Jalinta
July 31st, 2014, 09:17 AM
So one of my best friends and I aren't speaking anymore and we've pretty much completely drifted apart.
Basically to summarise everything really shortly and simply, she's gay and I'm bi. She liked me, and I liked her but we never told each other, and we began drifting a little bit last year. Then I started dating my current girlfriend, and it's a secret because neither of us are out. I told my friend about my girlfriend, which is when she told me she liked me, and since then things have been awkward. 2 weeks ago I found out she told another of her really close friends about me and my girlfriend after I asked her not to tell anyone and she promised on 3 separate occasions. I confronted her about it, I didn't get super mad or anything, but I was just disappointed. And now we've spoken briefly, one time, since that.
She won't look at me, and sometimes out of the corner of my eye I can see her laughing at my jokes, but if I look at her she'll stop and look away really quickly. We've been awkwardly skirting around each other, and if we're in a group of people talking, she won't speak to me if I respond to something she says, or if she does it's kind of just quiet and then she'll ignore me and go back to talking to someone else.
I just don't know what to do, how to 'break the ice' between us, so to speak. I miss her terribly - we used to be so, so incredibly close and now it's just this empty space. We've never had a fight or anything, and this doesn't even seem like a fight, it just feels like everything is over. I desperately don't want it to be though, but I'm just not sure what to do :S How should I try and mend things a bit between us? Any ideas? :S Thanks in advance to anyone who can be bothered reading my little rant and has any ideas hahah :P
Basically to summarise everything really shortly and simply, she's gay and I'm bi. She liked me, and I liked her but we never told each other, and we began drifting a little bit last year. Then I started dating my current girlfriend, and it's a secret because neither of us are out. I told my friend about my girlfriend, which is when she told me she liked me, and since then things have been awkward. 2 weeks ago I found out she told another of her really close friends about me and my girlfriend after I asked her not to tell anyone and she promised on 3 separate occasions. I confronted her about it, I didn't get super mad or anything, but I was just disappointed. And now we've spoken briefly, one time, since that.
She won't look at me, and sometimes out of the corner of my eye I can see her laughing at my jokes, but if I look at her she'll stop and look away really quickly. We've been awkwardly skirting around each other, and if we're in a group of people talking, she won't speak to me if I respond to something she says, or if she does it's kind of just quiet and then she'll ignore me and go back to talking to someone else.
I just don't know what to do, how to 'break the ice' between us, so to speak. I miss her terribly - we used to be so, so incredibly close and now it's just this empty space. We've never had a fight or anything, and this doesn't even seem like a fight, it just feels like everything is over. I desperately don't want it to be though, but I'm just not sure what to do :S How should I try and mend things a bit between us? Any ideas? :S Thanks in advance to anyone who can be bothered reading my little rant and has any ideas hahah :P