How should I approach this?

[austeen2]

Hi all,

So the school prom is coming up and I have very VERY limited time to find a date so prompt replies are appreciated.. :)
I have someone in mind and we're childhood friends and have kinda started talking again after a couple of years since we've gone to different schools etc.

There isn't enough time to see this girl in person so it'll have to be an invite via facebook. I know, but I have no choice.

So back to my story, this girl I'm talking about may sometimes be busy working in the weekends and I'm not sure if she is able to go on that specific night (I don't want to make it very very obvious in our recent conversations asking every single detail).Anyway, there could be a chance that this person is busy/unable to go rather than "Doesn't want to go".
Should I ask her "Hey.. [Insert more random conversation filler"..

Then >"Just wondering, are you free on these nights [insert days of week/date]"?


Alternatively I could just launch in and say "Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to go to the school prom with me"...

COuld I get some advice as to how I should approach this?? (I'm terrible when it comes to these things/girls in general) The only thing im fearful of is denial because our parents kinda know each other more than we do. - IF that phrase made any sense....

Also, I'm not to keen on my parents finding out if i were to be rejected.. They're not the enouraging type .. they're just more "Let's interrogate you to make you feel more uncomfortable"...

[ValerieR10]

In my opinion, I think you should bring up Prom to her. If you are really unsure about her feelings towards you, ask her to go with you like as a friend way. Well just say, "Hey I have prom coming up and I was wondering if you would like to attend with me if you arent busy. I know that we will have a ton of fun. I hope you can make it." So basically dont bring out the feelings. If the prom goes well, I think you should tell her your feelings.

[austeen2]

In my opinion, I think you should bring up Prom to her. If you are really unsure about her feelings towards you, ask her to go with you like as a friend way. Well just say, "Hey I have prom coming up and I was wondering if you would like to attend with me if you arent busy. I know that we will have a ton of fun. I hope you can make it." So basically dont bring out the feelings. If the prom goes well, I think you should tell her your feelings.

Oh okay thanks. Right now I have no intentions with this particular person however. Just want someone to go with :P

[austeen2]

Any other opinions from my fellow vters? Another option is to just not go. Thoughts?

[ValerieR10]

Oh okay thanks. Right now I have no intentions with this particular person however. Just want someone to go with :P

Okay thats great. Im sure if you explain the needed to go with someone is great. As a girl myself, dont make it seem like she was your last option since you didnt have anyone. Say something like, "No one asked or I didnt have interest in anyone so I decided that I can still go with a friend like you!" Something like that. Goodluck. Also ps. I also hate when people dont respond to my threads. So I just end up deleting them

[Body odah Man]

Hi all,

So the school prom is coming up and I have very VERY limited time to find a date so prompt replies are appreciated.. :)
I have someone in mind and we're childhood friends and have kinda started talking again after a couple of years since we've gone to different schools etc.

There isn't enough time to see this girl in person so it'll have to be an invite via facebook. I know, but I have no choice.

So back to my story, this girl I'm talking about may sometimes be busy working in the weekends and I'm not sure if she is able to go on that specific night (I don't want to make it very very obvious in our recent conversations asking every single detail).Anyway, there could be a chance that this person is busy/unable to go rather than "Doesn't want to go".
Should I ask her "Hey.. [Insert more random conversation filler"..

Then >"Just wondering, are you free on these nights [insert days of week/date]"?


Alternatively I could just launch in and say "Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to go to the school prom with me"...

COuld I get some advice as to how I should approach this?? (I'm terrible when it comes to these things/girls in general) The only thing im fearful of is denial because our parents kinda know each other more than we do. - IF that phrase made any sense....

Also, I'm not to keen on my parents finding out if i were to be rejected.. They're not the enouraging type .. they're just more "Let's interrogate you to make you feel more uncomfortable"...

Launch in I'd say. That tends to work best. Open up with a few polite social niceties then drop the question. Good luck

[Luke107]

I think you should definitely ask her, even to go as a friend. I'm in a similar situation our prom is this year and I have no idea who to ask. I probably wont go

[dame]

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