Abuse?

[Underground_Network]

Well, I know most cases of abuse that people create threads about seem like "real" abuse cases, but after reading The Reaper's thread, I decided I want your thoughts on whether you think what my dad does is considered true "abuse". My dad occassionally gets pissed off (by occassionally I mean at least once or twice every other day) He gets pissed mainly at my mom and at me. He never physically harms my mom, but he does mouth of to her and call her names. He also always makes fun of me and constantly picks on me for being relatively anti-social. Sometimes we get into verbal arguments, that are reduced to us swearing at each other and calling each other things that a father should never call his son and things a son should never call his father. He was the reason for my second suicide attempt, he got me so fucking enraged that I just went and tried to suffocate myself.. But yer, I obviously failed.. But anyways, on rare occassions (at least once a week actually) he'll get really pissed at me and physically "harm" me. The reason I put harm in quotes is because he's never done anything like break my arm or anything (though he did send me to the hospital once when he basically body slammed me into the ground. He spent the next few weeks constantly saying "I'm sorry" or "I didn't mean to hurt you".) An example of what he does sometimes is what he did today. I was actually on VT, typing something I think, when he told me I had to get off the computer. I didn't get off the computer at the exact second he asked me to (because my computer was being slow and it was taking awhile to log off) and he slapped me across the back of my head and basically dragged me out of the chair. When I finally had the oppurtunity to explain myself (though I did insert some vulgar words into my explanation as I was angry and upset) he repeatedly said "he was sorry" and that "he didn't mean to hurt me". But yeah... I don't know.. He gets really pissed at me sometimes and his attacks always start of verbally, but then when I start arguing with him [even over the littlest things] it usually results in him forcibly shutting me up. (Hitting me, pushing me, [If I'm sitting somewhere he'll try and toss me out of my seat or he'll throw me off my bed, etc.]) I don't know, he doesn't do this extremely often, and I try to explain to him that I don't like what he does, and even tried to explain to him that he's acting more immature than I am. I mean, if I say something stupid or immature, I have an excuse, I'm in my early teens, I am immature, but when he says something immature or idiotic, he's right, or I pay the price. An example of him getting pissed over the littlest things is as follows: We'll be watching a TV show, he won't understand something because its "modern" or "hip", he'll ask me about it. I'll think its a relatively stupid question and respond sarcastically/sardonically. The end result is almost always him really pissing me off or him hitting me. I just hate him sometimes, but then again, sometimes I really love him. I've asked my mom to divorce him in the past, but then again, he's not that bad a person. He hasn't had the perfect life and he can be a great father, its just that sometimes he takes things totally out of proportion, and he should seriously know better than to physically "harm" me.. I just don't know.. :/

[japanman]

yep thats mental abuse i say seek help or go spend a nihgt at a friends house and explain it to their parents and get their view other than thatyou feel love for him because hes your father but thats not a reason to treat you like that.

[Techno Monster]

Yes that is called Verbal Abuse.

[Underground_Network]

I know that that's verbal abuse, but did either of you read my entire post?

[japanman]

yes you said he was the reason why attemptedsuiced and you also said he takes things out of propertion. did i mss read if so ill read it again just to make sure.

[Underground_Network]

Yer, I know about the verbal abuse, I was referring to what he physically does to me, is it considered "abuse" I mean compared to what some other people on this site have to deal with/have dealt with?

[japanman]

oo i get it sry im slow :P. ok well not necceseraly personly what he does physicaly is not abusive but he is good at mind games wich is bad but to answere your question no its not really physical abuse.

[BornActor]

My father was very similar. The "attacks" weren't as often in your case but very similar. Not too me but to my mother and once to my brother. When my mom FINALLY left him, I never knew what true happiness was. I would get out of the situation any way you can. My brother had to actually threaten to run away before my mom left him. However, I do understand your situation quite a bit. I didn't want to move away from my father because I was only 5 or 6. I mean he did love me and he did his job but my advice to you is to get out of the situation especially if you've already attempted suicide 2 times.

[theOperaGhost]

If he put you in a hospital, that's abuse, but most of the other stuff probably not. Just hitting you upside the head isn't really abuse. If it causes physical damage than yes. I don't know. But yeah, I think putting you in a hospital would probably be considered abuse.