for abortion , but , what should you choose in this case , child with beautiful stranger with 15 years or to say nothing and just continue life as usual , but I dont know how could that "usual " be , or just to tell her for it and to give her money for abortion and few thousand euros for some kind of excuse ?!

- Oh okay thanks for correcting my problem, its pretty obvious I am not a doctor lol and if I had to choose weather or not to keep the kid or countinue life as "usual" I'd pick keeping the kid because It is my fault for not wearing a condom and I think you should just tell her and give her money so she could pay for things for her child if she decides to keep it.

[Dennis98]

Jessie3 - Maybe you are right , but I am not fault for that , truth is that I was drunk ( bottle of wine , some vodkas , beers ...) , I just asked her and her friends to call me taxi , but she used me like I am object , I would always accept sex , but with protection , she didnt use pill , she didnt have condoms and worst she used me ...Bigger problem is , maybe she could not accept abortion proposal , that would be problem , just think ,whole life I would have to finance that kid , and , I thought today a lot , in some point of future when I die that child has right to succeed something , although if I wouldnt never see that child ... I am confused , and I feel that death would be best that could happen to me now

So , there is not much time and every advise is welcome ... Anyway , thank you for all jessie3 ...

[coolkid016]

So , there is not much time and every advise is welcome ... Anyway , thank you for all jessie3 ...

dang dude sorry to hear about all of this.. did you tell her the truth? and to put a rest to this... being a psycho is a mental illness thus explaining the prefix "psych" in psychology which means the study of the human mind.. i can explain the reason behind being numb to emotions etc as i do study college psych at my high school because thats my doctorate major.. but its not about me... did she give any hints of taking the "morning after" pill or no?

- Money is not the issue here it is about you owning up and being the father of your child and I know you are saying that you are psyco but mental issues is not the problem. If she decided to keep it then she could put child support on you if they have that in her country and if you think she should abort it then you should look up actual abortion videos, it may not bother you right now but it could come haunt you in the future and like they say karma is a bit**

thats a good point btw

[Dalcourt]

Dude if you are man enough to get drunk and have unprotected sex, which is really stupid not only because of a possible pregnancy, you should also be man enough to talk to her and to your family about it.

Your fears seem egoistic and well, I assure you you don't have to be afraid. First off all most likely she'll have an abortion anyway cuz I'm sure she won't ruin her life cuz of a drunken mistake. Second if she doesn't have an abortion it's her decision not yours.
Third if she's from Germany she won't bother you about child support, the place you live in isn't in the EU yet, right cuz the bureaucracy wouldn't be worth it at all cuz I think single Moms are taken care for well enough in Germany.
And last she will be to embarrassed and angry with hersek for doing something as stupid as that that she won't stay in touch with you anyway.

What remains is, you lied to her about protection and it is just fair enough to tell the truth now, no matte if you claim being a psychopath or not and if her kid might turn out like that, too she has a right to know.

[ChrisTJ]

This is a really strange sitaution here dude! I do actually feel for you in this sitaution as you were drunk and it seems like you were led into this situation by the girl, I don't think you're really fully to blame here. All I can suggest is that you try and have a proper chat with the girl involved about what she wants to do and what the plan will be if she is pregnant. Tell your folks if you want to but I think the most important thing is to speak to her and ask her what she wants to do. :)

[Balthor]

It only takes one time to get a girl pregnant and since you cummed inside her then yes she is pregnant. Tell your parents the truth about what happened, they will probably get mad but it's better if the child gets to know the father .

COMPLETELY UNTRUE! It's not guaranteed that if you come inside her she will be pregnant.

[Body odah Man]

It only takes one time to get a girl pregnant and since you cummed inside her then yes she is pregnant. Tell your parents the truth about what happened, they will probably get mad but it's better if the child gets to know the father .

Not necessarily. The sperm still has to reach the eggs and that's not an hundred percent thing. There's a CHANCE tho.

[Dennis98]

Dude if you are man enough to get drunk and have unprotected sex, which is really stupid not only because of a possible pregnancy, you should also be man enough to talk to her and to your family about it.

