I'm so confused, help??

[melissurr]

Family issues.

I swear this isn't because of some petty little teenager fight that happens all the time but still makes you hate them, because I don't hate them. I'm 17, 18 in a few months and ready to move out this time next year but I need some sort of guidance, even to sort out my thoughts. I need advice from people who don't know what's gone on or know me/my family well to give a biased decision.
I really don't know what it is but I've just not been feeling like a part of the family any more, I don't feel welcome in my own home. I went through lots of changes this year and last and I've felt like I've lost the strength of the relationship between me and my mother along the way- plus we both have relationships now. I've been speaking to my Nana - we are very close - about all of this and how much me and my mother's fiancé don't get along and how uncomfortable it is being around and now she's jumped to the conclusion that I want to move in to her house.
This would mean more freedom, more time to do what I want with not as strict boundaries set in place plus me having more independence for when I move out to go to uni this time next year.
BUT I don't really know if I want to move?? I mean, it'd be better than being at home, but this is home, no matter how much I hate it and want to leave. I think it's just me being paranoid but she lives two streets away and I'd still have to visit all the time to pick up extra clothes etc. but my ''parents'' have made plans for my room to be changed as soon as I'm gone since before we moved here 2.5 years ago.
I honestly just don't know what to do about it and both parties think I should move but 'it's all my decision' but I have NO IDEA what I want to do- but I have to have a solid decision by 3 weeks time. There's pros and cons to both, I'd love to live with my Nana but it just isn't home, if that makes sense?
Any help? Ideas? ANYTHING??

[Bmble_B]

Did you try discussing this with your mother (Not good at this kind of thing so bare with me :P) how you feel about your relationship with her? And the obvious disagreement between you and her fiance? If so then although it may not seem like home due to you living with your mother your entire life, it sounds like a wise decision to move in with your nana. You said that she only lives a couple of blocks away from your mother, you can visit regularly and have more freedom than you did while living with your mother. So from my perspective, move in with your nana :)

[melissurr]

Did you try discussing this with your mother (Not good at this kind of thing so bare with me :P) how you feel about your relationship with her? And the obvious disagreement between you and her fiance? If so then although it may not seem like home due to you living with your mother your entire life, it sounds like a wise decision to move in with your nana. You said that she only lives a couple of blocks away from your mother, you can visit regularly and have more freedom than you did while living with your mother. So from my perspective, move in with your nana :)

I did and it turned out great when I told her; she was so understanding but nothing has changed since and I feel as though moving in would be my best, and only, option but something feels so wrong about it. Thank you for the help :)

[Bmble_B]

I did and it turned out great when I told her; she was so understanding but nothing has changed since and I feel as though moving in would be my best, and only, option but something feels so wrong about it. Thank you for the help :)

Haha no problem, glad to hear everything worked out for you! :D