My parents never live in the moment

[Drummer Ben]

My mom espicially. It drives me crazy. Whenever I'm at a rally an historical event, protests. On her mind is how she'll beat the traffic. She always has to be going going going. She can never just relax. She walks into a room and I feel poison. She never smiles. Shes always stressed and my mothers horrible to be around. Shes one of those people who latch onto you then control everything you do. I ask her why can't you just for once say screw it lay down and smell the roses. Feel the nature. She never just does something. It always has to fit into her scedule. I really hate people who are like that, people who strictly follow the scedule. Shes just impossible to be around because she always finds the negative in a situation. Oh its too hot, oh too noisy, oh its taking too long, oh this and oh that. I can never enjoy my life because she always has to stop me. Whenever i get relaxed she barges in to get my attention with nothing but complaining.

If i could sum up my moms personality its attention seeker (using the nicer word) worry wort, judgemental, insecure whitch.

Sorry if I'm coming across rude but my mom doesn't respect me at all. I give respect to the people who respect me.

[Living For Love]

I totally understand you. My advice is trying to stay out of trouble and not getting involved in arguments with your mother. I guess the issues you described are something that's connected with her personality, and you probably won't be able to change it, only counselling could do it, I guess. Try to be comprehensive, basically, live your own life and try not to interfere with hers.

[Drummer Ben]

Well its how she was treated when she was young. Her younger brother was treated better than her and she was the oldest. Now I'm the oldest so she treats my younger sister perfectly and me like crap because I'm the oldest. I have depressed thoughts because of her. Like my sister totally getting her license at 16 but i had to wait till now which is almost 18 and still don't have it. I think its best I move out when I turn 18. I have a friends place I can stay at.

[Living For Love]

Well its how she was treated when she was young. Her younger brother was treated better than her and she was the oldest. Now I'm the oldest so she treats my younger sister perfectly and me like crap because I'm the oldest. I have depressed thoughts because of her. Like my sister totally getting her license at 16 but i had to wait till now which is almost 18 and still don't have it. I think its best I move out when I turn 18. I have a friends place I can stay at.

Well, that makes sense. It's a common behaviour, that parents will apply the same type of education on their children that they were applied when they were younger. If you think it's best to move out when you turn 18, then that's what you should do. Having a driver's license would help tremendously, you shouldn't give up on getting yours.

[Drummer Ben]

Oh I'm working on it. Should have it right after I turn 18. I really can't take my moms negativity on life anymore. She makes me depressed everyday from being around her. From the things she says about me to me and the things she does. I can't wait to move out when I do because here I'm treated with no respect and like a 7 year old.