Your fears seem egoistic and well, I assure you you don't have to be afraid. First off all most likely she'll have an abortion anyway cuz I'm sure she won't ruin her life cuz of a drunken mistake. Second if she doesn't have an abortion it's her decision not yours.
Third if she's from Germany she won't bother you about child support, the place you live in isn't in the EU yet, right cuz the bureaucracy wouldn't be worth it at all cuz I think single Moms are taken care for well enough in Germany.
And last she will be to embarrassed and angry with hersek for doing something as stupid as that that she won't stay in touch with you anyway.

What remains is, you lied to her about protection and it is just fair enough to tell the truth now, no matte if you claim being a psychopath or not and if her kid might turn out like that, too she has a right to know.

Basically biggest problems is if she make decision to keep child .. If she would accept to abort , then I would give her few thousands euros like excuse and money for abortion ... As I said , i have thought about situation million of times , and every good epilogue for me is bad for her , every good epilogue for her is bad for me , so I cant find the middle ..If she would keep it , than that kid would succeed something of mine property , because my father signed testament in which all properties are going to be put on my name , and he gave one apartment to my sister , so basically whole familiar business ... That kid has right to succeed something , and there is problem , I dont want to finance some stranger with opposite religion ( i dont have anything against opposite religions , but I would never like to have child with opposite religion , because I know scenario in my own family , my father is Montenegrin muslim but my mom is Roman Catholic Croatian ) ..

This is a really strange sitaution here dude! I do actually feel for you in this sitaution as you were drunk and it seems like you were led into this situation by the girl, I don't think you're really fully to blame here. All I can suggest is that you try and have a proper chat with the girl involved about what she wants to do and what the plan will be if she is pregnant. Tell your folks if you want to but I think the most important thing is to speak to her and ask her what she wants to do. :)

I know , really strange situation ...But , she could only call me goddamn taxi that night , instead of having sex , and yes she led mi into this damn situation ...

COMPLETELY UNTRUE! It's not guaranteed that if you come inside her she will be pregnant.

Not necessarily. The sperm still has to reach the eggs and that's not an hundred percent thing. There's a CHANCE tho.

For both , it is truth ,but I didnt cum iin her one time , i cummed inside her 3 times ... So , chance that she is not pregnant is like 0.000001% ...

[Cloud_Strife]

This summer I was on vacation with my father in Tunisia , but my mother ,sister and grand mother were in Turkey on vacation ... So, I asked my father to I took few friends with me , so he acepted it ...

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So , today morning she called me about 20 times to ask me am I sure that I used condoms , everytime I told her yes .... She told me thqt she is not feeling great , she had nausea and other prenancy signs ... So , I am going back home in monday , but I constantly think about her .... I dont knwo what should I do, should Imtold it to my father or I should just leave country ... If she would be my girlfriend I would tell that my father , byt , irony of this situation is that we each other dont know our names , so we are total strangers .... I only know that she is from Germany . Anyway , good side of this is that she dont know where am I from , what is my name and best , she dont know that I have flight in monday .... What should I do , I know that I done stupid thing ?!

Hi mate,

A most complicated situation, which occurs far too often. It seems like from the the posts by everyone so far, that there is an overwhelming opinion that you should speak up to her, about the truth regarding the whole matter. At the end of the day, I'd say that honesty is the best policy.

True, you might never see her again, she might never see you again nor be able to track you down. However, as others have mentioned, the complications are far more outreaching than just the biological processes involved.

Basically biggest problems is if she make decision to keep child .. If she would accept to abort , then I would give her few thousands euros like excuse and money for abortion ... As I said , i have thought about situation million of times , and every good epilogue for me is bad for her , every good epilogue for her is bad for me , so I cant find the middle ..If she would keep it , than that kid would succeed something of mine property , because my father signed testament in which all properties are going to be put on my name , and he gave one apartment to my sister , so basically whole familiar business ... That kid has right to succeed something , and there is problem , I dont want to finance some stranger with opposite religion ( i dont have anything against opposite religions , but I would never like to have child with opposite religion , because I know scenario in my own family , my father is Montenegrin muslim but my mom is Roman Catholic Croatian ) ..

