Fear of dying a virgin?

[dreamofdante]

I know I used to ask things like this all the time but I have an honest question. I'm 18 going on 19 and I've really wanted to have sex but I'm too ugly so I can't. I haven't even kissed anyone yet. Is it natural to have a fear of dying a virgin or am I over thinking it and creating my own monster?

[Harley Quinn]

I think you're overthinking it, so you haven't had sex yet and you haven't kissed anyone, that doesn't mean it won't ever happen. You're filling up your own head with negative thoughts by saying you're ugly or that it'll never happen. You don't know what will happen. Regardless of your age, there is still a lot of life left and to think now that you're always going to be a virgin will just keep destroying you. However, it's natural to be fearful. You can be afraid of whatever you want to be but just because you're afraid, doesn't mean it's going to happen.

[dreamofdante]

I think you're overthinking it, so you haven't had sex yet and you haven't kissed anyone, that doesn't mean it won't ever happen. You're filling up your own head with negative thoughts by saying you're ugly or that it'll never happen. You don't know what will happen. Regardless of your age, there is still a lot of life left and to think now that you're always going to be a virgin will just keep destroying you. However, it's natural to be fearful. You can be afraid of whatever you want to be but just because you're afraid, doesn't mean it's going to happen.

It probably doesn't help my anxiety that all my friends have lost their virginity, does it?

[Harley Quinn]

It probably doesn't help my anxiety that all my friends have lost their virginity, does it?

No, that's also a contributing factor as to why you feel the way you do. Which, again, is totally natural. It doesn't really matter right now if you're having sex or not, focus on something else and don't put all your attention to this virginity thing. The more you focus on it, the more it's going to bother you.

[dreamofdante]

No, that's also a contributing factor as to why you feel the way you do. Which, again, is totally natural. It doesn't really matter right now if you're having sex or not, focus on something else and don't put all your attention to this virginity thing. The more you focus on it, the more it's going to bother you.

Okay my last question to add is since my urges are growing stronger over time, do you think I'll be able to handle them without having a meltdown? Lol. I can't see me losing my virginity at least for many years yet.

[Daniella98]

If youre already affraid of that, your family must have a history of dying young huh?

[dreamofdante]

If youre already affraid of that, your family must have a history of dying young huh?

There's a few cases but no. I'm just an unattractive guy and I don't see someone wanting to have sex with me.

[Daniella98]

Ahh come on. From your picture there is nothing wrong. Maybe its more in your state of mind. Thats easy to feel from a distance. Take it easy and listen to music that makes you happy. Go out and talk to people. No matter if its girls or guys. And dont be affraid of the girls. Only evil bitches bite.
Ive heard of a trick which is highly inappropriate, so it must work: Fake a good self esteem for a while and it kind of sticks to you. My cousin did it, cause he was pretty low once. It stuck. He is happy about him self now. Not kinda gross happy. Hope you know what I mean....

By the way. If I could give you a hug right here, you got it.

Posts merged, next time please use the 'Edit' button. ~Hannah

[dreamofdante]

Ahh come on. From your picture there is nothing wrong. Maybe its more in your state of mind. Thats easy to feel from a distance. Take it easy and listen to music that makes you happy. Go out and talk to people. No matter if its girls or guys. And dont be affraid of the girls. Only evil bitches bite.
Ive heard of a trick which is highly inappropriate, so it must work: Fake a good self esteem for a while and it kind of sticks to you. My cousin did it, cause he was pretty low once. It stuck. He is happy about him self now. Not kinda gross happy. Hope you know what I mean....

There's plenty wrong but yeah. My state of mind slowly shifted to this after being rejected so many times and being called ugly on an almost daily basis. I've spent a lot of time crying because of how I look but I digress. When I go into public I try to put on this front to fool people into thinking I'm happy and confident. It just doesn't quite work I guess.

And thanks for wanting to give me a hug. You're really sweet. I need one. :)

[sixguy6]

:o When I read things like this I just get so f***ing mad that some people would do that! How can someone be so mean as to call someone ugly??!! I'm am so sorry that happens :(. Excuse my language but, bunch of bastards!! Hey look don't worry about the virgin thing ik this guy who is 20 sum and is still a Virgin and he doesn't care. He says even if a girl may or may not want to have sex with him he will find the girls he loves and eventually have sex :). So you are good bro, don't feel son bad even tho it might be hard sometimes but you'll find your love soon enough bro :) I'm sure about it:). Well hope you're feeling better and take care :) peace out brah

[dreamofdante]

:o When I read things like this I just get so f***ing mad that some people would do that! How can someone be so mean as to call someone ugly??!! I'm am so sorry that happens :(. Excuse my language but, bunch of bastards!! Hey look don't worry about the virgin thing ik this guy who is 20 sum and is still a Virgin and he doesn't care. He says even if a girl may or may not want to have sex with him he will find the girls he loves and eventually have sex :). So you are good bro, don't feel son bad even tho it might be hard sometimes but you'll find your love soon enough bro :) I'm sure about it:). Well hope you're feeling better and take care :) peace out brah

Thanks pal I hope so. You're a cool guy.

[sixguy6]

Thanks pal I hope so. You're a cool guy.

You are so welcome :) and thanks. Hope all is well

[dreamofdante]

You are so welcome :) and thanks. Hope all is well

Things aren't but I'll keep going.