Jman437
July 28th, 2014, 07:56 PM
I've known my best friends since 7th grade, they are like brothers to me. I'm the only one who made it to college, and I'm not sure I want to hang with them anymore(the fact that I'm in college is coincidental) because they sometimes brag about their dates and call me an idiot because I'm single, questioning my intelligence and aggressively asking "what the fuck do I plan to do with my life". Well, I plan to find a job and construct a stable life, then I plan to find someone. If I find someone midway, even better. Oh, and if I try to tell them that a girlfriend shouldn't define oneself, and that life isn't just dating? They start to call out my insecurity, jealousy and frustration cause by the fact that I'm the only single guy in the group. And yes, it's not very good to be single all the time, I have lots of time for myself, yay freedom and shit, but no one was meant to be an island, there's gonna be a time when you'll feel the need to share that happiness with someone and a void begins to emerge, so no, being single is not the perfect fairytale everyone tells, so please, cut the crap. On the other hand, I have other things to worry about, I got a college degree to finish, soccer to play and other friends to hang out with, because I know that life isn't all about dating, so being frustrated and jealous because of that is completely idiotic, absurd, any adjective that questions the intelligence of someone.
(Now, a little off-topic discussion) I don't let myself be defined by my college degree, but fact is, the system is rigged to screw us: having a degree isn't guaranteed success, but without one, you're absolutely screwed. Facts are facts, whether you like it or not. Even though a degree doesn't guarantee success, it gives someone a huge advantage over someone who doesn't have. Hell, even statistics prove it xD
Now, back to the topic in question: I'm sick of people who think they're the best just because they're dating. They were always like this: when they have a girlfriend, they become arrogant and belittle those who aren't dating, and when they haven't, they become wrecked and depressed and feel inferior to people who are in a relationship. I've been advised to let go of these friendships, because "I've grown out of them", but I'm afraid I'll turn into their enemy, because they aren't very keen on being understanding, they will wage a war on me if I do it... What should I do?
(Now, a little off-topic discussion) I don't let myself be defined by my college degree, but fact is, the system is rigged to screw us: having a degree isn't guaranteed success, but without one, you're absolutely screwed. Facts are facts, whether you like it or not. Even though a degree doesn't guarantee success, it gives someone a huge advantage over someone who doesn't have. Hell, even statistics prove it xD
Now, back to the topic in question: I'm sick of people who think they're the best just because they're dating. They were always like this: when they have a girlfriend, they become arrogant and belittle those who aren't dating, and when they haven't, they become wrecked and depressed and feel inferior to people who are in a relationship. I've been advised to let go of these friendships, because "I've grown out of them", but I'm afraid I'll turn into their enemy, because they aren't very keen on being understanding, they will wage a war on me if I do it... What should I do?