I know , really strange situation ...But , she could only call me goddamn taxi that night , instead of having sex , and yes she led mi into this damn situation ...
AND

- Money is not the issue here it is about you owning up and being the father of your child
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it may not bother you right now but it could come haunt you in the future and like they say karma is a bit**

It has become a case of responsibilities which are involved with a pregnancy. The potentials which could arise from this from a biopsychosocial point of view can be extreme. Not only are there the biological dangers which are involved with a pregnancy, there are also the cases of psychological and social implications for a lady of becoming pregnant, especially when it is premarital sex.

In your particular situation, the questions would then fall upon you as to how much responsibility you would choose to take, or how much conscience would have you shoulder, before you started beating yourself up over it.

As a hypothetical, what if she choose to proceed with the pregnancy, ends up with an ectopic pregnancy and dies? Or if her family disowns her, friends leave her, for the social implications? What if she commits suicide? The possibilities are endless.

It is far better to speak honestly to her about it and for you to both be able to formulate a plan over what needs be done.

It only takes one time to get a girl pregnant and since you cummed inside her then yes she is pregnant. Tell your parents the truth about what happened, they will probably get mad but it's better if the child gets to know the father .

AND

For both , it is truth ,but I didnt cum iin her one time , i cummed inside her 3 times ... So , chance that she is not pregnant is like 0.000001% ...

Yes, it can take only one time and even just one single spermatozoa to get someone pregnant. (Let alone the millions which are ejaculated out with intercourse.) However, just because one has ejaculated into a lady, doesn't make it a guarantee that pregnancy will occur. We don't even know the timing of her cycle, or the health of the eggs or sperm involved. Too many factors to consider in the whole scenario.

I guess the next set of thoughts become even more complicated. If she were to have been so liberal with you, as to have had intercourse with you when she didn't know you? Is there a guarantee she didn't have intercourse with someone else too? The date you gave of the 3rd of July would probably make it somewhere between 5-5.5 weeks in time interval. This coincides quite well with you having had intercourse with her too. So with the balance of probabilities, you probably couldn't safely exclude yourself out of the equation as the potential father.

You discussed finances and things like preferences of religions in your post, Daeseus93; but I think that this is probably the far less important issues at hand. She called you about 20 times, because she was so concerned, so worried about the possibility of being pregnant. You called it 'financing' a child of another religion - this really does make you sound like someone who has distanced himself from the whole situation of responsibility altogether.

While it may be easier to do now, I'd ask you to think ahead of time. Imagine when you become a father to the children of a partner you chose to have children with. Imagine loving your children, as much as your parents love you now. Can you possibly imagine living comfortably with yourself, day by day, knowing that someone with your genes - another of your own children was brought up away from you, realising that their father neglected to take responsibility caring for them? Having abandoned them?

Trust me, I'd say that honesty is the best policy. Speak up and own responsibility. At least of all the posts here, you can see it is an overwhelming response supporting this.

All the best mate.
This will be one of the most important decisions in your life and I hope everything ends up right.

[NotShortButFunsized]

Basically biggest problems is if she make decision to keep child .. If she would accept to abort , then I would give her few thousands euros like excuse and money for abortion ... As I said , i have thought about situation million of times , and every good epilogue for me is bad for her , every good epilogue for her is bad for me , so I cant find the middle ..If she would keep it , than that kid would succeed something of mine property , because my father signed testament in which all properties are going to be put on my name , and he gave one apartment to my sister , so basically whole familiar business ... That kid has right to succeed something , and there is problem , I dont want to finance some stranger with opposite religion ( i dont have anything against opposite religions , but I would never like to have child with opposite religion , because I know scenario in my own family , my father is Montenegrin muslim but my mom is Roman Catholic Croatian ) ..



