Approaching a girl...

[Luke107]

This applies to both girls and boys, how should I approach a girl I like? I'm often way to shy to even tell me friends who I like and really hate approaching girls because I'm afraid they don't like me back.

So from both perspective do you have any tips?

[Body odah Man]

This applies to both girls and boys, how should I approach a girl I like? I'm often way to shy to even tell me friends who I like and really hate approaching girls because I'm afraid they don't like me back.

So from both perspective do you have any tips?

I'd suggest trying to have a conversation with them or having a friend talk to them then drag you into the conversation. It's hard tho, Ik. With experience and enough practice you'll get over it, dw.

[StoppingTime]

Questions for both :arrow: Relationships and Dating.

[Gumleaf]

I think the first trick is to not think of girls initially as a potential girlfriend or whatever. They are human like you and probably want to connect with people like you do. So just try and think of them as another guy you want to become friends with and just talk to them and listen to them. I think you'll find that things will become a little easier then. I mean, as for asking for dates and stuff, there is no doubt that a possible rejection will be in your mind. But the other way of looking at that is if you don't ask, you'll never know.

[Luke107]

I think the first trick is to not think of girls initially as a potential girlfriend or whatever. They are human like you and probably want to connect with people like you do. So just try and think of them as another guy you want to become friends with and just talk to them and listen to them. I think you'll find that things will become a little easier then. I mean, as for asking for dates and stuff, there is no doubt that a possible rejection will be in your mind. But the other way of looking at that is if you don't ask, you'll never know.

That's really good advice but I my situation I'm in quite a small school, so I know/have talked to most girls in my year/grade. So say there's a girl I've really grown to like and have talked to before how would I approach her? I'd be way too afraid like what if she thinks of me as just a friend or even 'just a classmate'

[Gumleaf]

That's really good advice but I my situation I'm in quite a small school, so I know/have talked to most girls in my year/grade. So say there's a girl I've really grown to like and have talked to before how would I approach her? I'd be way too afraid like what if she thinks of me as just a friend or even 'just a classmate'

Sometimes in life you just have to try and push that stuff out and take a risk and ask. If you don't, you'll likely regret it and spend ages wondering what she might have said in reply. If she says no, then so be it. Rejection is part of life, you'll just have to get yourself up again. But if you're always too afraid to ask and make no effort because you're scared, you won't ever have a girlfriend or even a date for that matter.

[Luke107]

Sometimes in life you just have to try and push that stuff out and take a risk and ask. If you don't, you'll likely regret it and spend ages wondering what she might have said in reply. If she says no, then so be it. Rejection is part of life, you'll just have to get yourself up again. But if you're always too afraid to ask and make no effort because you're scared, you won't ever have a girlfriend or even a date for that matter.

Thank you, your advice means a lot. I guess I'll keep a 'you'll never know until you try' mentality from now on. Thanks! :)

[Gumleaf]

Thank you, your advice means a lot. I guess I'll keep a 'you'll never know until you try' mentality from now on. Thanks! :)

No worries. I know it's hard. Just last week for the first time in a long time i was brave and asked a girl on a date. I got rejected unfortunately. But at least i know that now and can move on with things. So it's a good mentality to have. Good luck. :)

[KangarooInMalibu]

When I want to talk to someone else, of either gender, who I've never spoken to before or rarely speak to, I find something we have in common or something general and talk about that. For instance, talk about school related things you'd both understand (sport teams, assignments, teachers, etc.)

Always make friends with them first before even thinking of taking it to the next step.

Then if you two are able to deepen your conversations past that "light, casual talk" then, by all means, give it a try if you feel ready.

[Elliott_hn]

simple. i just don't approach girls! lol

[adamkevinlee]

Be moved with girls in your own style, which is good for both of you. In general, Either boy or girl will expected more care from their partners.



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[Klokotnitza]

No,don't listen to these guys,this is total bullshit.What girls like is confidence.A girl will like you much more if you stop her and directly tell her she's cute,but if you ask for a pen without needing it for example(or any other "safe" way to talk to her) she will feel less attracted.
Being yourself is kind of strange and is a broad term these days.What i would suggest really being yourself,for example: you like StarCraft?Tell her and don't be afraid to hide it.Do what you like doing without caring for other people's oppinions.This builds confidence and gets girls attracted to you.