Is it worth it?

[Goatzbro]

I'm debating about coming out to some various friends that I know will spread it around so that I don't have to make a big proclomation or anything. However, I don't know if I can handle the awkward whispers behind my back. I have never really had a lot of self confidence in social situations, unless I am faking it. So should I just say fuck it and come out just so that I can be morally right? Or should I give the finger to morality and continue my lying "dexter"-like ways.

Thumbs up for dexter reference.

[Cece_Bugg]

You shouldnt have to hide who you are, you should be proud! So say Fudge it and tell your friends!

[Goatzbro]

Yeah but I am a very logical person in that I would never do something like this if it wasn't to my social or personal benefit. So I don't want to just say Fuck it and do it anyway, but I appreciate the enthusiasm! I think I will stay closeted for now, maybe forever. Ah who knows...

[LunarScorpio]

I am not sure here. Where I am, I would give it another year, simply because people have matured a little bit more by the time they are 17.

[JakePaiv]

Well what I did was a little irrational, because I put a post on instagram that said I was bi-which I'm not, I made a mistake. However this summer when I looked back at my situation, I found that I'm gay and not bi. What a big pile crap I'm in. So the first thing I did was remove anything I put up about me being bi. Over the past few weeks I've told some of my trusted friends that won't spread it unless I asked them too. A few I did ask them to. So if you want to take your coming out slowly, I'd start with family and friends, mostly because they're so supportive... for most people. And I'm sure they'll be supportive of you. Although telling my super religious grandparents will be really awkward, so I'll leave that for my mom to do.

[phuckphace]

how is it in any way a moral obligation to tell everyone your sexuality? I don't follow.

[Goatzbro]

how is it in any way a moral obligation to tell everyone your sexuality? I don't follow.
It's a moral obligation in that lying is generally looked at as bad. However, I have no qualms regarding lying. Anyway, I have decided that I won't come out. It's not worth it for my circumstances.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

Your happiness is worth more than anything. If you decide that you're happier not coming out under your personal life circumstances, then don't. And if you decide that you are happier coming out, do it. It doesn't matter if everyone else wants you to come out, it's about what makes you happiest.

From your latter posts, it seems like you've decided to wait, which is absolutely fine. Just remember it's always an option when you personally are ready. Don't let anyone rush you. But ultimately if done at the right time, it is worth it, yes.

Best of luck to you.