ah another rare occurrence

[Professional Russian]

So I know I don't post here much. And for months now I've been confused on this subject. So here's the story.

I knew, and still know a girl. We used to be extremely close like brother and sister, despite the 3 1/2 year age difference. Then some things happened and well we got separated for I want to say 4-5 years and just about a year ago we started seeing each other again. Not very much but some. And I really don't know what to do. I want to closer to her but I'm afraid of hurting her. I'm one of the few people her mom trusts to do stuff and I don't want to ruin. And her actual brother is one of my best friends. I just don't know what to do. Any help? Anybody?

[Bmble_B]

How would you hurt her? Are you afraid of the factor that caused you two to get separated to reoccur? Anyways, communication is always key, since you're starting to see each other again try having a actual talk with her. I'll ask again how would you hurt her? In order for me to give you a better response (you deserve a better one) can you please explain further?

[Professional Russian]

How would you hurt her? Are you afraid of the factor that caused you two to get separated to reoccur? Anyways, communication is always key, since you're starting to see each other again try having a actual talk with her. I'll ask again how would you hurt her? In order for me to give you a better response (you deserve a better one) can you please explain further?

Scratch all that. If I want hell I might as well say it all. Her, her mom, her brother, and my mom, and my.mechanic are the only people that mean anything to me. If I lost one I don't know what I'd do. If I ever hurt her in anyway I'd loose 4 of those people, which why I couldn't live with myself if I ever did. I'm not worried about getting separated until I leave. Since I'll obviously graduate first since I'm older. But I really want to get closer to her because, well because she does something to me. I don't know what the hell it is but I can't fet ad at her. I only get happy. And its hard to do that to me. Its extremely hard to do something that would usually piss me off but instead I smile at it and laugh

[xlBitterSweetlx]

That's why it's called falling in love, man - you fall off the cliff and trust there aren't any rocks at the bottom of the sea. And I don't see no rocks in your sea, as obviously your feelings are genuine and you'd never do anything to hurt her on purpose. You get hurt, you hurt people - it's inevitable. But if you don't make both yourself and the person you love happy by being together just because someone might hurt the other one - then when are you going to have a relationship? I know, long distance when you graduate (I presume that's the problem?), but hey, if both people are willing to work on it, surprise! - it's possible.
I see that on your part the cupid has arrived - no doubts about that. But in my opinion, you should get closer to her, bring back the old strong bond between you, see if the big fat baby strikes her with the heart arrow too. If she returns your feelings, it would actually be worse if you didn't allow her to get closer as in having the role of your girlfriend. After all, both of you know what you're getting into. But it's often worth the risk. ;)

[Professional Russian]

Love her? Couldn't love her if I tried. More of a little sister I never had thing. There's a 3 1/2 year age difference it would look bad of we got together. All I want to do is get closer to her. Edit: OK I love her. Just in a different way. I am in no way sale or form attracted to her....as of now. It may change. I don't know. I don't how I feel about her right now. I just know I want to be closer to her.

[xlBitterSweetlx]

Okay, then just do it. ;) Talk to her more, ask her to hang out more often.
Nobody can get hurt from that. :) Just more good times and a true friend for both of you.

[Professional Russian]

Okay, then just do it. ;) Talk to her more, ask her to hang out more often.
Nobody can get hurt from that. :) Just more good times and a true friend for both of you.

Easier said than done. I've tried. I just couldn't say anything. I was too afraid. Im not good with people. And the kills me..because she's the only person I really want to.get closer to. Just because I know her family so well

[xlBitterSweetlx]

Easier said than done. I've tried. I just couldn't say anything. I was too afraid. Im not good with people. And the kills me..because she's the only person I really want to.get closer to. Just because I know her family so well

Well, you said you were very close before? So I guess communication between you two was good back then, try to look up to yourself at that period of time. ;)
Also you can just ask her questions about her you are interested in, also try to find out (or if you already know them talk about) your common interests. ^^ If you really don't know what to talk about, my personal favourite break-the-ice activity is watch a comedy together or just any kind of movie. :) You can laugh at different situations, comment on the characters' behaviour, discuss favourite scenes, and take it from there.

[Professional Russian]

Well, you said you were very close before? So I guess communication between you two was good back then, try to look up to yourself at that period of time. ;)
Also you can just ask her questions about her you are interested in, also try to find out (or if you already know them talk about) your common interests. ^^ If you really don't know what to talk about, my personal favourite break-the-ice activity is watch a comedy together or just any kind of movie. :) You can laugh at different situations, comment on the characters' behaviour, discuss favourite scenes, and take it from there.
Back in the day I'm talking about she was 2 and I was 6. It was a long time ago. I know it probably sounds like I'm giving you a hard time and shooting down every suggestion you make but its just such a complicated situation and just super confusing and I just don't know what to do. I already lost my one chance at telling her everything I wanted to because I ended up not having to pick her up

[Professional Russian]

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