OMG I can't get this girl out of my head

[TheLivingLie]

I recently went on a school trip to China for a little over 2 weeks and there were other schools not just mine and I fell in love. I have all her friends numbers but not hers. I am back now but not a day goes past without me thinking about her. Oh yh I guess I should also say that on the plane home (first one from Beijing to Dubai) I saw her cuddling with another guy and I felt like my heart just snapped in 2. I knew that they had been talking for the past few days but I didn't think that they were close. Any way yh I havnt talked to her since but I'm talking with someone from her school and we r planning on going to Thorpe Park, the whole 2 groups. I really love her, I feel like this is more than a crush and the other guy lives at least an hour away in the middle of nowhere but we both live near only like 30 on the underground. So what do I do???

[CharlieHorse]

If she loves this other guy and is happy with him, maybe it's for the best that you don't cause any split between them. In the end, it probably won't feel very comfortable for you to know you stole her. I have had the same feelings, and I know that "heart snapped in 2" feeling all too well. I've been infatuated with girls I knew I couldn't be with or they didn't like me, and it has always led to a long time of pain. I don't want you to feel that pain like that.
I think you should go about this slowly and think about what is best for yourself, and her, and what you are willing to do. Try to put aside the feelings of infatuation and think about how it would work realistically.

This may sound bonkers, but you could also tell her. Ask her what she thinks, and what she would do in the same situation. Sometimes, it helps to get the words and feelings out, and what better way to do it than to say it to them and hit 2 birds with 1 stone?

[Cece_Bugg]

Have you actually talked to her personally? Not her friends, but HER? If not, talk to and then ask for her number, and text her and become friends then ask her if she would wanna hang out sometime as friends, then ease your way into a possible relationship, but if she is with that other guy, stay close friends, cuz you never know what will happen in the end;)

[Goatzbro]

As a person who has been to China on a very similar trip and has had a similar situation here's what I will tell you: When you go to a foreign country and you are experiencing culture shock and all of that stuff, you are much more vulnerable to emotions and such. I would reccommend just letting her go, but if you really feel that it is genuine, then go for it and tell her how you feel. Good luck and remember "你的女朋友，只会伤害你"!

[Gumleaf]

I have to be honest and say that to me you just have a crush, even though you probably wouldn't agree with that. I agree with the guy above me that you should just let it go. It won't be easy at first, but things will get easier as the days and weeks pass.