Attracted to friend. Help!

[North1003]

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[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[zelle]

Confessing that you like him isn't a bad thing, i guess :)

[Living For Love]

Just give subtle hints at first, and see his reaction. You might not want to just approach him and say "Hey, I like you." You don't even know if he's gay, or if he's homophobic, so make sure you take it slowly.

[nascar_alex]

If he is bi or gay I would tell him. If you feel you want to tell him then do but it might jeopardize your friendship if he's straight but you never know he might be curious. Do what makes you comfortable.

[Semi_IronMan]

i think you should tell him, maybe he feels the same way
and if he wants 2 stop being friends with you then he wasn't the friend to have forever

you know what my momma always says to me? some friends come for a season, some come for a reason

maybe he's the one to come for a season

[Goatzbro]

I personally think that there are two options here. If you are ballsy enough, then you could just confront him straight up and say "hey, I like you as more than a friend". Or option two, you could be subtle and approach him in a physical way and see how he responds. If you are a good observer of the human condition then option 2 is probably your best bet.

[sixguy6]

tell him because maybe later you'll regret not doing so. Or if you know he has absolutely no interest in you more than being just friend then don't tell him.

[Croconaw]

Are there any signs that point to him being gay?

[Semi_IronMan]

Omg, the same thng is happening to me. Dnt knw wht to do

[Ben_Frost]

Don't risk the relationship, be subtle and watch closely as much as you can. Don't just suddenly walk up to him and confess your feelings. Make sure you're not risking your friendship with him before telling him.

[North1003]

Are there any signs that point to him being gay?

He acts differently around me. Like we could be with a group of friends and then he'll give me a ride home but on that ride home he is a totally different person. He looks like he genuinely cares about what I'm saying.

[Obsidian]

Are you just attracted to him or are you interested in a romantic relationship as well? In your post you only mentioned your physical attraction to him, but being attracted to someone in that way does not always mean that you're interested in a relationship with them. It could just mean that you think he's cute but that you're also fine with just remaining friends.

I think you need to decide what kind of relationship you are interested in. If you're okay staying friends then I don't see why it would be necessary to mention your attraction to your friend. But if you're interested in and think there is a chance for a romantic relationship then you might want to consider confiding this in your friend.

Before you mention anything to him, though, I think you should consider whether or not your feelings are worth the risk. Is what you are feeling for your friend serious enough to risk your friendship? Or would you be satisfied remaining friends and not taking the chance? Anytime you enter a relationship with a friend it's a risk to your current relationship. Things wouldn't be the same between the two of you anymore; your relationship would be very different. And if it didn't work out you might not have a relationship at all. But then again it could work out well and you might be happier being more than friends. You just have decide whether or not the risk is worth taking.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do :)