I know , really strange situation ...But , she could only call me goddamn taxi that night , instead of having sex , and yes she led mi into this damn situation ...


Don't blame her for what's YOUR fault. YOU got drunk, YOU decided to have unprotected sex, and as a father it's now YOUR responsibility to both your child and it's mother to handle the situation maturely. It doesn't matter what her alcoholic condition was or how wantonly she may have seduced you, you penetrating was solely your decision. You were equally capable as she of calling a van or verifying it went to a safe destination, so stop trying to justify and make yourself the victim here. unless she raped you (and you've yet to state it was a truly involuntary situation) then you both are responsible for what happened and the child that results of it.

I'm sorry that every good epilogue for her is bad for you, but you need to accept that because it's your actions that caused it. Further, you can't pay off responsibility for your mistakes, no matter how wealthy your family is. This isn't something like shoplifting where you just repay the owner and everything is well, there is an actual human life in the balance here. If she keeps your child he or she deserves a father, not a fat check. You need to talk to her, her parents, as well as your own parents, own up to your actions, and learn something from it.

The problem I have with this situation is that you seem to be trying to avoid responsibility and happy you're probably gonna be able to. While it's nice you can afford to support or pay off a child, paying her does nothing to absolve you of responsibility and obligations of being a father. Religion, nationality, race, nothing like that changes the fact you are both human beings and your child is human. Making right by your mistakes doesn't mean making them go away and dodging the consequences, it's about being able to wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and know you learned and change from them and are a better person for it.

[Harry Smith]

I'm no expert but couldn't her feeling sick the next day simply be her suffering from a hangover...?

[Harry Smith]

I'm sorry but it's just as much up to the girl to make sure the guy is wearing a condom, it's not really that hard to check. She chose to have sex just as much as you did

There's about a good chance she isn't pregnant, and you're not the first guy to have unprotected sex.

Get her to take a test for God sake, and put the matter to rest

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Than she was drunk , and we started with real sex , but I didnt hve condoms with me that night

Okay I wasn't sure what to cut off, but whatever.
Anyhow, lemme just tell you know, I'm pretty sure in many many countries (I'm not sure if in all, but in most at least) find sex to be illegal when you are drunk. It's because you're not able to give 'proper' consent. Even if you have had sex with that person many times, it's illegal.

Also, don't lie to her about the condoms. It's really bad. You should tell her the truth, because the last thing you want is for her to freak out even more. At least if you tell her "Hey, I didn't use a condom" she won't be as uncertain.

Lastly, I read a couple of the posts/comments, and I must say, don't blame her. You shouldn't be playing a blame game here. Both you and her are both at fault, but it does happen to a lot of people. People do accidentally have sex, accidentally use no protection and accidentally get pregnant. I won't sugar coat this and say "but it's okay," but at least you know for next time. You were both drunk and you both acted without thinking, so just remember that next time.

[Dennis98]

Epilogue : I left Tunisia yesterday , and I payed few guys to find some informations of that girl , anyway , now I know all about her .... I called her yesterday and I told her that I am leaving Tunisia in Wednesday , so I told her to wait for me on reception in Tuesday ... I wrote letter about all , and I put exactly 10000 € in covert ( my father will not notice it ) ... I hired few guys to wait in Hotel reception and I gave them her picture , so , I told them when she arrives to give her covert and then to left hotel , and to burn picture after that ... So , I wrote truth about all , but , I didnt tell her my real name and country that I am from .... As , I said , every good scenario for me is bad for her , every good scenario for her is bad for me , so , I am too young to destroy my life with children with stranger , so I really dont care what is she going to decide , I excused for that anyway ... Anyway I thought that I will not have never ever " normal day " , but I was wrong , I feel like nothing happened ...

[Left Now]

There is something really strange that I don't understand.Maybe it could all end better if you would tell your father about it at first?Fathers usually can help you extremely better in these matters than anyone else!Although the thing which you did,could easily be avoided if you wouldn't get drunk!You understand what I'm saying right?

[Lost in the Echo]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: