Help Coming Out

[Interstellar]

I'm 16 years old and bi. However, I am still in the closet and am unsure of how to approach coming out to my friends. I'm afraid that some of them will see/treat me differently if I were out. What i want to know is would it be better to just tell everybody or to only come out to a few people I know wouldn't care and risk them telling more people?

[TheLoneWolf]

I would tell your true friends about it in a serious way. Not just as a joke like 'Hey, btw, I'm bi!'. Really talk to them about it.
If they've accepted it just talk about it like it's normal. You know you'll have your real friends as a back up, and you'll soon enough find out who your fake friends are.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I would tell your true friends about it in a serious way. Not just as a joke like 'Hey, btw, I'm bi!'. Really talk to them about it.
If they've accepted it just talk about it like it's normal. You know you'll have your real friends as a back up, and you'll soon enough find out who your fake friends are.

Like Ms. LoneWolf says, you should take the risk and come out to your friends, If they're real they won't care if your gay, straight, bi, ace trans... a true friend would rather know the truth than have they're friend keep up a convoluted charade to hide who they really are inside.

[JakePaiv]

Don't worry about it. When I told one of my friends rather recently that I'm gay, he said he wouldn't care if I wss attracted to dogs (which I'm not). So what I'm thinking is being up the question "What do you think of the LGBT community?" For some you'll Have to explain what LGBT means, but this way you'll know whether or not you can tell them.

[xChrisVx]

I would also agree with TheLoneWolf.

I was pulled - no booted - out of the closet by an ex. Put it this way, it would've been more discreet for him to stand in the school playing fields with a loudhailer and broadcast the fact that I was gay to the school.

Now I'm at university, I found that telling only the few people who I trust about the fact I was gay worked best. I wait until I get to know someone pretty well before bringing up the fact.

Most people seem to think I'm straight, so they're normally quite surprised when I tell them, but I haven't had a single negative reaction to me coming out to someone...

Hope that helped

[Luminous]

For me, I just make it seem like it's not a big deal, just a fact, like I'm saying that the sky is blue or something, and I say it when it's relevant to the conversation. If people make a big deal out of it and think there's something wrong with you, well, maybe they're not your real friends. If you feel like you need to talk about it, then maybe after mentioning it you can tell a friend you need to talk. It's not shameful or bad to want to have a shoulder to cry on, and your friends should be that shoulder, that's what friends are for, right?

[JakePaiv]

For me, I just make it seem like it's not a big deal, just a fact, like I'm saying that the sky is blue or something, and I say it when it's relevant to the conversation. If people make a big deal out of it and think there's something wrong with you, well, maybe they're not your real friends. If you feel like you need to talk about it, then maybe after mentioning it you can tell a friend you need to talk. It's not shameful or bad to want to have a shoulder to cry on, and your friends should be that shoulder, that's what friends are for, right?

I've done the same thing recently. I'll be texting talking about one thing with a trusted friend and bam! change of subject I tell them I'm gay. It works well for people I know that I've asked how they told others. They just one day said that they are bi or gay and that was that.

[MatiasKun]

Mmm are you sure u want to come out? If you are then probably tell ur best friend first, even if u tell a few people everybody will find out since people doesnt know how to keep a secret.

[CuteGuy889]

Being in touch with a like-minded group helps too...
I had a closeted gay friend who was really shy, sensitive & probly anorexic (ws skinny as hell). He came out to another openly gay friend when he went to US for studies..
There he met a very good gay support grp. They took him under their wing, got him out of the closet and made him confident to stand out as who he is.
He was taken to a "Gay Pride" in another state. He has initially felt sensitive and awkward. But all guys there has been understanding and gentle. Gradually he has grown so confident & comfortable take his tee off...By the end he has ventured to take his pants off too and parade in his tighty whities!!!
I did not belive it until he sent me phots of him parading in the pride just in his briefs. He really has grown confident and has recoved frm anorexia, no longer the shy, sticklike weakling he used to be and has filled out and is quite plump and cute by straight standards too.
I am proud of him and I think he owes it to the support grups he found in USA.

[GoGoDiego]

Tell your friends the truth. They might accept you more.