Okay, VT. I'm coming out.

[Microcosm]

Personally I don't understand the need to be classified by what I am. I am what I am, but I don't like the thought of categorizing myself by it because that opens the door to insult. "You're so gay," or "What a fag," etc. Just so you know, I'm not gay. If you have to categorize me into something, then I am bisexual. I know that what goes on the internet stays on the internet forever, and I'm afraid to make this post. It scares me to be honest. I have already put many things that I wouldn't tell anyone on this website. Luckily, this is not one of those things.

I would like to just accept the fact that I am bisexual. That being said, I wasn't entirely sure that I was until now. I have said I was, but wasn't sure if I even trusted myself when I said it. So yes, I am bisexual. I won't just openly come out as bi to my irl friends and family. I'm just going to let them figure it out. If they don't like it, then I'll just deal with that. I know some people would disagree with this, but I am in love with the anonymity of the internet, which is why I am comfortable with telling you all about this. I've made some connections on VT and I trust you all with this.

I have a few questions to ask anyone that is gay or bi. How did you tell your parents? I'm 14 and my parents are kind of religious and are probably going to accept it, but still be against it. Another question, is it a phase? I have thought about this for a long time now, and I really don't think it is. I tend to prefer women, but I think I'd be cool with dating and possibly controlled sexual stuff with guys. I've actually dated a guy before, but we didn't last long. Anyways, last question. When did you figure out that you were gay or bi? Like, what age? These things might be able to help me to understand and accept myself more, so thanks in advance if you share that info with me.

Thanks, guys =]

[Bougainvillea]

To be honest, I used to consider myself bisexual for a really long time. But now that I'm older, and have been able to experiment with my sexuality in a variety of ways, I've been able to come to terms with it. To the point to where I don't even feel the need to label it, since I choose not to label other things about myself.

I'm me. And I think that's how it should be. Having a non-traditional sexual preference doesn't change the fact that you're still you. And I know its hard because obviously everyone isn't going to think the same way. And that can be scary to think about. But it gets easier knowing that there are going to be people out there that love and accept you for who you are. And you'll be happy because those people will be in your life.

Try your best not to label your sexuality and think about how to explain it. Especially if you're attracted to both genders. Just say "I am who I am, and I'll be with who I want to be with". Because that's all that matters.

What I prefer to do is describe my sexuality as being "fluid". I like who I like and that's all there is to it.

[Aamir3D]

Whoa. That's alot, but kudos to you for stepping out the closet somehow. Now let me answer your questions..

Question #1: Well here's a story for you: I was talking to my mom because I was having problems at school this past year. And she said I know what I am and that I shouldn't be ashamed of it. So my mom actually KNEW I was somewhat interested in guys.

Question #2: It may or may not be a phase. I know I'm damn well not in a phase. Lol :P

Question #3: I knew I was bi for sure when I was 12.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Congrats on coming out!

I first had the hint hat I was gay when I started getting turned on by pics of gay men (not boys, men) at around age 10, I figured out what it meant to be gay at 12, and learned that I was gay at 14. However, my parents, one of which is very religious are people that I have not officially come out to yet, although I've been dropping hints at the less conservative of the two. I don't know if it's just a phase, but for me, I know this shit is permanent. I ONLY get turned on by guys, and girls are a complete turn off. So, unless my mind is trolling me and I'm actually ace, I'm gay.

[Microcosm]

What I prefer to do is describe my sexuality as being "fluid". I like who I like and that's all there is to it.

That's a really great way to describe it. Thanks for the advice.

Whoa. That's alot, but kudos to you for stepping out the closet somehow. Now let me answer your questions..

Thanks for the answers and for caring =]
Congrats on coming out!

I first had the hint hat I was gay when I started getting turned on by pics of gay men (not boys, men) at around age 10, I figured out what it meant to be gay at 12, and learned that I was gay at 14. However, my parents, one of which is very religious are people that I have not officially come out to yet, although I've been dropping hints at the less conservative of the two. I don't know if it's just a phase, but for me, I know this shit is permanent. I ONLY get turned on by guys, and girls are a complete turn off. So, unless my mind is trolling me and I'm actually ace, I'm gay.

Thanks =)

[xXEverReadyXx]

Well I started to get attracted to men when I was around 11, it wasn't until I turned 13 that I actually knew that I was gay and the meaning of it. After that I became very in denial and insecure because I thought I wasn't normal and so on. But about a month ago I came out to my Mum and we have never been closer, I told her in the shopping car park on the way home lol (she actually already knew xD), and she couldn't have been more accepting, loving and supportive and mind you our family is Christian, but we have never done anything remotely religious and are not religious at all.

In my opinion there is no such thing as a phase relating to sexuality. But I'm happy you have come to terms with this part of your life, but remember your sexuality doesn't define you.

[Foamy]

my sexuality is, as valtiel stated above, "fluid". a definitely have a thing for guys, and girls, sometimes both, sometimes neither.
its definitely NOT a phase. not at all.
i realized something was up at around 11, but i was a sheltered child, so i dint really know what any of this meant. i began to understand by around 14 or 15, and struggled internally wiith it. sometimes i still do. and im almost 18.
and also, theres no way in hell im comfortable telling anyone this right now. except the anonymity of the interwebz.

[Pulp501]

I have a few questions to ask anyone that is gay or bi. How did you tell your parents? I'm 14 and my parents are kind of religious and are probably going to accept it, but still be against it. Another question, is it a phase? I have thought about this for a long time now, and I really don't think it is. I tend to prefer women, but I think I'd be cool with dating and possibly controlled sexual stuff with guys. I've actually dated a guy before, but we didn't last long. Anyways, last question. When did you figure out that you were gay or bi? Like, what age? These things might be able to help me to understand and accept myself more, so thanks in advance if you share that info with me.

Thanks, guys =]

I haven't told my parents, only my closest friends know I'm bi. It could be a phase, as a teenager we go through so many changes and emotions and everything can be confusing. It's not unheard of for someones sexuality to change over time, that's why there are many gay people who've previously been with the opposite sex, and there are straight people who were previously in gay relationships. But, it doesn't matter, there's nothing wrong with it. I figured out I was bi like a year ago.

[ksdnfkfr]

I have a few questions to ask anyone that is gay or bi. How did you tell your parents? I'm 14 and my parents are kind of religious and are probably going to accept it, but still be against it.

My parents figured it out based on my relationship with my best friend, but they are super laid back and liberal so it was nbd.

Another question, is it a phase? I have thought about this for a long time now, and I really don't think it is. I tend to prefer women, but I think I'd be cool with dating and possibly controlled sexual stuff with guys. I've actually dated a guy before, but we didn't last long.

I'd say it's a phase in that it's a phase of confusion. i think 14 is too early into puberty to try pinning anything down.

Anyways, last question. When did you figure out that you were gay or bi? Like, what age? These things might be able to help me to understand and accept myself more, so thanks in advance if you share that info with me.

Me and my best friend since age 9 started having sexual attraction to each other in our late 12's early 13's.

[BlizzardBurn]

I was 14 when I found out I liked guys, as well as girls and it totally sucks. Living in the bible belt with crappy parents is just hell. So I can't/won't come out for some time and I'm 18!

Though for you, I would argue it could be a phase. I mean, you might just get over your feelings about a gender in the later years. I did anyway. Girls mean almost nothing to me sexually now DX. As for coming out, if you have good friends and awesome relatives willing to support you if your parents don't then go for it!