Grief from so called friend

[The Lone Assassin]

So as you may already know, I am gay. A few of my friends are also gay. But there is one who just does not like me. All he does is pick holes in me for no reason. He keeps giving me grief. And I don't understand why.

To shed a bit of light on the ongoing feud. He came out a year and a half before me. When he did, nobody really cared. But when I came out, everyone gave me support and help. And ever since then he calls me an attention seeking, confused bisexual. I have no problems with bi people but I know I'm not bi. And I do not seek attention. So I don't know why he keeps doing it.

So what do I do? I can't exactly get away from him because he goes to air cadets, just like me. And if I say anything to him, all he does is bully me. And I have had enough of it. What can I do to get him off my back? I'm done with his stupid childish ballshit.

[Aamir3D]

I would totally confront him about it, but you said he'd bully you. I suggest confront him over the phone or with a really close friend.

[Harley Quinn]

Depression, Loss and Grief :arrow: Family and Friends.

[Croconaw]

Confront him to his face

[Body odah Man]

So as you may already know, I am gay. A few of my friends are also gay. But there is one who just does not like me. All he does is pick holes in me for no reason. He keeps giving me grief. And I don't understand why.

To shed a bit of light on the ongoing feud. He came out a year and a half before me. When he did, nobody really cared. But when I came out, everyone gave me support and help. And ever since then he calls me an attention seeking, confused bisexual. I have no problems with bi people but I know I'm not bi. And I do not seek attention. So I don't know why he keeps doing it.

So what do I do? I can't exactly get away from him because he goes to air cadets, just like me. And if I say anything to him, all he does is bully me. And I have had enough of it. What can I do to get him off my back? I'm done with his stupid childish ballshit.

He's jealous that you've gotten support and he hasn't seems like and I'm afraid. I think all you can do is wait it out; jealousy has a long life.

[DJTEEN10]

i say call him out on it right to his face(somewhat nicely so he does not start a fight) see what his true problem is with you, it may be something so small that it wasnt even worth the fight or it may be something you both need to work on to be friends again.

""""Just communicate""""

[Gumleaf]

He is clearly jealous, as other have pointed out. When someone does something in life and nobody says boo about it, but then another person might do the same thing and everyone comes out of the woodwork to congratulate, support, or whatever the appropriate positive response is for that situation, then the original person who didn't get that will wonder why. People respond to that in different ways. Some people might become depressed and others just suck it up and keep going. This guy is trying to put you down to try and justify in his mind the response of coming out that he didn't get but you got. I would just confront him directly about it. You really have nothing to lose. Hope it works out for you ok.

[thatcountrykid]

Next time he does it just say "you know wha buddy im sick of your shit so either cut the shit or get the hell away from me." if he wants to fight stand your ground.

[FairPlay137]

Confront him. If he's that mean to you, then I say that you should straighten things out with him.

[Pulp501]

Sounds like he's mad you got attention for coming out and he didn't, and he's trying to make up for it by bullying you.

[Ben_Frost]

Just ignore him, he'll eventually get bored of trying to get to you and finding you don't give an utter crap about it.